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Wedding Woes

stressful final month before wedding

So our wedding is on Oct. 6th and we have been saving for it and planning for over 2.5 years. Its surreal that its almost here and I'm beginning to be an emotional wreck anytime I'm alone or when I think about the big day etc. My FI and I have been together for nearly 4 years. Its always been like we are absolutely perfectly made for one another.

In the last few months, our lives in general have got more stressful. His grandmother (who raised him) passed away suddenly. I started working more hectic hours at my job, and he started taking thesis classes at school to graduate. We also moved into a house and got a puppy. All of these life changes in a short period of time really added stress onto our shoulders.

On top of it all, our wedding is now just a month away. We have started bickering and arguing, which we never used to do. We might have had the occassional normal argument before, but now we disagree and argue on a fairly normal basis. I've been trying to brush it off and blame it on the added stress and pre wedding jitters. I can't imagine that we would go from so perfect for eachother, to so angry all the time.

I'm wondering if anyone else experienced worsened communication in the months leading up to their wedding? If so, what was the end result?

Re: stressful final month before wedding

  • Not "anyone else" but "EVERYONE else".  Weddings become stressful, even in the best of circumstances.  I think that is why the parents of the couple should make the wedding rather than the couple themselves.  But, if you are the one who is dealing with the stress of the whole thing, including all the stuff that goes wrong at the last minute, you are going to have to take a step back and a deep breath.  A wedding is not a marriage in the same way an engagement ring is not the man who gave it to you.  It is a party where people will or will not have a good time, but it follows a ceremony where two people in love commit to each other.  The rest is just fluff, so try to enjoy being a bride. 
  • Try to take some time for each of you to have some me time to relax & unwind. Also make sure that you make some us time and try not to talk wedding details. Just a normal night out (or in). That may help reduce the stree
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