Alright, this is more vent than wanting advice.
So, FI and I are having a small-ish wedding (~100 people). My family is very large and very close knit. FI's family is smaller and spread across the country; most of his closest relatives are his parent's cousins that he hasn't seen since he was a kid. We tried to keep our sides close in numbers when inviting, so we only went out to my first degree relatives, and to his second degree relatives that he's seen or talked to in the past 10 years.
Invites went out a few weeks ago (which, MOH had her's lost in the mail - is this freakin' common? because this freaks me out for a whole different set of reasons). Now, FI's mother's cousin and his wife (invited) have been blowing up FI's FB page with wedding talk. FI and I have been pretty diligent to keep anything wedding planning related off FB, but we have given this couple a pass because they are older and might not exactly get the newer social norms (example: they RSVP'd with a wall post. wtf.). Today was my tipping point. They posted on a picture of mine, "Cant wait to meet dbanana and see you again. Did you guys have Jan and Jim's address to send an invitation?"
My FI's first thought, "who the eff are Jan and Jim?!" After calling FMIL, we find out that Jan and Jim are FI's deceased grandfather's (who he did not have a relationship with) sister. Regardless, FI has never met them!
Turns out, this is not uncommon in his family! This is the second time we have heard of invited relatives taking the initiative to pass on wedding details to non-invited relatives that are further out on the family tree. It's one thing for someone to ask us, we are prepared to say that the ceremony is small/space issues/cost constraints make it so we could not invite everyone ever. But we don't even know the people getting invited! I'm at a loss.
TL;DNR: invitees are inviting additional guests to our wedding.
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