So, I thought was the last thing I was worried about. I don't typically eat sweets or bake, not my thing, so I wasn't into spending $500+ on a cake. A friend of mine bakes cakes on the side so I thought I'd have her do it. She said she could give me a better deal and I was sold. But, she's very flaky and it took months before we finally settled on a day to do the tasting.. then, she ended up just dropping stuff off at my house 2 days later because she couldn't make time for me. In addition.. if we are being honest, the cake sucked. I was really surprised because she does it pretty often. We did like two of the flavors and those were the ones I then continued to discuss with her for final choices. However, she's MIA again and I have no idea what she needs from me, no idea of a cost based on our plan, and she's not great at responding to my questions or keeping in touch lately.
MEANWHILE, last weekend, I had my bridal shower and the cupcakes my mom bought were amazing. I didn't even know cake could be like that. I was floored. Like I said, I'm not a sweets person so I'm usually just like, "Meh." But, we were all dying over the freakin' things. They were gorgeous and delicious and everyone joked I should have the same ones at the wedding. I kind of would rather it not be a joke; I'd love to do it.
I already know. It's totally and completely rude of me to back out on her at the last minute and I 100% own up to the fact that I was a fool for not considering or trying other options before I let her in.
SO. Is there a tactful way to do so? FI said to just blame him, tell her he wants these other cupcakes. He's also frustrated that she's not telling us anything or getting back to us and he's afraid she is still going to charge us a lot and then it'll be too late. He said maybe just offer her money for the work she did for the tasting and say no thanks. In addition, my FMIL is paying and I don't want to waste her money on some home-baked half-assed treats. I FEEL BAD, though. Is that my sign? Am I stuck in my decision?