Lots of wedding "don't" how about a list of "do's"

Devonshire22

Being offended is a choice, one you seem to choose readily.

No, I don't think you are open to hearing what I've got to say, I think you just want to argue how wrong/rude/uncouth/hateful etc etc I am. Sure, slap those labels on me chickie, I'll bear em proudly. Do me a favor, go back and read what the original post was about.

NYCBruin

Devonshire22 said:

Being offended is a choice, one you seem to choose readily.

No, I don't think you are open to hearing what I've got to say, I think you just want to argue how wrong/rude/uncouth/hateful etc etc I am. Sure, slap those labels on me chickie, I'll bear em proudly. Do me a favor, go back and read what the original post was about.

I did read the original post.  And all the other posts.  That's not what I was responding to.  You felt "attacked" by people sharing honest opinions and resorted to stereotypes to "defend" yourself. I called you out on it.  You denied it.  I asked for an explanation of how I was wrong, which I still haven't gotten.  I really don't give a damn what you do at your wedding.  Have a tacky toonie bar or a gap or whatever, seriously, it's no skin off my back.  People here were trying to help you avoid being rude.  I really don't give a shit.  I do, however, want an explanation of why you think that asking posters if they need a midol or insinuating that "too much estrogen in one place makes for a bad environment" is NOT anti-woman.

Dreamergirl8812

Why the fuck are you here? All you do is start fights and pretend it's standing up for yourself? You get bitchy because you don't like what people say and then offer US midol? Of all the dumbed-down stereotypes, not to mention hypocrisy...

Devonshire22

Wow... nicely done ladies, we're on page two of catty-hen-fest. Ooooh and now some profanity. Bravo. Very mature and lady like. I'm not sure how I "always" start fights when I've made three posts asking genuine questions. I've noticed you tend to be a common denominator in a lot of trainwrecks though, perhaps *I* am not the issue here.

Perhaps offering you some midol was wrong. I do apologize. There are a million other reasons that I couldn't possible know or understand for your bitchyness. Cornflakes? Pissed in? Wrong side of the bed?  Did you puppy die? Panties in a wad for some reason or another.

NYCBruin

Devonshire22 said:

Wow... nicely done ladies, we're on page two of catty-hen-fest. Ooooh and now some profanity. Bravo. Very mature and lady like. I'm not sure how I "always" start fights when I've made three posts asking genuine questions. I've noticed you tend to be a common denominator in a lot of trainwrecks though, perhaps *I* am not the issue here.

Perhaps offering you some midol was wrong. I do apologize. There are a million other reasons that I couldn't possible know or understand for your bitchyness. Cornflakes? Pissed in? Wrong side of the bed?  Did you puppy die? Panties in a wad for some reason or another.

I'm not even mad that you managed to use another anti-women stereotype in your "apology" for using one in the first place.  I'm impressed.

If you are looking for some advice, perhaps the OP in this thread (clicky) can put you in touch with the bride at the wedding she describes.  I feel like the two of you would get along well.

Devonshire22

NYCBruin said:

Devonshire22 said:

Being offended is a choice, one you seem to choose readily.

No, I don't think you are open to hearing what I've got to say, I think you just want to argue how wrong/rude/uncouth/hateful etc etc I am. Sure, slap those labels on me chickie, I'll bear em proudly. Do me a favor, go back and read what the original post was about.

I did read the original post.  And all the other posts.  That's not what I was responding to.  You felt "attacked" by people sharing honest opinions and resorted to stereotypes to "defend" yourself. I called you out on it.  You denied it.  I asked for an explanation of how I was wrong, which I still haven't gotten.  I really don't give a damn what you do at your wedding.  Have a tacky toonie bar or a gap or whatever, seriously, it's no skin off my back.  People here were trying to help you avoid being rude.  I really don't give a shit.  I do, however, want an explanation of why you think that asking posters if they need a midol or insinuating that "too much estrogen in one place makes for a bad environment" is NOT anti-woman.

