Inviting Co-Workers

orangeflame08

We are trying to finalize our guest list so we can get Save the Dates sent out. There are a few co-workers that I am inviting and I'd like to invite our former supervisor. Our office has about 10 workers. I am inviting 3 of them (one of them is in the wedding). The four of us are pretty close and sometimes do things outside of work (I met my FI because of the one co-worker). I want to invite my former supervisor because we are all pretty close to her as well and we still get together for lunches. Would it be tacky if I asked them to keep it quiet that they were invited for the sake of saving  the other co-workers' feelings? It's not that I'm trying to hide them; that's definitely not the case. I don't want the others feeling like they're not good enough to be invited but I don't want the 4 that I am inviting to feel like I'm trying to hide them. We have a tight budget, so I can't invite them all.

vmj23

Maybe it would be better to mention to the others the reason you aren't inviting everyone? That way if the do find out, they don't feel left out AND that it was being hiden from them.   Chances are someone may slip, or be seen in pictures etc.  

erinlin25

I would not mention it all.  Just send the Save The Date in the mail like you would any guest rather than handing them out at work.  Just because you work together does not mean they should expect an invitation, and since you are only inviting a small amount who are obviously close to you outside work I do not seen where anyone would be offended.  If they are adults they will understand.  Do not feel like you need to hide the fact you are getting married, and hide the fact you are friends with co-workers. 

JMalettas

 I wouldn't worry about it either! I would send out the save-the-dates, & if any of your non-invited co-workers say anything, I'd just tell them that it's a smaller wedding, with closer family and friends. We invited only 3 of my co-workers, & had no problem. Most 'adults' will understand, & I would think, not question your decisions. 

 *J

southernbelle0915

No, it's not tacky. Just privately tell them that you're not inviting everyone from the office to the wedding and you'd like to keep wedding talk at the office to a bare minimum (if any at all). They'll respect that. You all can go out for drinks and chat up a storm, but it's fine to keep it quiet at the office - it's a lot more professional and probably  how it should be anyway.

Jen4948

I'd just send them any communications like save-the-dates and invitations to their homes, and in person let them know that because not everyone at the office is invited, you'd prefer to limit wedding talk there to the minimum.

soontobemrsbuccheri

I had this same issue.  My co-workers are all aware that my wedding is fast approaching. I was only going to be inviting one of my co-workers and mailed her a STD.  She had brought it into work and put it on her cubical wall.  Of course, I was questioned why my other co-workers didn't get one and I said that since she was retiring, I felt she should have one.  They understood that. Since then, I've had to remove my co-worker from the guest list as we needed to cut people to make sure we're not over inviting. 

 Now, since it's getting close to the date we plan to send invites (if we can figure it out!) I've been sent emails with home addresses.  Of course, I send the information to my personal email at home to save, just incase they give me a gift or something but I don't plan to invite them.  I am afraid to tell them that we aren't inviting them, but we've had to cut the list down.