First off, I've already gotten married to my wonderful husband this past February. This is a question for one of my bridesmaids.
She was asked again to be a bridesmaid for her other friend. She had politely said no to her. She is in school, has a full-time job, and will do her unpaid internship soon, which means she would have to go part time on her job, which means less money.
She had told her friend she can't afford being a bridesmaid again, she is so busy with school and her job and then her internship that she would feel guilty if she couldn't make it to dress fittings or bridal showers, and that she wouldn't be able to give the bride her 100%. She would still support them at her wedding but she couldn't do more than that.
At this, the bride was completely mad. She had stated that they were friends for a long time, she said, "I don't know what made you so traumatized at the other person's wedding," "I don't know why you said no, my other friend is getting her masters and has a job too and she still said yes," "my other friends say there must be something else going on because you don't look that busy on Facebook,"
She came crying to me telling me this, and I thought back to my wedding and sure enough she was busy too. She had said yes to being my bridesmaid but she wasn't able to go to my Bachelorette Party, and she was late to my rehearsal dinner coming from work. I told her I completely understand, she was trying to better her life and I wasn't going to make her choose.
Is it right for her to say no? Should she just say yes and become her bridesmaid. I told my friend that she was doing what was best for her, and that if she and the bride are really good friends, they would both get over this. I can't help seeing her cry. I know its not my business, but I almost want to talk some sense into that bride. What are your thoughts?