Save the Date

kahaywa

Why the bloody hell do I need to send people a piece of paper that basically tells them that I'm sending them another piece of paper? On top of that, the abbreviation makes it sound like we're discussing venereal diseases (STD's)!

icecreamS04

You don't need to send people a piece of paper...

It might be nice to send them, if not all of your guests are from in town... you send them because you want to tell people
1.) when your wedding is going to be
2.) that they are going to be invited, so they can make travel arrangements, book hotels, organise holidays/other activities accordingly.

 

itzMS

kahaywa said:

Why the bloody hell do I need to send people a piece of paper that basically tells them that I'm sending them another piece of paper? On top of that, the abbreviation makes it sound like we're discussing venereal diseases (STD's)!

You don't need to.

We chose to send them to share our engagement pictures and our wedding website address.

We both have large families all over the country, so it made sense for us.

Maggie0829

I don't really get the point of STDs unless you are having a DW or the majority of your guests are OOT.  If you have a few OOT guests then an email or phone call to catch up with them and let them know your wedding date will suffice.

amaryann210

We dud STD postcards for a total $15.  Over 70% of our guests are OOT, and for the reasons mentioned by a PP, we thought a heads up was appropriate.

southernbelle0915

kahaywa said:

Why the bloody hell do I need to send people a piece of paper that basically tells them that I'm sending them another piece of paper? On top of that, the abbreviation makes it sound like we're discussing venereal diseases (STD's)!

hahah this made me laugh... Often, when I'm reading a thread on STDs, I insert the reproductive health acronym in my head whenever I see "STD" and lol to myself. Try it  - it's amazing. Simple pleasures.....

WonderRed

You don't.  We didn't.  We got engaged.  We picked a date.  We called the people who matter most and told them as soon as possible because we were choosing to only have a 4 month engagement.  (I was actually texting with one friend and told her, oh by the way...  She responded by telling me that she refused to acknowledge my wedding date until she received proper notice sent on a $20 piece of fancy paper with professional pictures and custom stamps, because she's awesome like that.) Two weeks ago, eight weeks before the wedding, we sent invitations.  Not one single person has cared that they didn't get a formal STD.

doeydo

  You aren't required to send out STD's (and yes, that's exactly what I first thought when I saw the abbreviation on here) unless it is necessary (ie. lots of out of town guests, destination wedding, etc.)

FiancB

I always thought they were pretty redundant too. Most of our guests will be OOT (like coming from MN to OR). We told everyone immediately when we'd be getting married, and I set up a facebook event group to keep people updated and they could keep me updated on whether they're coming or not. I know I'm a lot more likely to jump onto facebook to post or send a message than I am to dig out a piece of paper for info. I will be sending invites a little sooner than normal and probably set up a website soon.

Part of me wants STDs more than anything to share a cute pic we took on the day he proposed. And they aren't very expensive if you just do the postcard thing. 

Meh. If I get to it, I'll get to it. If I don't, I don't.