Lost 2 daughters

iloveu4ever

I recently lost 2 infants what can I do to honor them and remember them.

OliveOilsMom

iloveu4ever said:

I recently lost 2 infants what can I do to honor them and remember them.

I just answered you in the other thread.  I think a floral arrangement would be nice.  Just don't have a card or sign stating what the flowers are representing.  As long as you & FI know what the flowers are for - that's all that matters.

Also, do you have any clothing, blankets, a picture or other items that you could sew into the underside of your dress?  That is also a nice way to keep them close and remember them at your wedding.

Jen4948

iloveu4ever said:

I recently lost 2 infants what can I do to honor them and remember them.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

That said, any mention of death, especially of 2 infants, is going to come across as highly morbid and grief-evoking on what should be a happy occasion.  So, I think that if you do anything to "honor" them, I'd do it in private.

mstallae

I like the idea of sewing a small piece of a blanket or outfit of theirs inside your dress. It keeps it close to you but its private and it doesn't turn the joyful focus of your wedding  into a sad day. 

Very sorry for your loss. 

Simply Fated

Jen4948 said:

iloveu4ever said:

I recently lost 2 infants what can I do to honor them and remember them.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

That said, any mention of death, especially of 2 infants, is going to come across as highly morbid and grief-evoking on what should be a happy occasion.  So, I think that if you do anything to "honor" them, I'd do it in private.

Yup. I would at least keep it subtle.

I totally get that it's your children, but keep a happy occasion happy, for your own good. You don't want your wedding to turn into a somber makeshift memorial service.

ElcaB

I'm so sorry for your loss. 

As PPs suggested, it might be nice to include something of theirs in your bouquet or attire. Also, if you'd like, you can say a special prayer or have a moment of silence before the wedding either by yourself or with FI. 

melbelleup

OliveOilsMom said:

iloveu4ever said:

I recently lost 2 infants what can I do to honor them and remember them.

I just answered you in the other thread.  I think a floral arrangement would be nice.  Just don't have a card or sign stating what the flowers are representing.  As long as you & FI know what the flowers are for - that's all that matters.

Also, do you have any clothing, blankets, a picture or other items that you could sew into the underside of your dress?  That is also a nice way to keep them close and remember them at your wedding.

I love this idea. They will still be with you in spirit. You could also wear a locket necklace with their pictures or a bracelet.

SunriseAmber

I'm sorry for your loss.

I have found a charm that holds pictures that you can incorporate into your boutique. I lost my 9 year old sister in 2009 and i am looking at it as she is walking down the aisle with me.