Invitation Wording: Both sets of parents

orangeflame08

My parents are divorced and my dad, myself and my fiance are handling most of the costs but the reception will be on my fiance's parents land. My dad's name (ironically 1st and middle name) is the same as my FI's dad's name. We want all of them on the invitation, just not sure which wording to use out of the follow two. What do you think?

Sample One:
Mr. BrideFather and Ms. BrideMother
request the honor of your presence
at the marriage of their daughter
Bride's Name
to
Groom's Name 
son of Mr. and Mrs. Groomsparents
Date
Time
Venue
Address
City, State

OR

Sample two:
Mr. and Mrs. Groom's parents &
Mr. BrideFather and Ms. BrideMother

Request the honor of your presence
At the marriage of their children
Bride's Name
to
Groom's Name 
Date
Time
Venue
Address
City, State

banana468

I'm confused.   Is your mom hosting too?   Do you want his parents to be listed as hosts? 

orangeflame08

What exactly does "hosting" mean? The wedding is at our church and the reception is at his parent's home. That's how I look at hosting, but I could be wrong.

tammym1001

If your parents are divorced then their names shouldn't be together with "and'. That implies that they are still married. I believe they should both be on their own line.

manateehugger

You might be better off with the "Together with their parents" language here. 

Otherwise yeah you'll need three lines since your parents shouldn't share a line:

Ms. Bridesmother

Mr. Bridesfather

Mrs and Mr. Groomsparents

orangeflame08

PDKH said:

You might be better off with the "Together with their parents" language here. 

Otherwise yeah you'll need three lines since your parents shouldn't share a line:

Ms. Bridesmother

Mr. Bridesfather

Mrs and Mr. Groomsparents

"Together with their parents" isn't what I'm going for. I want their names on it. If I list them on individual lines, should there at least be an "and" between them so it doesn't read like a list?:

Example:
Ms. Bridesmother
and
Mr. Bridesfather

manateehugger

It is a list, technically, since you want both sets on there. No and in between lines. If you want to go by traditional etiquette, it should look how I listed it out. 

Remember, being listed on an invitation is NOT an honor. It merely states who is hosting your wedding (so theoretically, who your guests would turn to if they had a question or concern). Not everyone has to be on there. Since it's at your FI's parent's house, it really sounds like they are the actual hosts here, not your parents.

Crane's is a good reference. http://blog.crane.com/2012/02/07/wedding-etiquette-the-invitational-line/

banana468

Is your mother seeing that the guests are being hosted correctly? Will she visit with guests and talk to vendors to make sure the event runs smoothly?

Often those hosting are also paying but that isn't always the case. If your mother isn't hosting then she doesn't belong in the invitation.