Background: H and I received a wedding invite for his friend's wedding
(the groom). We received it 1 day prior to the RSVP date on the invite,
in April. My first reaction, we're B listed. Why else get an invite 1
day before the rsvp date? But the RSVP date was 4 months before the
actual wedding, which just took place this month! Invite shows their
wedding website for more info... Quote from the website "please don't
come early or stay too late, it's a public place" (a beach), and
"ladies, don't wear black, it's a celebration, not a funeral". My first
reaction (after the thoughts there is no way I'm going to this) is find
the best black dress I can!! My husband sees nothing wrong with any of
this yet. He's determined we are going. I play happy wife, buy a non
black dress, and book time off work.
Now our fault: we heard the
wedding was on Saturday, and a couple weeks before the wedding,
realized it was a Sunday afternoon/evening. Both my H and I worked
Monday morning, and the wedding was 6 hours away. We had to pull out
unexpectedly, and let the wedding couple know right away.
Hung
out with friends after the wedding, and here's the best parts... the
wedding couple invited another couple immediately after we turned down
our invite (giving them less than 2 weeks notice), to take our place,
and told that couple that. Then the day of the wedding, our friends got
there and the groom asked why they were there? Really, it's your
wedding! Groom says "Oops, you got the wrong invite, you are supposed
to be at the ceremony that starts an hour later". The first and real
ceremony was just for family, and due to a park permit (an open outdoor
beach), they couldn't allow all guests to be in one spot at the same
time. So they scheduled a second ceremony for friends. Apparently the
second ceremony was a joke, everyone knew by then it was fake. And no seats for anyone at the ceremony. The
reception venue accompanied all guests, and had unlimited free wine, but
the rest was cash bar.
The maddening thing, my husband doesn't
get why any of this is very rude and disrespectful! I'm just happy we
goofed on the date, and couldn't make it afterall!!! But did I ever
want to wear a black dress!!
