Wedding nightmares- already

LKinBroadway

Hi everyone. I quietly opened my theknot.com account about 6 weeks ago when I got engaged- great story, just don't have the energy to share right now.

So stressed, about so many things- we moved, from MA to NC this year. I had a huge blow out with my best friend of ten years a while back, and have felt miserable ever since. Also feel like most of our mutual friends just forgot about me since I moved (very short story shared in one sentence... basically feel like I lost my entire circle of friends out of convenience...). I walk around pretending this doesn't bother me.

My family is nice. But weird. Never get excited about anything. They actually make me really uncomfortable, which is something I have just started admitting. In funny ways- people think I am joking.

We are going to get married in MA. I need to go up to find a venue, all my vendors are going to be 800 miles away... just stressed out. And who knows if our friends in NC will be able to make that trip... I just feel like no one really cares or will show up. And I had a dream last night, that we didn't plan anything, til the week of, I was walking down some shady railroad tracks, picking up horseshoes. I want to elope. It isn't an option, my fiance wants a big wedding. I just want to be married. I also have severe social anxiety, which no one really knows, because I hide it really well. Can I fast forward a year?

Anyone else not excited? I need some oomph to help change my attitude. I need to change my attitude. I feel stranded. No one knows. I don't know how to tell them.

KeptInStitches

Congratulations on your engagement!

Could you have a small wedding, maybe compromise with your FI? A small wedding might help your anxiety.

Your family won't change the way they act just because you got engaged. I know you know this already, but it's good to keep remembering it.

Have you been able to get in touch with your friend?

You have an awful lot on your plate right now. I feel so bad for you. 

ktbee21

I know how you feel, I too am planning a wedding in my hometown, hundreds of miles away from it, and already delayed the wedding by 2 years so I didnt have to squeeze multiple trips in a year, plus I wanted to have time to actually ENJOY planning, as every bride should.

Dont feel pressure to have 6 bridesmaides and picture perfect wedding. Maybe the 2 of you can have a destination wedding, or plan it in another part of town so you deal with less family members?

I would just enjoy this time and get inspired! Look at pictures, themes, colors, and get yourself some bridal magazine subscriptions-thats what got ME excited and out of a rut.

Maybe you will be able to reach out to your best friend to see if she can be your MOH, or maybe youll find some girls in your new hometown you can start bonding with and eventually trust? I would join meetups.com and go out and make friends-you can do it!

peaches5161

Do you absolutely have to have your wedding in MA? It would take a lot of stress away if you could get married in NC instead. I agree with the above suggestions - maybe a small wedding with family members only? In the end, it's YOUR big day, whether you choose to have huge ceremony or an elopement. 

Try e-mailing your friends. I've moved around a lot (both domestic and overseas), and I know it's hard to keep in touch. I made it my goal to get in touch with a different friend each day, whether it was via text, phone call, chat, or e-mail. It takes work, but it's worth it! As for your best friend, sounds like it's time to hash it out and make up!