Im thinking of asking a long time friend who is an ordained minister to officate our wedding ceremony. Hopefully he will say yes. While going through some of these threads, I realized that I need to include the vendors in my count for the reception for dinner. My question is do we invite his wife to be a guest also? I plan on making a donation to his church or paying him, which ever he wants. Although we r not BFF's, he is childhood church friend and fellow highschool classmate. I don't know if he's a vendor or a friend. My thinking is if he's just a vendor, then we shouldn't invite his wife. But because this is a family function where a lot of my family members know him, that kinda makes it personal so maybe we should invite his wife. IDK what to do? Any advice...