I am having a real dilemma. My fiancé and I both drink, and we have a hard time seeing ourselves enjoy our wedding without alcohol because it is a staple at most of our gatherings. His family drinks happily and have all said they would find a way to smuggle alcohol into the wedding if we don't provide it. His parents have pledged to pay for all the catering, including the alcohol.
They are not the problem. The problem is MY family. My father is a Southern Baptist deacon, and he is absolutely against the idea of alcohol at my wedding. He told my mother he would not come if we had alcohol. I am not a devout Baptist anymore, and he knows I enjoy drinking and am responsible when doing so. He is also paying for part of the wedding -- the venue and my dress, just to name part of it -- and I don't want to disappoint him. How do I diffuse this situation without insulting his beliefs or compromising my own?