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Another RL Example of Why People Shouldn't Pre-Plan

BF and I are going camping with one of his good friends this weekend. She has been dating a guy for awhile now (since a little before last Christmas). He is the first of her boyfriends everyone thought was really good for her (the past bfs have been losers). But since the start of the summer she has been talking wedding/marriage pretty much non-stop. She has been in serious pre-planning mode for months now. The guy's divorce isn't even finalized yet. I don't remember if I posted it here but she asked for money for their "wedding" next summer on facebook!

Well today BF called her to talk about logistics for planning and finds up they are no longer together. Basically it comes down to the pre-planing being way too much for him. Honestly, from knowing her and everything she has talked about with her relationship and her thoughts on relationships in general I think he may have mentioned marriage at some point and she just ran crazy with it. It's really unfortunate it turned out this way but seriously crazy pre-planing people need to be stopped!


Re: Another RL Example of Why People Shouldn't Pre-Plan

  • Preach!

    That's so unfortunate.
  • Ouch, that really sucks. :(  Any chance of reconciliation?  I got scared the first time my BF caught a glimpse of my Pinterest imaginary wedding board. I told him to ignore it because I'm just looking at pretty things. Fortunately, he also saw my "dream closet," "dream house," and "dream travels," and quickly understood that I really did just like the frou frou and sparkles and I wasn't planning for reality. Phew.
  • I do feel bad for her. She tends to do this in all of her relationships (though this is the first that went to a super crazy pre-planing wedding place) so I really think it would be beneficial for her to step back and figure out why she feels the need to get married rightthissecond. She's only 24 for FFS.


  • Aw man, that's too bad. I hope she'll eventually see that it's ok to take her time and there isn't a set timeline for these things.
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    That is a major bummer. I totally get being excited that you have found a wonderful relationship, but the pre-planning takes it way too far. I just hope her BF gave her a reasonable shot at fixing that behavior; sometimes it's hard to even realize what you're doing, though it sounds like this is just the way she is.
  • What a bummer. Though she still has time to turn things around, if she can do some serious soul-searching about what drove her straight through BSC-land into WTF-ville.
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  • What a bummer. Though she still has time to turn things around, if she can do some serious soul-searching about what drove her straight through BSC-land into WTF-ville.

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  • Wow :( I can understand getting caught up in the fantasy, but it sounds like she went way overboard. I hope she can calm down and they can work things out, especially if they were good together!
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