How much to include on website itinerary?

casey8784

Our wedding is not "destination" as in a sunny sandy beach or an exotic castle in Europe, but it's about 1.5 - 2 hours away from both my and my FI's family (my family is in Massachusetts, his is on Long Island; we're getting married in Newport, RI. We also have a large amount of extended family that will be flying in from all over the country). Because basically everyone is coming from "out-of-town" we're planning on a weekend long celebration. 

I figure an itinerary on the website would make sense cause everything would be listed in one place for people to see. My question is, if I list "Rehearsal Dinner - x restaurant at y time on z day" how would I indicate that it's not an open event and only for those invited? Should I write "Invitiation Only" next to it? I'm wondering the same thing for other events such as the Bridesmaids' Tea and the actual Rehearsal as well.

I don't want to seem rude and break etiquette, but making different versions of the itinerary for different "groups" of guests seems like a waste of time and that I'd be making it more complicated than it really is...

How are others "publishing" their itinerary for guests?

APDSS22

My hubby and I lived 2 hours from where we had the wedding (we moved mid-planning.)  Our families lived 8 and 12 hours away.  My bridal party came from all over, as did our guests.  We didn't need an itinerary.  Everything got done/picked up/people got where they needed to be on time.  If you were going to do this, I'd do something like a shared googledoc people could access on their phones specific for each "group."

huskypuppy14

I would recommend only putting events on the website that are open to everyone. The rehearsal and bridesmaid tea should have separate invites to those who are invited.

huskypuppy14

Oh also, at my sister's rehearsal she gave a printed itinerary to everyone with peoples names and times.  Example: 

8am: Bridesmaid 1, bridesmaid 2, bride and mothers of the bride and groom meet at hotel X for hair and makeup (Bride paid for hair and makeup for everyone).

 1pm- groom, groomsman 1, groomsman 2, and groomsman 3 take limo from hotel x to church, etc.

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laurynm84 said:

I would recommend only putting events on the website that are open to everyone. The rehearsal and bridesmaid tea should have separate invites to those who are invited.

Ditto this. For my WP, I emailed a schedule of where to be and when (making it clear that the wedding was the only required part!) about a week out, and several said they found it very helpful. I definitely would keep the website for "open" events only.

allispain

I would only put events on your wedding website if they are open to all of your guests. It would be rude to post about something that is going on and then say "Invite only" or something similar.

You should put together a schedule for those who will be attending these "extra" events. You can e-mail it to them ahead of time, have it waiting for them at check in at the hotel, etc.

Yes, it will take you a little more time to put together a separate schedule for your bridal party and VIPS. However, it's much better to take an extra 20 minutes out of your day than it is for you to be rude towards your other guests by letting them know about all the events they won't be invited to attend.

casey8784

Great, thanks to all of you for your replies!

WinstonsGirl

We did do this, and only events for everyone were listed.  We also gave everyone a card with the info (we did a DW wedding, so they got it upon arrival in case they couldn't access internet).  Anyone else (family/WP) who had extra events, such as the RD received a second card with that info on it.  We had also sent them the info before leaving, but the card was the make sure they had the info there.