Nope, I didn't feel attacked, that's how you perceived it. This post was meant to be a GENERAL question, not directly related to me or how terrible my wedding will be. (Beyond horrible, I'm sure). Just a general question to get some neat ideas flowing and instead I got very haughty, pretentious answers. Kinda like when you ask a 5 year old what they want for dinner and they respond with "Food." Helpful. Very. THAT was my point.
I could truly give a flying crap about what a bunch of people on a board who hide behind internet alters think about my wedding. I thought it would be nice to come on and do some brainstorming with some fellow brides and instead it seems like a great place to get hen pecked. I've seen this in EVERY post I've read on this board from someone being told their decorating ideas were horrendous to the fact that wearing cowboy boots is tacky. Nice ladies. Way to be supportive & constructive! But hey, nobody on here will ever meet you or know how you *really* are, so you can say whatever you'd like, with as little tact as possible. Internet bullying is fun! And women seem so good at it.  
I haven't tried to defend myself against ANY of my remarks made, nor have I made stereotypes about anyone (perhaps look up the definition). I do think you need to unbunch your overly sensitive, feminist panties though. Saying that that there is too much estrogen is slightly politer a way of saying "Boy, things go downhill FAST when too many women congregate all in the same spot.". And Midol - tends to deal with PMS - mood swings. Definitely not anti woman, actually a really helpful little pill that can make you feel a little more level.

Devonshire22

NYCBruin said:

Devonshire22 said:

Wow... nicely done ladies, we're on page two of catty-hen-fest. Ooooh and now some profanity. Bravo. Very mature and lady like. I'm not sure how I "always" start fights when I've made three posts asking genuine questions. I've noticed you tend to be a common denominator in a lot of trainwrecks though, perhaps *I* am not the issue here.

Perhaps offering you some midol was wrong. I do apologize. There are a million other reasons that I couldn't possible know or understand for your bitchyness. Cornflakes? Pissed in? Wrong side of the bed?  Did you puppy die? Panties in a wad for some reason or another.

I'm not even mad that you managed to use another anti-women stereotype in your "apology" for using one in the first place.  I'm impressed.

If you are looking for some advice, perhaps the OP in this thread (clicky) can put you in touch with the bride at the wedding she describes.  I feel like the two of you would get along well.

That was just for you babe.

Viczaesar

Devonshire22 said:

NYCBruin said:

Devonshire22 said:

Being offended is a choice, one you seem to choose readily.

No, I don't think you are open to hearing what I've got to say, I think you just want to argue how wrong/rude/uncouth/hateful etc etc I am. Sure, slap those labels on me chickie, I'll bear em proudly. Do me a favor, go back and read what the original post was about.

I did read the original post.  And all the other posts.  That's not what I was responding to.  You felt "attacked" by people sharing honest opinions and resorted to stereotypes to "defend" yourself. I called you out on it.  You denied it.  I asked for an explanation of how I was wrong, which I still haven't gotten.  I really don't give a damn what you do at your wedding.  Have a tacky toonie bar or a gap or whatever, seriously, it's no skin off my back.  People here were trying to help you avoid being rude.  I really don't give a shit.  I do, however, want an explanation of why you think that asking posters if they need a midol or insinuating that "too much estrogen in one place makes for a bad environment" is NOT anti-woman.

Nope, I didn't feel attacked, that's how you perceived it. This post was meant to be a GENERAL question, not directly related to me or how terrible my wedding will be. (Beyond horrible, I'm sure). Just a general question to get some neat ideas flowing and instead I got very haughty, pretentious answers. Kinda like when you ask a 5 year old what they want for dinner and they respond with "Food." Helpful. Very. THAT was my point.
I could truly give a flying crap about what a bunch of people on a board who hide behind internet alters think about my wedding. I thought it would be nice to come on and do some brainstorming with some fellow brides and instead it seems like a great place to get hen pecked. I've seen this in EVERY post I've read on this board from someone being told their decorating ideas were horrendous to the fact that wearing cowboy boots is tacky. Nice ladies. Way to be supportive & constructive! But hey, nobody on here will ever meet you or know how you *really* are, so you can say whatever you'd like, with as little tact as possible. Internet bullying is fun! And women seem so good at it.  
I haven't tried to defend myself against ANY of my remarks made, nor have I made stereotypes about anyone (perhaps look up the definition). I do think you need to unbunch your overly sensitive, feminist panties though. Saying that that there is too much estrogen is slightly politer a way of saying "Boy, things go downhill FAST when too many women congregate all in the same spot.". And Midol - tends to deal with PMS - mood swings. Definitely not anti woman, actually a really helpful little pill that can make you feel a little more level.

