Inviting yourself to the wedding

Cranly

So, my mom has already told them without myprior warning or knowledge, so it's a moot point.   I'm still irritated about it though...

We sent out our invites. Got our responses back.  Turned in our numbers to the reception venue.  

Some quasi-acquaintances of my mom called her up the other day and said they hadn't received their invite.  So, she invited them to come.  

I don't know them. I don't care about them.  I don't even think she's that close with them (though she does know them.)

We're tight with numbers, so I'm rather upset that she added these people.  Fortunately, it's just 2 people.  But still - we're pretty much at the max our venue can hold.   

Grr!

Anyway - any advice on what COULD have been said to them when they called? (In case for some reason this happens again).  

thanks.

Maggie0829

Who is paying for the wedding?  If your parents are paying (or helping to pay) then they do get some say over who can and can't come.

As for what you could say.  Well, "I am sorry, but we just weren't able to invite everyone and we had to make some had decisions regarding our guest list."  And leave it at that.  Don't give excuses.

Some people in this world just have no shame.  I know that I would never in a million years call up someone and ask where my invite was.  Wow.

southernbelle0915

Cranly said:

So, my mom has already told them without myprior warning or knowledge, so it's a moot point.   I'm still irritated about it though...

We sent out our invites. Got our responses back.  Turned in our numbers to the reception venue.  

Some quasi-acquaintances of my mom called her up the other day and said they hadn't received their invite.  So, she invited them to come.  

I don't know them. I don't care about them.  I don't even think she's that close with them (though she does know them.)

We're tight with numbers, so I'm rather upset that she added these people.  Fortunately, it's just 2 people.  But still - we're pretty much at the max our venue can hold.   

Grr!

Anyway - any advice on what COULD have been said to them when they called? (In case for some reason this happens again).  

thanks.

Rude person: "hey, I know how important I am and, because of that, obviously I should have been invited to the wedding. So I'm calling to let you know my invite never came in the mail - I'll assume this was a mistake." (I honestly cannot imagine another way to say something so rude)

Your mom: "Oh, hello neighbor Tom. Unfortunately, we had to keep the wedding small. Cranly chose to have an intimate event. I will be sure to pass on your best wishes."

Rude person: "well, Cranly's mom, I love weddings and I expect it won't be a problem if I just come."

Your mom: "Actually because it's a small wedding, the venue cannot accommodate additional guests. Again, I'll be sure to pass on your congratulations. How is your mother? I heard she was in the hospital..."

Honestly, I would have your mom call them back and correct her mistake. She can't just invite people to your wedding without clearing it with you (unless she's paying for the reception). She can call them, apologize for the confusion and let them know that the venue can't accommodate anyone else and that she should have checked with you first. 

southernbelle0915

alisonmarie658 said:

At least they didn't post all over the internet sobbing about how upset they were about not being invited to your wedding...

LOL!! I immediately thought "oh boy here we go again..." when I saw the title of the thread. But it's the opposite.  Secretly (except not at all), I would enjoy a "Jashley II - The Saga Continues" thread.

Dreamergirl8812

alisonmarie658 said:

southernbelle0915 said:

alisonmarie658 said:

At least they didn't post all over the internet sobbing about how upset they were about not being invited to your wedding...

LOL!! I immediately thought "oh boy here we go again..." when I saw the title of the thread. But it's the opposite.  Secretly (except not at all), I would enjoy a "Jashley II - The Saga Continues" thread.

She's out there, lurking, somewhere on the internets...just not posting here bc of her IP ban.

Holy crap I dropped my sushi when I saw that pic. Creepy!

AprilH81

jashley is over on proboards.  Still asking "why"...

mdupon70997

One of my mom's cousins saw me in my place of work and informed me of how upset she was that she and her husband and grown kids weren't invited to our wedding after my mom explained to her that only parents, grandparents, siblings, and 4 friends would be in attendance (this was when were at our wit's end that we decided to have a very intimate wedding before we actually found our venue). I explained to her again about our super intimate wedding plan and she said if our plans changed she would definitely be expecting an invite. Our plans changed and she and her husband were both invited. They RSVP'd that they'd be attending. Guess what...they were no shows.