help! tux matching advice!

Smacmillan813

Hey everyone- would love some input on this.

Ok, to give some background info: Our colors are deep sapphire blue with rich burnt orange, brushed bronze lanterns for the centerpiees, etc. Girls are in sapphire (gold jewelry); guys are in black tuxes with sapphire vests and ties (all flowers are fall orange tones), and I'm in a light ivory (definitely not a strong yellowish ivory; just a little off white). The one thing that I'm a little worried about (and I'm REALLY trying not to be type A with all my heart about this... and I have been super laid back about the entire planning process) is that my groom wants to wear a black tux", white shirt (which I'm fine with), but with a silver vest and tie. I'm going back and forth trying to tell myself "it doesn't matter- he deserves to feel good about what he's wearing" (which I do feel), but then there's part of me that's harping on this and feeling like we're going to look like a three ring circus with all these colors and that hes not going to match AT ALL. I suggested maybe an ivory/cream vest with the white shirt (bc hes totally against the ivory shirt... and I'm fine with that.. its not that white shirt that I care about), but he isn't a fan of ivory. It's just the idea of me and ivory and warm hues and gold, and the guys in sapphire and the girls in sapphires, and the oranges in the flowers, and the girls in the gold jewelry, and then him in black white and silver is just making me a little worried. And girls, before anyone attacks me lol, yes I know it's OUR day, and we've both been very much part of the decision making process and there's been plenty of stuff we're both super laid back about, and in the end if he really wants the silver then whatever lol I know that's not a big deal in the end... but like every time I think about it, its like my Type-A self wants to rear its ugly head (and this is the ONLY thing wedding-wise we've disagreed on and is like the one thing that is probably irrationally bothering me lol). Any thoughts to put my mind at ease or maybe advice on to how I can talk to him about it without being a terrible person?

erinlin25

My initial thought would be the silver would look fine + he is the groom so its OK for him to stand out.  The silver would compliment the saphire well I think. Blue and Orange look great together, and it seems the only gold really is the girls jewelry, which would not make a difference, so I'd say let him go with the silver.

What is holding you back?  What is it YOU envisioned?  Did you want him in blue, black, white or gold instead?  The silver will match you as a bride so it should be OK.     PS-- the white shirt is the way to go, the men's ivory shirts are not the same hue as wedding ivory and will look dull compared to your dress. 

If you can, go to the men's store and see their colors. Talk to the guys working there for they are usually good at putting a color scheme together.  We used a plum purple for my bridesmaids and they put our guys in more of dark shade of purple with my husband with a silver and 2-purple blend that complimented the whole color scheme well.

NYCMercedes

Smacmillan813 said:

Hey everyone- would love some input on this.

Ok, to give some background info: Our colors are deep sapphire blue with rich burnt orange, brushed bronze lanterns for the centerpiees, etc. Girls are in sapphire (gold jewelry); guys are in black tuxes with sapphire vests and ties (all flowers are fall orange tones), and I'm in a light ivory (definitely not a strong yellowish ivory; just a little off white). The one thing that I'm a little worried about (and I'm REALLY trying not to be type A with all my heart about this... and I have been super laid back about the entire planning process) is that my groom wants to wear a black tux", white shirt (which I'm fine with), but with a silver vest and tie. I'm going back and forth trying to tell myself "it doesn't matter- he deserves to feel good about what he's wearing" (which I do feel), but then there's part of me that's harping on this and feeling like we're going to look like a three ring circus with all these colors and that hes not going to match AT ALL. I suggested maybe an ivory/cream vest with the white shirt (bc hes totally against the ivory shirt... and I'm fine with that.. its not that white shirt that I care about), but he isn't a fan of ivory. It's just the idea of me and ivory and warm hues and gold, and the guys in sapphire and the girls in sapphires, and the oranges in the flowers, and the girls in the gold jewelry, and then him in black white and silver is just making me a little worried. And girls, before anyone attacks me lol, yes I know it's OUR day, and we've both been very much part of the decision making process and there's been plenty of stuff we're both super laid back about, and in the end if he really wants the silver then whatever lol I know that's not a big deal in the end... but like every time I think about it, its like my Type-A self wants to rear its ugly head (and this is the ONLY thing wedding-wise we've disagreed on and is like the one thing that is probably irrationally bothering me lol). Any thoughts to put my mind at ease or maybe advice on to how I can talk to him about it without being a terrible person?

You're worried about a vest color that he chose? That little conscious telling you it doesn't matter - he deserves to feel good about what he's wearing, listen to it.