Hosted Cocktail hour and Bar then go to cash??? help???wedding is in 2 weeks???

JoanE2012

mikencindy said:

• Never have a cash bar at a wedding! It is Tacky!!!
• We are having open bar for cocktail hour and because of cost will switch to beer and wine for the rest of the reception. Something to consider if possible:)
  

You should host what you can afford the entire evening.  Don't tease your guests during cocktail hour with an open bar and then take it away during the reception.

JoanE2012

MBasdakis said:

So the last thing to finalize with our venue, a hotel, is our bar. I know what you are thinking, I have been working on it for months and now that we are  2 weeks away this is what I have come up with, thoughts???? please!!!!

We will host cocktails, beer, wine, champs, and soda for all of cocktail hour. Once the reception opens we will host wine, champs and sodas for the entire reception. Hard spirits will be $12 and beer will be $6 - prices from the hotel - and the "spirits and beer" will go to a cash bar for the remainder of the reception, but the vino - 4 good selections- and champs, will be hosted the whole night. Is this tacky or problematic to convert to cash for the reception? We are hosting valet and making a very nice wedding for our guests, but simply cant afford the hotels price open bar or packages + 23% service charge +8.25% tax on top of it. 

Thoughts? 

This is something you should've thought of when you booked your venue.  Didn't you work out a budget before you started all your planning?  Or did you just book the venue and figure you would have your guests help you pay for your wedding?

Blue_Bird

MBasdakis said:

We are not having a DRY wedding, and it is an open bar for all wine and camps, for the entire night,  just asking how to accommodate guests who may prefer hard spirits past cocktail hour? Offer a cash option after cocktail hour or send them to the hotels bar where they can pay cash, since we can not host the "hard spirits" for the whole night.

That's not what you asked. You asked our thoughts on what you were planning on doing. Everyone told you it was a bad idea and that you should only host what you can afford. I don't understand why you asked if you really weren't interested in the responses.

crunchymamaof2

This is not a validation board. If you ask about a crappy idea, you're going to get honest answers. If you're not capable to handling the truth then you (general) should stay off message boards.

People aren't going to wither away if you don't serve hard alcohol. They can survive without it for one night. Seriously. Host beer and wine the entire night and don't think twice about it. You're not going to please everyone. As long as you host properly (in this particular area, providing plenty of non alcoholic drinks and optional alcohol for free) you've done your job. Stop worrying.

Dreamergirl8812

acove2006 said:

This is not a validation board. If you ask about a crappy idea, you're going to get honest answers. If you're not capable to handling the truth then you (general) should stay off message boards.

People aren't going to wither away if you don't serve hard alcohol. They can survive without it for one night. Seriously. Host beer and wine the entire night and don't think twice about it. You're not going to please everyone. As long as you host properly (in this particular area, providing plenty of non alcoholic drinks and optional alcohol for free) you've done your job. Stop worrying.

TK should totally have a Validation Board! It would be the alter ego of the Snarky Board.
It would be butterflies and kittens and never ending high fives.

Salsera29

@Knotporsha if only there was a sticky to answer this question...

misshart00

@Knotporsha if only there was a sticky to answer this question...

Unfortunately, KP hasn't logged in since 9/17. And I think it's been even longer for KJ. Did they get scared of the boards?

grumbledore

misshart00 said:

@Knotporsha if only there was a sticky to answer this question...

Unfortunately, KP hasn't logged in since 9/17. And I think it's been even longer for KJ. Did they get scared of the boards?

Wtf?  That's interesting.

grumbledore

I guess they really are counting on the secret mod squad...

cowgirl8238

I just have to say that when you ask this kind of question on an etiquette board you are going to get the same response.  As a host you should offer your guests the smae bar package throughout the entire night...It is rude to take away an option that was there ten minutes ago because the clock struck 6pm and the "Cocktail Hour" is over!  I am not trying to burst your bubble, but you should host what you can afford for the entire reception.