Leaving aside all of the stereotyping bullshit that you're flinging around, midol is for cramps, bloating, and other physical pain symptoms, not mood swings. 

Devonshire22

Jump on that bandwagon too. It's a party!

WonderRed

I'm gonna need some good food and lots of booze just to get through this thread.

NYCBruin

Devonshire22 said:

NYCBruin said:

Devonshire22 said:

Being offended is a choice, one you seem to choose readily.

No, I don't think you are open to hearing what I've got to say, I think you just want to argue how wrong/rude/uncouth/hateful etc etc I am. Sure, slap those labels on me chickie, I'll bear em proudly. Do me a favor, go back and read what the original post was about.

I did read the original post.  And all the other posts.  That's not what I was responding to.  You felt "attacked" by people sharing honest opinions and resorted to stereotypes to "defend" yourself. I called you out on it.  You denied it.  I asked for an explanation of how I was wrong, which I still haven't gotten.  I really don't give a damn what you do at your wedding.  Have a tacky toonie bar or a gap or whatever, seriously, it's no skin off my back.  People here were trying to help you avoid being rude.  I really don't give a shit.  I do, however, want an explanation of why you think that asking posters if they need a midol or insinuating that "too much estrogen in one place makes for a bad environment" is NOT anti-woman.

Nope, I didn't feel attacked, that's how you perceived it. This post was meant to be a GENERAL question, not directly related to me or how terrible my wedding will be. (Beyond horrible, I'm sure). Just a general question to get some neat ideas flowing and instead I got very haughty, pretentious answers. Kinda like when you ask a 5 year old what they want for dinner and they respond with "Food." Helpful. Very. THAT was my point.
I could truly give a flying crap about what a bunch of people on a board who hide behind internet alters think about my wedding. I thought it would be nice to come on and do some brainstorming with some fellow brides and instead it seems like a great place to get hen pecked. I've seen this in EVERY post I've read on this board from someone being told their decorating ideas were horrendous to the fact that wearing cowboy boots is tacky. Nice ladies. Way to be supportive & constructive! But hey, nobody on here will ever meet you or know how you *really* are, so you can say whatever you'd like, with as little tact as possible. Internet bullying is fun! And women seem so good at it.  
I haven't tried to defend myself against ANY of my remarks made, nor have I made stereotypes about anyone (perhaps look up the definition). I do think you need to unbunch your overly sensitive, feminist panties though. Saying that that there is too much estrogen is slightly politer a way of saying "Boy, things go downhill FAST when too many women congregate all in the same spot.". And Midol - tends to deal with PMS - mood swings. Definitely not anti woman, actually a really helpful little pill that can make you feel a little more level.

I'm not sure whether I should recommend a science book or a dictionary to you as it appears you could benefit from both.  At the very least, maybe read a label of Midol and see what it actually does. 

Devonshire22

Oooh ouch. Now who's slingin' mud.

Now tell me.. if you've got cramps, backache, bloating etc... and if Midol helps with this.... then I'm really not all that far fetched in saying it can help with bitchy/crankiness am I?

*toot*toot* it's a trainwreck! Who wants popcorn? I'd be a very ungracious host if I didn't feed everyone during this nice long, ever so pointless discussion. Beverages?

Devonshire22

 

Viczaesar

Devonshire22 said:

Jump on that bandwagon too. It's a party!

The bandwagon of being able to read with our own eyes your stereotyping and childish attempts to deflect criticism? 

Quit while you're behind.  You just look silly, frankly.

NYCBruin

Viczaesar said:

Devonshire22 said:

Jump on that bandwagon too. It's a party!

