Me and my older sister are very close, it's always been her and me against the world. We have a bond that is so special and we have always been each other's everything. Growing up it was always of course we would be each other's maid of honor but I asked my best friend to be the MOH over my sister. It wasn't an easy decision! I love my BFF dearly and am very excited to have her as my MOH but a sister is one of the best gifts in this world. I know I sound crazy but here are my reasons - I was recently a bridesmaid in another of my close friend's wedding well not just a bridesmaid I was asked to be the acting MOH. I had to do everything that the MOH does & I spent over $1000 dollars on her wedding but didn't get the "glory" for it. I know my friend appreciated it and I lover her that's why I did it but it felt like a slap in the face. My sister lives three states away from me and doesn't have a lot of money and wouldn't be able to help as much as I know she wants to or as much as I need her to. She is also a bit of a procrastinator and there is a possibility that nothing would get done so that leaves me asking my BFF that is here to do everything. My sister won't be able to attend the bridal shower or the bachelorette party so that again leaves my BFF picking up the slack. I plan on doing a lot of DIY for the wedding due to my budget so I'm going to need a lot of help that unfortunately my sister will not be here to help with. Not to mention that my MOH has to be almost the acting groom too cause my fiancé does not want to be that involved with the wedding planning (it's just not his thing) so my MOH will be doing just about everything with me. I can't ask my BFF to do all of these things on top of the financial responsibilities and not ask her to be my MOH. I know how it feels and it's just not fair. I hurt my sister by doing this though and in return my heart is literately aching over it. I mentioned to my sister about having two MOHs but she was more offended. I'm really stuck between a rock and a hard place on this one. Did I do the right thing? I already feel like saying I give up because this is just one of the really hard situations/decisions I've had to face and I've just started planning. I know you cant make everyone happy but aren't I the bride suppose to be enjoying this process even just a little? Any advice would be much appreciated because right now I feel like the worse person in the world and I honestly care about people and their feelings and just want to do the right thing.