I have a son who is 11 and a daughter who is 7 (they are not my fiances biological children but he loves them just the same) . My son is going to give me away and my daughter will be a flower girl. However I am trying to come up with something different for the "unity candle" I know that is a great tradition but I would like my kids to be involved too. Just to reaffirm that it is all of us joining as a new family and not just my fiance and I. Any ideas would be very much appreciated.