So, I have a dilemma, but first, here's a little background: I come from a family as a middle child. Both my brother and sister are severely ADHD and bipolar respectively. My brother is now in the hospital (he has been for almost a year after a car accident), and my sister has a 4 year old son (who is going to be the ringbearer).
I asked my sister to be a bridesmaid, only to find that she plans on getting pregnant in February, which means she'll be 7 months pregnant at my wedding. My brother is likely going to be out of the hospital shortly before then (assuming his care goes to plan).
I am very worried that having both of them at my wedding is going to turn the wedding into a family reunion rather than my special day. I fear that everyone will focus on my sister's joy and my brother's health rather then celebrating my wedding.
Because of this, I'm not sure if I want them to be in the wedding party drawing even more attention.
Does anyone have thoughts on how I can soothe my worries or remedy the situation? I want my wedding to be my one day, especially since I have a milder personality and don't command attention when we do get together with family. All I'm asking is for one day for me and that I won't have a terrible time because my siblings are stealing my spotlight.