Third marriage vow ideas, please!

Naturegirl79

Planning for my FINAL marriage (third time's the charm, right?), and I need some help with my vows.  My family has been down this road before (first time right out of high school, so that one is probably easier to stomach than the failed 2nd marriage), and I'm afraid the standard approach would just bring eye rolls from my close family.  To add to the pressure, my fiancee is a writer, so I'm sure his vows will be fantastic.

I have been racking my brain, trying to figure out ways to make my vows NOT sound ridiculous!  Any ideas?

WonderRed

I have gone out of my way to make this wedding as different from my first in every way.  Almost defensively.   I completely get what you are asking and saying.    Take the time to look into your heart. What makes you so sure this one will be different from the other ones?  Why is this one so special?   What has changed in your heart since the first two?  How have you grown?   How has your idea of marriage changed?  Find what comes to heart based on those questions and go from there.  Write them down as they come to you then put them away.  Come back to them now and then to reread and make changes.  I don't think vows are something you can adequately do in just one sitting.

Have you cross posted this on the second wedding board?  I'm sure you'll get good ideas over there.

STARMOON44

If your fiancé is going to do a great job, why not write them together? The traditional vows are the same from each party. You could craft your own vows but each say the same thing.

Dreamergirl8812

My only advice is to possibly come up with retorts ahead of time, in case anyone teases you about this being your third marriage. In this situation I always think of the Sex and the City movie when a bunch of insensitive douchebuckets tease him at the RD.

manateehugger

STARMOON44 said:

If your fiancé is going to do a great job, why not write them together? The traditional vows are the same from each party. You could craft your own vows but each say the same thing.

This is a great idea. I'd also just encourage you to keep your vows as actual vows, and not just a sob story. 

What do you want to promise him? In what ways are you going to pledge yourself to him? What can you give to him that you couldn't give to anyone else?