I will be married for the first (and only ) time at the age of 46. As an older bride paying for a lot of the expenses myself, I have no problem with throwing a lot of the traditions out the window and doing what feels appropriate and meaningful to me, but this one has me stumped. I'm not all that close to my father, and the idea of doing a daddy -daughter dance at our ages--he's almost 90 and recently is having more difficulty getting around and being balanced--seems awkward and pathetic. He also lives in another state and won't even come into town until a week or two before the wedding. My parents aren't involved in the planning or the activities, they seem pretty clueless about traditions,he might not even know about the dance or miss it if it's not done, they seem content to just show up and enjoy themselves. That's pretty much what I want to do too. I dread the dance for a number of reasons. Is there something else I could do instead to honor my father? Surely I'm not the only bride in this situation. I just don't know who to ask. It just dawned on me that I've never been to a wedding with a bride as old as I am. I am an athlete and am often told that I look much younger than my age (and I like to think that some brides half my age would love to have my figure), but...now and then I feel acutely aware that weddings are designed with 20 somethings in mind. Nothing wrong with that at all...I just feel out of place sometimes.