Hey everyone! My wedding is next summer and I am very lucky to have financial help from my father. While he is not paying for the entire reception he has said he will be "contributing significantly." He has yet to give my fiance and I an exact dollar amount to his contributions. Our venue is very expensive and we are looking at around a $15,000 reception for approx 150 guests with open bar. My father is being very insistent on open bar all night long he even wants to discuss putting bottles of alcohol (like vodka, whiskey) on the tables as well which to me seems redundant if there's already an open bar. My concern is both my fiance and I have members of our families with severe drinking problems and I am already concerned about open bar and these people. We all know what can happen with too much alcohol and short tempers. I have expressed these concerns to my father and he basically told me he's not going to stand for no open bar. I understand that even with a cash bar if someone wants to get drunk they will end of story, I guess I'm just wondering if anyone else has been concerned about this and how they eased their minds about it. I know that on my wedding day I will be so excited and happy that I probably wouldn't notice any drinking related outbursts however, I don't want to be embarrassed later by and stories or happenings that occur without my knowledge. In addition I just find the cost to be so outrageous and I was thinking more of beer and wine with a signature drink option to save money but again my father shot that down saying he is not having his daughter throw a reception without open bar. I know for certain he is not paying to cost for the whole reception and I am truly so appreciative he is contributing at all but would I be wrong to gently put my foot down and say something along the lines of if you're not paying for the whole thing then you need to work with us to save some money since we will be paying for the rest of the bill? I read all this etiquette on how to deal with financial contributions etc but when it comes down to Dad and Daughter I feel I have a right to be a little more open and honest with him. Any advice?