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Not a whole lot of friends on either side: How to pick bridesmaids and groomsmen?

My fiance and I are not quite hermits, but we don't really have a lot of friends or family that we are very close to, and aren't sure how to go about picking groomsmen and bridesmaids, or even a maid of honor or best man.
I have one close friend that I've known for years, some female cousins I don't particularly like, and a brother. He has a very small family and one good friend who lives out of state and is expecting his first baby just a few weeks before our wedding.
What do you think we should do?

Re: Not a whole lot of friends on either side: How to pick bridesmaids and groomsmen?

  • Who would make you happy?  Picture the person/people you want standing closest to you on your day, and you have your answer.

    Blue_Bird
  • You don't need a wedding party. We decided not to have one and it was lovely.
  • MairePoppyMairePoppy Connecticut mod
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    I agree with pps. One option that wasn't mentioned: ask your parents or grandparents to stand up for you.
                       
    Blue_Bird
  • I don't have grandparents, or honestly they would be my first choice. I was very close to my mom's parents.

    I think we've decided to just do one each and keep it small. I would like that one close friend to stand up with me and he would like my brother up there with him.

    What is a good response if someone says that that is strange or too small of a group?
  • The phrase I picked up from this board and love is, "Choose who you would call if you needed to hide a body at 2am." That's your wedding party, whether it's two people or none or twelve. Your groom should do the same.
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  • MobKazMobKaz Chicago suburbs member
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    I don't have grandparents, or honestly they would be my first choice. I was very close to my mom's parents.

    I think we've decided to just do one each and keep it small. I would like that one close friend to stand up with me and he would like my brother up there with him.

    What is a good response if someone says that that is strange or too small of a group?
    My son and his wife have many friends. They still made a choice to have only one attendant on each side. No one questioned the size of it. Why would they? It's a personal choice. If anyone would ask, you would merely have to say, "Because that was our choice".
    MairePoppyemmyg65
  • OP - hopefully no one will be rude enough to question your decision. If, by some off reason, someone does, you can put a polite smile on your face and then say "We're happy with our decision." I would probably follow that up with an "Excuse me, I need to go," personally.
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  • Psssh wedding party is one of those things you can appropriately say "It's our wedding" about. Ask whomever you'd like; if people judge it, they have too much time on their hands. 
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  • I don't think its strange to have one or no attendants. We were thinking about just having one MOH and a best man (my sister and his brother).

    I doubt anyone will comment. If they do, say "it was just simpler to do it this way." Its vague, neutral, and will satisfy any inquirers.
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