planning classes...

lilbreeezy

In October of 2014 i will be getting married,... I am not sure if i want to take that semester off of school and just push back my graduation date to may of 2015. I have 7 classes left to take after this semester and was planning on taking four in the spring and then 3 over the summer to finish up my degree. anyone have any thoughts or suggestions on that? is it a good idea?

bethsmiles

I agree with @elBecko - my degree comes before a wedding and I wouldn't take an entire semester off just because I was planning a wedding. If you are worried about being stressed out think about taking a few extra classes one semester so you can have a lighter load the semester you get married.

I'm also confused on the timing though...it sounds like you will be done before your wedding in October.

CLoGreenEyes

I agree with other posters. Take a courseload that will allow you to graduate as you originally planned. You will just need to be organized and allocate time for both studying and wedding planning, but that sounds entirely do-able. It does not make sense to postpone a whole part of your life just for one big party.

lilbreeezy

i am having a destination wedding so idk how its do-able to be 2 places at once. also my engagement is already 2 1/2 years long which is long enough for my FI and I. yes, my wedding day may only be 1 day but isnt that the point? dont you wait all your life for this 1 day? I know school is important but i think i would fall behind in school between the wedding planning, the honeymoon, and getting settled into our new home plus working a full time job

catrb89

I understand the conflict you probably feel. I got engaged last August, and our wedding is for September 2014 so I can finish my Master's in May 2014. Always put your degree first. It's the best for you and for your stress level. 

bethsmiles

I definitely have not been waiting my whole life for my wedding day. Is it a big day? Yes. An important day? Of course. But there are a lot of other really important things to me in life - like finishing the degree I've been working my ass off to get.

But it's your life. You will choose to prioritize things the way you want. That's what this will come down to. You could get the majority of your planning during breaks and delay your honeymoon. If you choose to put school first, choose to make it work then you can. If you don't want to put it at the top of your priority list then you should probably just take the semester off.

If you are fine with pushing your graduation date back for one day, then go ahead. It's not the choice I would make though.

CLoGreenEyes

Another vote for putting the degree ahead of your wedding. Just finish it up, you sound like you're pretty close! Then enjoy opening up the next phase of your life by enjoying your wedding homework-free.

What will your degree be in? Any grad school or awesome jobs you are looking into for after graduation?

doeydo

Take some courses during the Summer.  Don't put off your schooling so you can get married.

kerbohl

Another vote for school first.  One of the reasons I'm having a winter wedding is because I put schooling first and I couldn't see myself planning a wedding for summer when I finished school in June. 

ninabarkley1014

School First! I am currently doing full time at grad school, full time job and im getting married in October of this year (crazyness) but it can be done!

ShellLillian

Put your school first. I would rather bump the wedding than graduation if I had to.
I'm lucky in that the semester I get married in will be my last semester but it will only be 9 credit hours (vs. 16 this semester).

But seriously, ask for help planning and stay organized and you should be fine.

sydwil23

Don't know if you're a believer, but if you are, God will make a way for you to plan the wedding and go to classes. My fiance and I debated on our wedding date for a month about this same problem, we have decided to get married a semester before I graduate (I'll be student teaching, so I have the ability to move to his city while he finishes his UG and MBA)

We are two months out from our Wedding, and I can say I'm stressed, but wouldn't trade it for anything.

You'll learn how to manage it all. But just DO NOT put off your education, I'm sure you can do both at the same time. If you're worried about money, it will work itself out as well. If you feel moved to marry this man quicker than you'll graduate, do it. Don't wait on love, nor your degree. You can have both

SereneTiger

I'd finish your degree first and then the wedding. It sounds like you have some time after you graduate to continue planning and make last minute details.  

Also, I don't think it matters when you plan a wedding because it is always going to be stressful regardless if you are in school or not so taking a semester off is not really going to benefit you in the long run. 

How does your FI feel about this? 

lovesclimbing

I would not put my wedding ahead of my degree.  I got married in December 2012, four days after the end of the first semester of my junior year.  Lots of people asked me if I was going to take a semester off or drop out and I was like, no way!  I put in a lot of work to get that far and nothing was going to stop me from finishing in four years.

I would try to plan your wedding for between semesters or during the summer or even spring break.

Also, it is possible to plan the wedding without falling behind.  I had a 3.6 GPA the semester before the wedding.  I relied on my mom a lot to help with planning.