I'm putting together programs for our full mass wedding, but keep going back and forth on how detailed they should be. I would estimate that only about 25% of our guestlist is Catholic (my fiance and I, a handful of friends from the churches we've belonged to over the years, and half of my fiance's family) so most would be unfamiliar with a mass. I've been to one Catholic wedding (not a full mass) that went through what the priest said, the responses, and the readings- but that becomes a huge program quickly and I'm not sure it is necessary since many people in attendance wouldn't necessarily want to fully participate anyway due to religious differences. I'm not sure how to strike a balance between letting people know what is going on, enabling them to participate where they feel comfortable doing so (and helping out Catholics who haven't been to a nuptial mass before), but not pressuring people into participating or wasting paper. This has become something of a flashpoint between me and my not-Catholic family who already think I'm being divisive and noninclusive by having a mass in the first place, sigh. Does anyone have any thoughts that could help? Thank you!