Bridal Shower invites with strange circumstances. Please Help!

aurianna

Double post. So I made pizza soup last night. It was really good!

Blue_Bird

aurianna said:

Double post. So I made pizza soup last night. It was really good!

What is pizza soup?

aurianna

I have nothing interesting to interject in this particular double post. I just came back from donating blood?

aurianna

Blue_Bird said:

Double post. So I made pizza soup last night. It was really good!

What is pizza soup?

Sausage, quartered pepperoni, red bell pepper, yellow bell pepper, green bell pepper, onions, diced tomatoes, black olives, mushrooms (if you're into those; I omitted them), pizza sauce, water.
Sprinkle mozerella on top when served.
Boom.

You could serve it at a shower! My in-laws actually threw me a shower with all sorts of soups (and hot chocolate. It was in December)... and I didn't find out until after I got there that my MIL had invited all the cousins' kids, including some girls that were 16+, none of whom were invited to the wedding, and I felt very awkward about it since I was opening presents and talking about my wedding with people who weren't invited.

See how I made that relevant?

Blue_Bird

aurianna said:

Blue_Bird said:

Double post. So I made pizza soup last night. It was really good!

What is pizza soup?

Sausage, quartered pepperoni, red bell pepper, yellow bell pepper, green bell pepper, onions, diced tomatoes, black olives, mushrooms (if you're into those; I omitted them), pizza sauce, water.
Sprinkle mozerella on top when served.
Boom.

You could serve it at a shower! My in-laws actually threw me a shower with all sorts of soups (and hot chocolate. It was in December)... and I didn't find out until after I got there that my MIL had invited all the cousins' kids, including some girls that were 16+, none of whom were invited to the wedding, and I felt very awkward about it since I was opening presents and talking about my wedding with people who weren't invited.

See how I made that relevant?

Oh my! And I see what you did there.

cowgirl8238

It is rude and tacky to invite someone to any pe-wedding party and not invite them to the wedding.  I don't care what words you use to try and make it sound better, it wont work!  You may have friends that are too afraid to tell you how they really feel about your plans but I can almost gurantee that you WILL lose friends over this.  But why would you listen to honest strangers on the internet who will tell you the truth when you can have your friends lie to your face.  Go ahead and have all your self-centered parties, just don't come back here in three months complaining that all your friends won't talk to you anymore...just saying that you asked for advice adn we gave it, the ball is in your court and its up to you to decide what to do, and to live with those consequences.

Iloveshanej

One question is what will you do at your wedding showers? I also don't understand having two bridal showers in one day. Having a party before your wedding to celebrate with those you can't invite to the wedding because you can't afford it, yet feeding them and buying them drinks at said party makes no sense. Why wouldn't you just use the money you are planning to spend on the party and spend that money on inviting those people to the wedding. I think you are being rude and selfish and I'm totally confused at your thought process on all this. 

jlhart76

So your nearest and dearest are good enough to give you a gift but not good enough to attend your wedding. Thats essentially what you're telling them. Either invite them to your wedding or don't have a shower. And a shower is a gift giving event. There is no other purpose in it. So yes, you're being rude and greedy.

ktbug22

As a young adult in my mid twenties, I've been to a few bachelorette/bridal showers without being invited to the wedding and vice versa. I was NEVER upset for being invited to one and not the other. I felt honored to even be thought of- I was able to be apart of the wedding in one way or another, and was able to spend time with the bride(s) because of this; which was all I wanted. Weddings can be very expensive and when you're on a tight budget, it's even more difficult to decide who gets to come to the actual event.

I would talk specifically with your friends who have gotten married and gone through all of this. They know more about you and your guests than any one else does and they can give you advice that comes from their heart instead of just spewing statements that include inclinations of your lack of manners- as some would like to do or say.

Best of luck and share how it all goes! 

NYCMercedes

ktbug22 said:

As a young adult in my mid twenties, I've been to a few bachelorette/bridal showers without being invited to the wedding and vice versa. I was NEVER upset for being invited to one and not the other. I felt honored to even be thought of- I was able to be apart of the wedding in one way or another, and was able to spend time with the bride(s) because of this; which was all I wanted. Weddings can be very expensive and when you're on a tight budget, it's even more difficult to decide who gets to come to the actual event.

I would talk specifically with your friends who have gotten married and gone through all of this. They know more about you and your guests than any one else does and they can give you advice that comes from their heart instead of just spewing statements that include inclinations of your lack of manners- as some would like to do or say.

Best of luck and share how it all goes! 

You weren't "apart" of the wedding: you were "apart" from the wedding. The only way you could be a part of the wedding is if you were there. Oh, and btw, many of the ladies have gone through this and all have given advice from the heart. Who is spewing?

misshart00

ktbug22 said:

As a young adult in my mid twenties, I've been to a few bachelorette/bridal showers without being invited to the wedding and vice versa. I was NEVER upset for being invited to one and not the other. I felt honored to even be thought of- I was able to be apart of the wedding in one way or another, and was able to spend time with the bride(s) because of this; which was all I wanted. Weddings can be very expensive and when you're on a tight budget, it's even more difficult to decide who gets to come to the actual event.

I would talk specifically with your friends who have gotten married and gone through all of this. They know more about you and your guests than any one else does and they can give you advice that comes from their heart instead of just spewing statements that include inclinations of your lack of manners- as some would like to do or say.

Best of luck and share how it all goes! 

What did you search for to find a two month old thread?

Amyzen83

Man I feel punked! I read through all of the back and forth dialog only to discover this post is now irrelevant? Gosh! Ok fine, I'll make this worth people's time and effort. 

This is an example of a snowflake response. If you can't afford to invite people to the wedding and want family only, that's fine, but please do not have consolation prizes especially if it is going to make people spend money on you!

jenniferurs

I hate people.