The bandwagon of being able to read with our own eyes your stereotyping and childish attempts to deflect criticism? 

Quit while you're behind.  You just look silly, frankly.

This.  The best way to get out of a hole is to stop digging.

Viczaesar

Devonshire22 said:

Oooh ouch. Now who's slingin' mud.

Now tell me.. if you've got cramps, backache, bloating etc... and if Midol helps with this.... then I'm really not all that far fetched in saying it can help with bitchy/crankiness am I?

*toot*toot* it's a trainwreck! Who wants popcorn? I'd be a very ungracious host if I didn't feed everyone during this nice long, ever so pointless discussion. Beverages?

Again with the ridiculous attempts to deflect.  Why not try a glass of wine or a strong margarita instead? 

Devonshire22

LOL I'm not trying to defend anything. Seriously. I'm trying to prove a point. I.e. How ridiculously OFF TOPIC can this whole friggen thread get! Good lord. We are seriously bickering about MIDOL?!?! Sorry but who is ridiculous? Looks like I've got plenty of company down in this hole of mine and lots of help digging it.

NYCBruin

Devonshire22 said:

Oooh ouch. Now who's slingin' mud.

Now tell me.. if you've got cramps, backache, bloating etc... and if Midol helps with this.... then I'm really not all that far fetched in saying it can help with bitchy/crankiness am I?

*toot*toot* it's a trainwreck! Who wants popcorn? I'd be a very ungracious host if I didn't feed everyone during this nice long, ever so pointless discussion. Beverages?

Maybe?  Probably not, but regardless that's not what you said in your original post.  Seriously, you just look stupid when you try to "defend" yourself like this.  Everyone knows what you actually said (which wasn't this) since you were quoted.

Stop digging.  That hole is getting pretty deep.

Devonshire22

And I seem to have some top shelf company, don't I?

NYCBruin

Devonshire22 said:

LOL I'm not trying to defend anything. Seriously. I'm trying to prove a point. I.e. How ridiculously OFF TOPIC can this whole friggen thread get! Good lord. We are seriously bickering about MIDOL?!?! Sorry but who is ridiculous? Looks like I've got plenty of company down in this hole of mine and lots of help digging it.

This is an internet forum.  There is pretty much no such thing as off topic.  You say something stupid, someone is going to comment on it.  "Your" thread got off-topic because YOU started throwing around personal insults.

huskypuppy14

You started it devonshire. Posters on this thread were giving you some ideas. Others said the details didn't matter- therefore they probably weren't wowed by anything other than being hosted properly. Just because you didn't like the answers, you started your nasty comments. Pot meet kettle. 

Devonshire22

Lets see, I went back and re-read the whole thread and THIS is where things started to go off topic. 

Devonshire22 said:

Yes, I think we get that point. Horse has been beaten to a pulp on the gracious good host thing. It'd be really *nice* if we could share some nice ideas that people have seen at weddings as Commitment Cat said. The point of this whole post was to have a positive discussion instead of the usual assumption filled judgemental statements. Perhaps we should start a post on fussy, judgemental guests with over the top expectations next? :P

You can't tell people how to post. Get over it. Also, as PP said, read the Best Wedding You've Been To thread. If it will make you feel better you can cut and paste it here.

Edited because I can haz spelling problems on a Friday afternoon.

Lets see, I see nothing where I said anything anti-woman, or stereotypical. If you read above where this post was, you can see where another poster also tried to get things back on topic. AGAIN, a topic that was started as a well meaning question and while the first bunch of responses were helpful & constructive, then came the un-necessary snark. And then my attempt to recognize that things were sliding sideways and going off topic as well.

Yes it's an internet forum and yes things can go off topic but this is beyond ridiculous. Why is it so hard/insulting to ask that a topic stay, on subject??

 

And BTW, can you go back to where I started throwing personal insults? Can you check to whom I was replying to? Was it you? No. Perhaps fight your own battles or don't start an un-necessary one. YOU threw this whole topic into the horrible trainwreck that it is.
 

