Hello!
So our parents decided to throw my fiance and I a surprise engagement party since we were going to have about a 2 year engagement before the wedding. I had absolutely no idea they we're planning it, but now I'm running into a delimma. We're planning a really small wedding and planning to invite 50 people or less (immediate family and closest friends), but they invited over 75 to the engagement party to include some of their friends and cousins we aren't close to. I know it's proper to invite anyone invited to pre-wedding festivities to the wedding, but we really wanted to trim it down to only the people we are closest to, and I thought since I didn't plan the engagement party and had no say in the guest list maybe this wouldn't be completely against etiquette.
Is it completely rude of me to not invite them to the wedding? Or should I just suck it up and extend our guest list to avoid being rude?
Our parents are all divorced a remarried so we're accomodating 8 families which really starts to add up.
Thanks for any help!