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momof209112momof209112 member
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Should I include cousins on the guest list? I wasn't invite to 2 of mine(eloped) and the other 1 was labor day weekend and I didn't get invited til the week of or week before. Just wanted thoughts and opinions.

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  • misssunshine17misssunshine17 member
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    Weddings aren't tit for tat. If you want them there to celebrate with you, then by all means invite them and don't hold it against them about their weddings. If you never speak and have no relationship, don't invite them. 
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  • GlassButtonGlassButton member
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    momof209112 said:

    Should I include cousins on the guest list? I wasn't invite to 2 of mine(eloped) and the other 1 was labor day weekend and I didn't get invited til the week of or week before. Just wanted thoughts and opinions.

    An easy answer to that is, would you pay $200 for a dinner with that person any other night?

    You don't have to invite someone because they're related to you, but you also don't not-invite someone because they didn't invite you. Invite them if you wish for them to be there with you celebrating.
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  • Grabows14Grabows14 member
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    Agree with pp. Invite them if you want them there, not because they invited you to their wedding (or vice versa)
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  • phiraphira member
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    Whether or not you were invited to their weddings isn't a good way to determine if you should invite them to yours. You know how you have a budget and your venue will have a limit on the number of guests? The same goes for any other wedding.

    That said, if you don't have a good relationship with your cousins, and it wouldn't cause a ton of family drama to not invite them, then don't. But, "They didn't invite me" is just as bad a reason to NOT invite someone as, "They invited me" is TO invite someone.
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    Only invite people that you really want to invite-not because they invited you or you feel like you owe them an invitation for any reason other than that you really want them.  That includes cousins.
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  • Blue_BirdBlue_Bird member
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    momof209112 said:

    Should I include cousins on the guest list? I wasn't invite to 2 of mine(eloped) and the other 1 was labor day weekend and I didn't get invited til the week of or week before. Just wanted thoughts and opinions.

    What others did for their weddings is really irrelevant. All that matters is whether you are close to them, want them there, and can afford to host them.
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  • APDSS22APDSS22 member
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    *Unless your parents or someone else is paying and wants them there.  Those who pay, get a say.
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  • momof209112momof209112 member
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    I dont plan on basing it on that i wasn't invited or invited to their wedding i just dont want them to be like she didn't come to ours why should we go to hers. thanks for the advice i really appreciate it.

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