I put down for two, but there’s a slight chance that it’s a maybe. So time-wise, maybe we can both at least make the reception? Or else just me. Of if I go along with him, then I might not be able to make it either. I figured it’d be better to say we’re coming, even if one or both of us aren’t able to make it. Is that ok?
I am tight on space and cringe at the thought of paying for someone who can't tell me if they will be able to make it. Wedding is in 17 days.
Re: When someone RSVPs with a maybe
ETA: fix typo
You should not have to shell out extra cash for guests who don't have the decency to give a firm answer. I don't enable rudeness like that.
I honest to god think that people just don't THINK about how expensive weddings are. When one of FI's friends found out we were having a small wedding due to space constraints, she said, "just have it in a bigger venue!" like we hadn't already thought of that and like that wouldn't cost more money (depending on the venue). Same goes for food. People don't think of it as costing more money, or that you are paying for a meal for them, they just think of it as "a wedding" and that it's not a big deal. Since people don't generally think of it that way, I doubt they're telling you it's a maybe while thinking that you're going to have to pay for them. They probably just aren't even thinking about the money aspect of it.
ETA: I'm not saying it's not rude, it is, I'm just saying they're probably not intentionally trying to make you pay for them while not knowing for sure that they'll be there.
We got one "maybe" reply and it was from an elderly couple with some iffy heallth problems. The wife, my late mother's best friend promised to let us know in time for the final head count and she did.
But then, she had raised four daughters
That's ridiculous. I wouldn't make this guest respond within the next 24 hours lol, but I would give her a deadline -maybe one week from now if you can cut it that close? - and say "I need a definite yes or no from both of you at this time".
Guests like that person are the worst! Best of luck, and congrats in advance on your wedding!
OP, I feel your pain.
Half of my guest list has responded similarly, if they've responded at all.
We've been chasing down people every night this week to pin them down with an answer.
Our wedding is small, the guest list is pretty much family only, so all the people who DIDN'T send back their RSVP cards said, "Well, we figured you knew we were coming! That's why we didn't bother sending the card. You know we wouldn't miss it."
Uh, then why would have stamped every return envelope? How on earth do you expect us to plan the seating and dinner?
Officially hitched as of 10/25/13