We are having our ceremony and reception at a hotel locally. I've begun doing my invitations etc and have come across some issues on what the "correct" way of writing them is! (I've attached a mock up) my FI first name is James but he only goes by Jim. Mind you, this isn't a super formal wedding. I want to just write his name as Jim Steven Doe instead of James Steven Doe. Is that ok? Also, his M+D's formal names are Steven and Janice but again they strictly go by Steve and Jan, can I also use those names? They don't care either way also. Any thoughts? Is this really a big deal to not use their proper names?
Also, I'm, like many, on a budget and trying to keep our wedding intimate and with only our close family and friends there. I've read a lot on how to properly write things for this too, and have come up with writing "We have reserved __ seats for you" on the response cards, so we can avoid any uninvited guests! I'm hoping that this will also apply to the people we are inviting who have children that aren't going to be invited! I thought about adding (adults only please) on the bottom as well to get this across, so I can avoid the uncomfortable call to tell someone they were only invited and not their 5 kids! I know some may find this rude or mean but again, we are on a budget and would prefer to not have a lot of extra guests.
Any advice on how to word this on the response card to convey the message? Thank you!