Invitations are so frustrating!!

soontobemrsbuccheri

We're 6 months out and we've started working on invitations.  I have contacted a friend of mine to design/print our invites and she's currently working on a design based off the information I gave her.  She'll have a few design proofs by the end of the week, so I'm excited about that.  Anyhow, the invites are super frustrating.  We're trying to decide on wording, when to send out the invites and when to set the RSVP by date.  

I told my FI that I was planning to send the invites out on Jan. 2nd with an RSVP date of 2/14 so it gives us a month to get all the #'s together...but he corrected me and said we'd only have 2 weeks after the RSVP date to have a final head count (the venue wants final #'s 2 weeks ahead).  So he said, send the invites out December 1st with the RSVP date as 2/1 so they have time to RSVP and it will give us a month to track down RSVP's and make sure our #'s are good.  I'm a little worried about sending them out on December 1st.  I feel that people will lose them in the shuffle of Christmas/New year and won't RSVP.  Of course, FI thinks I'm worrying over nothing.  I feel I have the right to worry.  

I'm looking for some advice as to when we should send out the invites and when we should have ALL Rsvp's in by. Our wedding is on March 15th and we need a final head count 10 days prior (March 5th).  Anyone have any tips? 

Thank you all in advance!!!!

njdoxie

You should send the invites out 6-8 weeks before your wedding, so if you're getting married in March, December is too early.  I also agree with you that they will get lost in the holiday shuffle.

Send them out in the middle of January with an RSVP date sometime during the last week in February.  Hopefully you won't have that many people who don't RSVP, and even if you do, it won't take weeks to call or e-mail them.  

SewInLoveWithDMB

We sent out our invitations on July 19th for an October 12th wedding. This was 2 months and 3 weeks.

I know this was really early, but we are now just under a month away and we have heard from everyone except for 4 guests and no one seemed to care they were out early. (Well, at least no one complained to me, but they wouldn't have anyway....)  

So, yes, we sent them out early, but heard back from our guests early as well. We did not put a due date on the rsvp card (just let people use their own common sense for that) and as mentioned, except for those 4 people, everyone got back to us early.

Our final head count is due 10 days before the event (so, October 2 for an October 12th wedding)

rakkaya87

My wedding a day after yours, and I am sending my invites out January 5th, with a RSVP date of February 21st.  My venue wants the final a week before, but I allowed myself some extra time to track people down and what not if needed

soontobemrsbuccheri

Thank you thank you thank you!!!!! I am going to send them on January 2nd, to give time for mail delivery to the Pacific Coast.  Only reason why I pick Jan 2nd is because my sister will be down for NYE and I will have her help me stuff envelopes, since I have a feeling FI won't want anything to do with it! LOL.