Devonshire22

laurynm84 said:

You started it devonshire. Posters on this thread were giving you some ideas. Others said the details didn't matter- therefore they probably weren't wowed by anything other than being hosted properly. Just because you didn't like the answers, you started your nasty comments. Pot meet kettle. 

No, it wasn't that I wasn't wow'd by the responses that I had, some of the responses seemed very unhelpful. "Be a gracious host". Okaaaaaaay.... what makes a host gracious? Saying the same thing over and over with added snark each time, isn't really helpful. Don't you think?

Devonshire22

Lobster1987 said:

Where do these people come from? The lame brides who keep posting stupid shit here never cease to amaze me.

Agreed.

Devonshire22

Aww, so nice. (I figured you meant me)

Devonshire22

So nice to hide behind a keyboard and sling mud isn't it? Gotta love internet forums for that. Nobody will eeeeever know who you are in real life, so you can say whatever you want. Truly a special bunch you are.

NYCBruin

Devonshire22 said:

Lets see, I went back and re-read the whole thread and THIS is where things started to go off topic. 

Devonshire22 said:

Yes, I think we get that point. Horse has been beaten to a pulp on the gracious good host thing. It'd be really *nice* if we could share some nice ideas that people have seen at weddings as Commitment Cat said. The point of this whole post was to have a positive discussion instead of the usual assumption filled judgemental statements. Perhaps we should start a post on fussy, judgemental guests with over the top expectations next? :P

You can't tell people how to post. Get over it. Also, as PP said, read the Best Wedding You've Been To thread. If it will make you feel better you can cut and paste it here.

Edited because I can haz spelling problems on a Friday afternoon.

Lets see, I see nothing where I said anything anti-woman, or stereotypical. If you read above where this post was, you can see where another poster also tried to get things back on topic. AGAIN, a topic that was started as a well meaning question and while the first bunch of responses were helpful & constructive, then came the un-necessary snark. And then my attempt to recognize that things were sliding sideways and going off topic as well.

Yes it's an internet forum and yes things can go off topic but this is beyond ridiculous. Why is it so hard/insulting to ask that a topic stay, on subject??

 

And BTW, can you go back to where I started throwing personal insults? Can you check to whom I was replying to? Was it you? No. Perhaps fight your own battles or don't start an un-necessary one. YOU threw this whole topic into the horrible trainwreck that it is.
 

If you're going to insult half the population, don't be surprised when someone (OMG who wasn't even the person you were insulting) calls you out on your bullshit even if it's "off-topic."  

You can't control how people post.  Just because you started a thread doesn't mean it revolves around you. 

If you don't like it here, LEAVE.  Seriously, why are you still here?

NYCBruin

Lobster1987 said:

NYCBruin said:

 

If you're going to insult half the population, don't be surprised when someone (OMG who wasn't even the person you were insulting) calls you out on your bullshit even if it's "off-topic."  

You can't control how people post.  Just because you started a thread doesn't mean it revolves around you. 

If you don't like it here, LEAVE.  Seriously, why are you still here?

She enjoys the attention she is getting.

Too true.  She reminds me of that girl from WB JeniD or something whose PPD photos were "ruined" and insisted that everyone here was obsessed with her.

Devonshire22

I truly don't see how I insulted half the population. Please, a quote of the exact "offending statement" that I made. I do think you're being REALLY over-sensitive here.

I never said it revolved around ME, I specifically started it NOT about ME. Just saying, if you don't want to post something ON topic, why post at all?

Perhaps this is way too much fun toying with a bunch of utter drama queens. Why leave when things are just getting warmed up?

Why do YOU keep on posting? I'm obviously just a rude, stupid, woman-hating, faux pas person without a hope. You're trying to prove how wrong I am and perhaps I'm trying to get you to look in the mirror too. It takes two to tango sweety.

NYCBruin

You really don't know what's offensive about playing into "women are so hormonal and mean when they're on their periods" stereotypes, I feel sorry for you.  I can only assume there is so much of that surrounding you in your life that you think it's normal and thus ok.  This attitude is part of the reason why women have a harder time getting the money and respect that is handed to their male counterparts.  If that doesn't make sense to you then: