Random chit chat

Hummingbird125

Just figured I'd start this because I am kinda bored today and would love to chat with you ladies.

My BF's friend's wife just posted a photo of her baby girl on Instagram and I cannot believe how gorgeous this little 18-month old girl is. She is downright the prettiest baby I've ever seen and this photo of her sleeping is giving me serious baby fever. 

Stina51286

I don't go crazy over babies. At all. Does that make me broken?

Planning a honeymoon (we're just trying to places), isn't that fun. We're going to Upper MI and I know there are a lot of places to go, but it is still hard.

loves2shop4shoes

I confess that I bought Taking Charge of Your Fertility off of Amazon.  DH and I are not ready to start TTC yet, but I wanted to read up on this as much as I can.

I'm really worried that when I get off hormonal BC (my IUD), I'll have a bitch of a time with my cycles, thanks to my PCOS.

So I'm just reading and learning.

DH got seriously freaked out when it arrived though.  It was sort of funny.

bethsmiles

Aw...I love cute babies!

I'm sitting at work stressing out because my boss said she needs to talk to me today but I have no idea about what.

minskat30

@bethsmiles - I'm sure it is nothing, don't stress.

I'll admit that I have a little baby fever but nothing too intense.  My upstairs neighbor has twin girls who are about 4 months old and adorable.  One of my friends is about to give birth soon too so I'm trying to temper the fever through other people's babies....H and I aren't ready to be TTC yet (though my mother-in-law in India keeps asking us about it).

Hummingbird125

@Stina51286 - Nah, you're not broken. The baby fever happens extremely rarely for me, and only over very specific babies, since most babies just don't seem to like me. I think some women, even those who have always wanted kids, don't go crazy over any babies until their own.

@shoes - that's hilarious - BF talks big game about babies and acts like he'd be totally cool with having one now, even though we're not even engaged. I think it's because he KNOWS that I do not want this to happen, and because we're taking all necessary precautions. If, however, I ordered a book like that, I bet he'd totally freak out.

@beth - I'm sorry - that's stressful! I used to be vague like that when I was a manager and didn't even realize how stressful it could be for conscientious employees. It's probably nothing to be stressed about at all!

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Most of my friends are in the getting engaged and getting married stage and there are weddings literally every weekend. I'm just ready for ours to get here and maybe wait a couple years before TTC.

Today has sucked btw...my interview turned out not be an interview, it was more of a way for the recruiter to use my resume to make money so she can find me another job...that I'm probably not going to like after speaking with her this morning.

Then I placed a candidate last week and I was going to get a commission next month for it and now he backed out after signing his offer letter. I cried. I literally started crying because this job has been seriously awful since May and I'm about ready to just quit.

Blackbird230

I haven't had baby fever in forever. Work stress and everything else will do that!

I second the very bored today fever though. It's time to be Friday so BF will come up!

KeptInStitches

@bethsmiles, I hate those vague statements. It's like those people who leave voicemails saying "Call me."

It took me a long time to decide that I was willing to have kids. Really, I'm more afraid of ... breaking them than anything else. I'm worried that I'd be a bad mom, which probably already has me on the path to being a good mom because bad moms wouldn't worry about that, right?

@southernpeach89, I'm so sorry about your job. All I can offer is a shoulder and virtual booze.

bethsmiles

@loves2shop4shoes - That's so funny! I'm doing my thesis on midwives and ordered a bunch of books about childbirth off Amazon and for some reason my default address is BF's so he got like 6 books about giving birth in the mail. He was extremely confused.

@hummingbird125 - I hope it's nothing. There was a little dispute between myself and a co-worker last week and he blew it WAY out of proportion and stormed off. I'm really worried he went and complained to our boss and it's about that. But that was more than a week ago so I don't know why she'd wait till today (a day I'm not usually here) to talk to me about it.

loves2shop4shoes

bethsmiles said:

@loves2shop4shoes - That's so funny! I'm doing my thesis on midwives and ordered a bunch of books about childbirth off Amazon and for some reason my default address is BF's so he got like 6 books about giving birth in the mail. He was extremely confused.

LOL

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@KeptIn Stitches- Thank you. I'm having a glass of wine at work right now but virtual booze sounds great too.

minskat30

@southernpeach89 - Hang in there, some good karma is bound to come your way.  And I call total bull shit for the guy who didn't go through with his offer letter after he signed it.  Isn't there something you can do about that legally speaking?  Probably not worth the effort but its total crap.

@bethsmiles and @loves2shop4shoes - I am now going to ask my friend if I can borrow a bunch of her baby books and leave them out where H can see them....I'm evil that way. 

CLoGreenEyes

@hummingbird125, does the baby fever have anything to do with the fact that she was sleeping? LOL, I love it when they are resting or playing quietly or even being giggly, but if they are being brats in the grocery store...Uh-uh. Obvs I have to develop some stamina and patience before I become a parent, but I do hope to be someday.

@bethsmiles, your boss probably has something she wants you to do, that's what all of my meetings turn out to be. Haha, don't let it get to you, I'm sure it's nothing. Also, your book story is very entertaining.

@southernpeach89, I'm sorry work sucks but glad you have access to wine at work! That's got to take the edge off!

I'm just stressin'. School is a circus. I am sooooooo broke. And getting sick. And getting concerned about my and BF's relationship. We had a talk about our timeline the other day, and it's just looking more and more unpredictable. You all know he is his grandfather's caregiver, and while our goal is to buy a house when I graduate, he's just not sure how things are going to be and if he'll even be able to get away. It sounds like, even if we move, he would have to be going back home constantly to make sure everything is under control. So his thinking is that the best thing to do would be to just react to whatever is happening at that time and let that decide it. On the one hand that makes sense, and I'm not interested in making him "choose" between his grandfather and me. On the other hand, it will have been six years, and I'm not comfortable just allowing our future to happen when everything falls into place because that will NEVER happen. *sigh*

ETA: On the bright side, whatever bug I'm coming down with has made it possible for me to finish the most monotonous and brain-numbing assignment I will have this semester, so yay! One HUGE item to cross off the to-do list!

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@minskat30- I wish there was something we could do now that he signed the offer and backed off but I don't think there is..at least that I know of. My boss didn't mention anything we could do either and he would probably be the person who would know.

@Amapola14 - Yes having wine at work is a plus to this office lol. Today is was definitely needed.

psychbabe314

Hmm... I am sort of baby crazy. I LOVE kids, but I am happy to give them away after an hour or so. I think I read somewhere that the reason women get baby crazy our babies is because of the eye size ratio to the head. Small baby head = bigger eyes = cute baby... They also apparently use this when they draw out their anime. LOL!

@Hummingbird125 - I know my BF is a bit baby crazy. We both don't want to get pregnant any time soon (give me another 5-6 years!), but once in awhile he gets this look in his eyes and he talks about how I'm going to be a great mom someday when I play with little kids around him. We should both order books and teach them a lesson! Have it delivered and just "oops, you weren't supposed to see that" LOL :-)

@southernpeach89 - I know exactly how you feel. I was being yelled at this morning at work (6:30am) because the machine was not up and running yet since my supervisor bailed this morning. I finally got the customer taken care of and I just walked into the bathroom and had to cry for a few minutes. I am so done with my place too :-( Good luck to you!!

@bethsmiles - hopefully it is nothing!

bethsmiles

@Amapola14 - Have you talked to your BF about possibly hiring someone to help take care of his grandfather? I understand that his family doesn't want to put him in a nursing home but it really seems like your BF is taking on too much for an indefinite period of time. It's not fair to him or you. You have to be able to plan a future together.

bethsmiles

Okay I hate my life today. We had some trouble with the first test we gave our students so we were discussing how to handle the points (making some questions extra credit or not). I thought we had decided so I put my students' grades in. After entering 60 grades I get an e-mail from my boss saying she wants everyone to send her an e-mail saying what they want to do with the points and then she'll decide. FML.

CLoGreenEyes

@bethsmiles, that is something they would do if it came to it. His family is so STUBBORN! Mostly in good ways, given that they are so determined to respect Grandfather's wishes to stay at home, but they have a hard time accepting help, I guess. But when we talked, I did tell him that it's something they should consider, because there is no way he, his parents, and I can adequately care for him if he really starts declining. He seemed amenable to it, so as long as the rest of his family is open, that is a possibility.

It just scared me to hear him say what he did about waiting and seeing, and it really freaked me out. I love him, but I cannot see myself waiting for an indefinite period of time to solidify our commitment and our life together.

CLoGreenEyes

@bethsmiles, that sucks. Hopefully they go with what you decided in the end! That is frustrating.

Blackbird230

I think I'm going to go visit a new church this afternoon. I've been wanting to find my way back to my original Catholic faith and I just need something, some kind of solace, I don't know. Going to visit the church when it's mostly open to get a feel for how I feel in the environment then maybe attend a service.

CLoGreenEyes

@Kait, that sounds really nice. Hope you find what you're looking for I know what you mean; even though I am not really religious, I find my grandparents' old Methodist church to be a very comforting place and it always makes me feel better.

phira

@bethsmiles Fuck everything--I hate when profs do that!!

I've been as productive as I can be today. I knew my godmother's late wife was a scientist, but I learned this weekend that she was, like ... a big fucking deal scientist. I'm feeling inspired to work harder (aka slacking off less) because I don't think she'd want a slacker for a goddaughter-in-law. I mean, yeah, I'm on TK during work, but I have some downtime before class. I'm also working a 10 hour day today, and getting in at ass o'clock tomorrow ... wheeeeeeee.

Peaseblossom55

I have two very good friends who are pregnant right now so it would be fun to be in the same place in life as them right now.  I am loving the small amount of child free time we have left and simply being engaged and wedding planning.  Probably next year at this time we will TTC, it's a bit scary.

I worry a bit after being on the pill for so long 15 yrs that it will affect my cycle & make it hard TTC.

@loves2shop4shoes My friend is now 5 months pregnant she had pretty bad PCOS, she began fertility drugs and after 3 months of that not working she got pregnant from her first round of IUI.  It still happened pretty quick for her. So hopefully it will for you too when the time is right.

phira

@peaseblossom55 I was on the pill for 8 years (16 to 24) for irregular periods/PCOS. My periods were like CLOCKWORK when I got off it. Obviously, everyone's different, but I don't think your time on the pill will make it hard to conceive when you're off it.

CLoGreenEyes

Can I just say that my mom is awesome? She just made a whole bunch of chicken cacciatore and vegetable beef soup, so now we've got food for basically another week. Er. mahgerd. It's so good.

Thanks for letting me share.

minskat30

@phira - That is great to know, actually.  I have the same fear as @Peaseblossom55.  I've been on the pill since age 16...so 15 years of pills.  It has always made me nervous.

Swazzle

Hey ladies! I swear this day (week?) is never-freaking-ending! 

I'm stuck at work for an extra hour and I just want to get up and walk out right now. This blows! 

With regards to BC and periods, I've been on some form of BC for 12 years now and I have rarely had any period in that period (ha) of time. I have really no clue what it's like to have a period anymore and, honestly, I have no interest in finding out haha

cu97tiger

Peaseblossom55 said:

I have two very good friends who are pregnant right now so it would be fun to be in the same place in life as them right now.  I am loving the small amount of child free time we have left and simply being engaged and wedding planning.  Probably next year at this time we will TTC, it's a bit scary.

I worry a bit after being on the pill for so long 15 yrs that it will affect my cycle & make it hard TTC.

@loves2shop4shoes My friend is now 5 months pregnant she had pretty bad PCOS, she began fertility drugs and after 3 months of that not working she got pregnant from her first round of IUI.  It still happened pretty quick for her. So hopefully it will for you too when the time is right.

@peaseblossom55 - while we're having some issues conceiving, I don't think it had ANYTHING to do with being on BCP for 15 years. Other than one extremely stressful month, my cycles have been between 28-35 days, including the very first month I went off the pill. I know it seems like it might make a difference, but the hormones really are only in your system for 24 hours, so when you stop taking the pills, your hormones just kick right back in.

suzie211

Peaseblossom55 said:

I have two very good friends who are pregnant right now so it would be fun to be in the same place in life as them right now.  I am loving the small amount of child free time we have left and simply being engaged and wedding planning.  Probably next year at this time we will TTC, it's a bit scary.

I worry a bit after being on the pill for so long 15 yrs that it will affect my cycle & make it hard TTC.

@loves2shop4shoes My friend is now 5 months pregnant she had pretty bad PCOS, she began fertility drugs and after 3 months of that not working she got pregnant from her first round of IUI.  It still happened pretty quick for her. So hopefully it will for you too when the time is right.

I worried about going off, and how soon my cycles would regulate.  I went on BC at 16, and took a break for about a year at 31.  So essentially I had 15 straight years on, and then another 2 years before I went off it this summer.  My cycle regulated the first month both times, and have been pretty consistent in their length.  But I was pretty regular from the day I got my period at age 11. 

@cu97Tiger is correct that the synthetic hormones leave your system pretty fast.  How your body reacts to the adjustment in hormones (synthetic or actual) varies for all women. Some ovulate within hours of going of the pill, and some need help to make it happen.  Its really a crap shoot.

BC and TTC doesn't necessarily have me concerned. I'm more concerned with trouble TTC.  Infertility can affect people at any age, and you really don't know until you start to try.  I've had two sets close friends need multiple rounds of IVF to get pregnant, and another couple that has been trying for 3 years unsuccessfully.    Its heartbreaking to watch. H and I are officially TTC, and this is the number one topic that comes up for us.  We really won't know for awhile were we fit in the mix.

loves2shop4shoes

suzie211 said:

Peaseblossom55 said:

I have two very good friends who are pregnant right now so it would be fun to be in the same place in life as them right now.  I am loving the small amount of child free time we have left and simply being engaged and wedding planning.  Probably next year at this time we will TTC, it's a bit scary.

I worry a bit after being on the pill for so long 15 yrs that it will affect my cycle & make it hard TTC.

@loves2shop4shoes My friend is now 5 months pregnant she had pretty bad PCOS, she began fertility drugs and after 3 months of that not working she got pregnant from her first round of IUI.  It still happened pretty quick for her. So hopefully it will for you too when the time is right.

I worried about going off, and how soon my cycles would regulate.  I went on BC at 16, and took a break for about a year at 31.  So essentially I had 15 straight years on, and then another 2 years before I went off it this summer.  My cycle regulated the first month both times, and have been pretty consistent in their length.  But I was pretty regular from the day I got my period at age 11. 

@cu97Tiger is correct that the synthetic hormones leave your system pretty fast.  How your body reacts to the adjustment in hormones (synthetic or actual) varies for all women. Some ovulate within hours of going of the pill, and some need help to make it happen.  Its really a crap shoot.

BC and TTC doesn't necessarily have me concerned. I'm more concerned with trouble TTC.  Infertility can affect people at any age, and you really don't know until you start to try.  I've had two sets close friends need multiple rounds of IVF to get pregnant, and another couple that has been trying for 3 years unsuccessfully.    Its heartbreaking to watch. H and I are officially TTC, and this is the number one topic that comes up for us.  We really won't know for awhile were we fit in the mix.

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