Do I bother saying anything?

golden1215

We are going to a wedding in another state. DH is in the wedding party and just let me know that I am not invited to the rehearsal dinner. So, now I have to take off extra time from my job to get to the wedding location on time and get to our hotel, vs just going to the site like I had assumed.

Do I ask if I can come? I really don't feel like sitting solo by myself all night while they all go out to dinner... this is the couple who also "forgot" to even put my name on our invitation (despite DH and I having been together for 8 years) so I we called to double check that I was even invited.  So I cant tell if they are just etiquette morons or are snubbing me on purpose... (there is a history of BS, the bride started an arguement with my MOH at my own wedding, totally middle school style craziness).

Grabows14

Wow that is rude of them to not invite you to the RD and on the invite. Yea I would ask if you could come! Why stay in the hotel? Are on good terms with the bride and groom? 

aurianna

I think it's really crappy for them to invite your husband and not you to the dinner.
Unless they've got something really special going on, your husband doesn't NEED to go to the rehearsal. Weddings don't tend to be complicated.
He could tell them that he's going to spend the evening with you instead but he can't wait to see them the next day right before the wedding (where he'll be sure to find out if there are any special things he missed at rehearsal).
Maybe they'll realize their mistake and invite you. Maybe they won't; but you won't be sitting in a hotel room by yourself in either case.
Now...if your husband wouldn't go for that and would rather leave you alone while he ate... That's between you two.

aurianna

DP

cruffino

Yeah, I wouldn't be going if my FI wasn't invited. These people suck.

Bubbles2014

I'd ask if you could come. They are rude for not inviting you. If you can't go then I don't think your DH should be going without you (but that's not my call)

NYCMercedes

I'd ask my husband to forego the rehearsal altogether. He can tell them he knows the routine and he isn't comfortable attending the dinner stag.

HisGirlFriday13

Ditto PPs. I know FI would ask if I could attend with him, and if not, he'd straight-up say, "I'm sorry, I'm not comfortable attending an event where HisGirl isn't welcome."

Of course, my FI would have declined the invite the second it came without my name on it, too. Because that's some serious BS.

phira

"I'm sorry, but there seems to be some mistake. [golden1215] wasn't on the invitation for the rehearsal dinner."