RSVP really?!

marsm4

So my cousin who I invited as a single RSVP'd for 3! She's the second guest to RSVP for more. Really people? How do I discuss this with her tactfully?

amjcwedding

What did your RSVP say? 

marsm4

It was address to her only. No plus one or guest.

amjcwedding

Sheesh, people are crazy. I am putting on my RSVP : X seats have been reserved in your honor.  I would just say, " Thank your for RSVP. We are really looking forward to you sharing this special day with us but, unfortunately due to limited seating/spacing at the venue we will not be able to accommodate any additional guests". 

marsm4

@amjewedding I wish I had worded it your way.  I expected too much from people I suppose. I like your response. 

These cousins tripping.  I had another cousin call and ask if I invited another cousin and requested that I send her an invite!

 

tirathemrs

marsm4amjcwedding my invites are going to say the same thing i have X amount of seats reserved in your honor IE: YOU ONLY GET TO BRING 1 OTHER PERSON WITH YOU NOT 2 OR 12 OTHER CUZINS THAT YOU FEEL NEED TO BE THERE lol

marsm4

@misstira, yes you did and it has begun...

LeciaB

im sorry @marsm4 that people are acting all dumb.. I did mine the exact wat @amjcweddign said and  it has been smooth sailing so far except for the error on my part.. not to thread jack.. but there was one person that orignially had an invite for two guest.. but I had to cut his guest so I changed the lables on the front and inner envelope but didnt switch out the RSVP card.. so when I broke up the card I got a cute little suprise.. an extra person ..lol but its cool that was my fault

MissusD1116

@marsm4 Guh! After all the RSVP stories I read on this board alone, I made fo sho I put "x number of seats reserved"  Ain't nobody got time fa DAT!

OpenHeart0117

I really hate that people treat a wedding like a ticket to a show ! LOL

I am SO glad I decided to put the X seats reserved in your honor on my RSVP cards. We have had 88 people RSVP yes so far & not one person as tried to change the number or add more people !

I did have a relative call me & ask if she could bring her brother IF I get enough declines. I know him ( he is not my relative but she is) but would not have invited him to our wedding. I agreed to let her know after the RSVP date.

marsm4

Shoulda, Coulda, Woulda....

I got two more RSVP's yesterday and made FI open them because I felt anxiety even thinking about more people adding extra folks :-(

[Deleted User]

moni I was a wedding planner for one of my girlfriends.  one of my jobs (my favorite actually lol) was to call *those* guests, the write ins and say:  the bride and groom received your rsvp.  just to clarify, the invitation refers to the addressee only. Will you be attending as a single guest or sending your regrets?  <--- and I mean keep the shyt that short

girrrrrrrrrrrrl!!!  call me a sick bastard but I cannot tell you hard it was not to break my spleen giggling at these responses.  Every single one of em went from polite to South side of Chicago.  I got *crickets* I got well then tell the bride I'm not coming! and she damn sure ain't getting no giftI  (yeah because she can't WAIT to spend $250 on you and somebody she don't even know to get an effing $30 food processor).  I got if so and so don't come, I don't come!  {{waves}} mkaynowbuhbye. 

this is too close (and emotional) a job for the bride to do personally - if you have a girlfriend who's slow to argue and slow to temper, give her the list of your insurgents and tell her to tell them this is not a dayum family reunion (tm dougie/minus5).

marsm4

sultryzulu , OMG!  I love it.  I may need to hire YOU to make these calls. LBVS!!

thedivav

sultryzulu can you holla at mista about his 130 guest list? lol 

thanks lol 

OpenHeart0117

@sultryzulu

That idea is brilliant. Takes the pressure off the bride & groom & puts it right back at the rude guests LOL !

[Deleted User]

lolz @ ch'all.  i'm just a pm away loves.  AND you can pay me in cake.  lol.

M1ssJ

Lol!!!! @SULTRYZULU

tirathemrs

sultryzulu in cake is the best way to pay somebody lol... id order you a whole sheet cake to yourself lol whatchu need buttercream or creamcheese icing???

[Deleted User]

@ tira.  BOTH!   you brides and your stinkin diets.  not *lite* icing.  EXTRA icing.   lol!  and since (in my head) creamcheese only belongs on a carrotcake, i'll take wunna those on the side.   oooh @ vee I almost forgot about groomzilla's ignant-long list - ask him to name the spouses of the guests on his side.   thing is (again, in this here girl's head) if you don't know their husband/wife's first name, it's not that damn deep.  you gotta get him to agree to the rules of your little game before you begin.   our goal?  he can't name 1/2 of 15 couples.  GEAUX!  please report back with results.

LeciaB

@sultryzulu ill pay you in cake too if you can get the MR. to stop adding people...

[Deleted User]

LeciaB said:

@sultryzulu ill pay you in cake too if you can get the MR. to stop adding people...

you can do this in a way he finds relatable.  put on his throwback jersey, a football helmet and your nicest pair o' drawers.  now that you have his attention take your white board + your magic erase markers and map out the plays: 

1.  10 couples = 20 guests
2.  20 guests = 2500 EXTRA, UNBUDGETED dollars
3.  write these words on the board:  we would love to have you but unfortunately the guest list is is closed. blow your whistle and have him say it. 
4.  now start clapping and say okay team good talk!

I dunno if your guest list will get any shorter but something fun will come out of this meeting. lol!

marsm4

@sultryzulu, THAT'S HILARIOUS!

MissusD1116

sultryzulu said:

you can do this in a way he finds relatable.  put on his throwback jersey, a football helmet and your nicest pair o' drawers.  now that you have his attention take your white board + your magic erase markers and map out the plays: 

1.  10 couples = 20 guests
2.  20 guests = 2500 EXTRA, UNBUDGETED dollars
3.  write these words on the board:  we would love to have you but unfortunately the guest list is is closed. blow your whistle and have him say it. 
4.  now start clapping and say okay team good talk!

I dunno if your guest list will get any shorter but something fun will come out of this meeting. lol!

*slaps forehead*  Now why didn't I think of that! LOL!

marsm4

@sultryzulu, THAT'S HILARIOUS!

LeciaB

sultryzulu said:

LeciaB said:

@sultryzulu ill pay you in cake too if you can get the MR. to stop adding people...

you can do this in a way he finds relatable.  put on his throwback jersey, a football helmet and your nicest pair o' drawers.  now that you have his attention take your white board + your magic erase markers and map out the plays: 

1.  10 couples = 20 guests
2.  20 guests = 2500 EXTRA, UNBUDGETED dollars
3.  write these words on the board:  we would love to have you but unfortunately the guest list is is closed. blow your whistle and have him say it. 
4.  now start clapping and say okay team good talk!

I dunno if your guest list will get any shorter but something fun will come out of this meeting. lol!

i need to keep you around all the time

tirathemrs

That damn @sultryzulu lol....

[Deleted User]

stay giggling @  ya'll!  lol.   

well?  anybody try it?  I need a halftime report.  LOL!!!

cidefi

sultryzulu said:

moni I was a wedding planner for one of my girlfriends.  one of my jobs (my favorite actually lol) was to call *those* guests, the write ins and say:  the bride and groom received your rsvp.  just to clarify, the invitation refers to the addressee only. Will you be attending as a single guest or sending your regrets?  <--- and I mean keep the shyt that short

girrrrrrrrrrrrl!!!  call me a sick bastard but I cannot tell you hard it was not to break my spleen giggling at these responses.  Every single one of em went from polite to South side of Chicago.  I got *crickets* I got well then tell the bride I'm not coming! and she damn sure ain't getting no giftI  (yeah because she can't WAIT to spend $250 on you and somebody she don't even know to get an effing $30 food processor).  I got if so and so don't come, I don't come!  {{waves}} mkaynowbuhbye. 

this is too close (and emotional) a job for the bride to do personally - if you have a girlfriend who's slow to argue and slow to temper, give her the list of your insurgents and tell her to tell them this is not a dayum family reunion (tm dougie/minus5).

When that time comes for me, can I hire u to do that.

[Deleted User]

cidefi said:

moni I was a wedding planner for one of my girlfriends.  one of my jobs (my favorite actually lol) was to call *those* guests, the write ins and say:  the bride and groom received your rsvp.  just to clarify, the invitation refers to the addressee only. Will you be attending as a single guest or sending your regrets?  <--- and I mean keep the shyt that short

girrrrrrrrrrrrl!!!  call me a sick bastard but I cannot tell you hard it was not to break my spleen giggling at these responses.  Every single one of em went from polite to South side of Chicago.  I got *crickets* I got well then tell the bride I'm not coming! and she damn sure ain't getting no giftI  (yeah because she can't WAIT to spend $250 on you and somebody she don't even know to get an effing $30 food processor).  I got if so and so don't come, I don't come!  {{waves}} mkaynowbuhbye. 

this is too close (and emotional) a job for the bride to do personally - if you have a girlfriend who's slow to argue and slow to temper, give her the list of your insurgents and tell her to tell them this is not a dayum family reunion (tm dougie/minus5).

When that time comes for me, can I hire u to do that.

That depends.  I get paid in cake.  Watcha workin with?

cidefi

LoL...yes I got cake!! Tell me what u like and I'll get u what u need.

[Deleted User]

normally I'd say save me a corner of the wedding confection but um, you're like 1.5 years out, I can't wait that long.  

anything from the cheesecake factory
anything from the Godiva store (yes, technically not cake, but who's checking)
anything from the Georgetown cupcake ladies - I think they might be called DC cupcakes, but thos girls. 

the only thing I really don't like is red velvet.  or (forgive me carib and african queens) but that brickass hard plastic frosting cake that everybody passes around at Christmastime.  fruit has no business in CAKE!! mkaythanks I feel better.