What to spend wedding money gifts on?

Sembree1

(also posted in registering and gifts:)

When you receive cash as a wedding present, what is it appropriate to spend that money on? We were thinking of saving it to help pay for our honeymoon about 3 months after the wedding, or do we need to use it to finish buying things off our registry, etc?

Thanks in advance!

photokitty

It's your money and you can spend it on whatever you want.

AddieCake

Ceramic roosters. All wedding money is to be spent on ceramic roosters. It's the law. 

artbyallie

AddieL73 said:

Ceramic roosters. All wedding money is to be spent on ceramic roosters. It's the law. 

Or a metal one, if you get enough cash.

banana468

I went really romantic and paid off the bulk of DH's student loans. There's nothing sexier than reducing your debt!

manateehugger

banana468 said:

I went really romantic and paid off the bulk of DH's student loans. There's nothing sexier than reducing your debt!

Lol I'm pretty sure this is what the lion's share of our wedding money will go toward. 

JoanE2012

Spend it however you'd like!  We put it into our savings account and have since bought a home and are busy furnishing and decorating it.  

AddieCake

Hell, yeah, Allie.You know Beyonce is the only true way to go!

mysticl

We deposited the checks in the bank account and the cash went in our wallets.  We just used it to live off of.  I'm an incredibly practical person so if you give me cash as a gift I'm buying food or paying the electric bill.  If there is something specific you want me to have you either have to give me the item or at least a gift card to that store.  

APDSS22

Car payment was where a lot of ours went.  We're obviously sentimental.

WinstonsGirl

Ours went into the joint account, planned to use it for our landscaping.  I'm sure it actually just went to paying vendors, but it all comes out of the same account anyway.  One person did specify it was for an elm tree in the backyard.  Our landscapers just had us pick out trees and we've paid them for the work, but we had this person over and showed her the tree she "paid" for.  She was happy to see it as they're her favourite tree

JustNicki

Ours will probably go toward bills, or we might put it towards a new dishwasher since ours is crap. When it comes to the thank yous, though, it seems uncouth to say the money was spent on bills. What do you say in that scenario?

WinstonsGirl

We said all of our was going towards landscaping, even though we already had enough in savings to pay for that.  But is went into that account.  You could say a new dishwasher, towards the house.  You don't have to be too specific, as long as you're giving people a general idea of what's it's used for.  

phira

We're buying a new sofa and a new bed, and the rest goes into the wedding account ... which will be renamed the house downpayment account.

annathy03

We're holding off on furniture until after the wedding (we bought a house last year and several rooms are barren or have a guest bed with no nightstands, etc), so we will probably use cash gifts for that and indicate so on the TYs. Agree with PPs if they didn't specify something to use it on that you can use it as you please, using it for your honeymoon is fine.

mysticl

JustNicki said:

Ours will probably go toward bills, or we might put it towards a new dishwasher since ours is crap. When it comes to the thank yous, though, it seems uncouth to say the money was spent on bills. What do you say in that scenario?

"Thank you for your generous gift."  Then a line or two about how much you enjoyed them attending the wedding or how sorry you were they couldn't make it.  

s-aries8990

Just go to DSW. Bam!

melbelleup

I'm planning on using mine for stuff off the registry we didn't get (my guess, probably our dishes because they're insanely priced), most likely a car since both FI and I have cars ready to kick it, and pay off credit card.

photokitty

artbyallie said:

AddieL73 said:

Ceramic roosters. All wedding money is to be spent on ceramic roosters. It's the law. 

Or a metal one, if you get enough cash.

You can, in fact, buy anything as long as it is not towels. It's all about perspective...now you have it

Lizzieyounce

Unless the towels are embroidered with "Knock Knock Motherfucker".  Then they're okay.

HisGirlFriday13

I just wrote, "Thank you for your generous gift. There are several items we are saving for, and your generosity will help us get them" in the cards for people who gave us cash or cheques. 

For gift cards, if they were for stores where we had registered, I wrote, "Thank you for your generous gift. We look forward to completing some of our registry items with it. DH has his eye on pint glasses/I want another set of our everyday dishes/I have my eye on the coffee set from our good china pattern" whatever. I filled in what we were likely to buy with it based on the size of the gift card. For the most part, we used them how I planned we would, but not exactly.

We ended up going to TJMaxx this weekend, and we got a lot of stuff that was on our registries there for much cheaper than BB&B or Target, so we did that.

But unlike wedding-planning money, wedding-gift money comes with no strings attached -- spend it however you want!

lovesclimbing

Ours will probably go toward bills, or we might put it towards a new dishwasher since ours is crap. When it comes to the thank yous, though, it seems uncouth to say the money was spent on bills. What do you say in that scenario?

Stupid quote box:

You could say that it went toward a dishwasher.  A lot of ours did go toward bills.  However, I think we did say "we're using it towards some cast iron cookware." or vacuum or something.  I don't view that as lying.  Yes, the exact dollars they gave did go towards bills at a time when money was tight.  However, we did buy cast iron cookware a couple months later when we had more money.  So, because that exact money went toward bills, we had extra later on to buy cookware.  So yes, their money did help us to buy our cookware, even if those exact dollars didn't go to it.  KWIM?

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s-aries8990 said:

Just go to DSW. Bam!

Is it tacky to put on the invites "all cash given will be spent on new and wonderful shoe purchases??" Lmao

Pepper6

We put most of our cash gifts back into our vacation savings account (since that's what we used to pay for our HM).  Then we went on another vacation to Hawaii 3 months later.  Oh...and we bought a down comforter because they had one at the hotel we stayed at on our HM and it was heaven!  That was definitely money well spent!

s-aries8990

clairekundinger said:

Just go to DSW. Bam!

Is it tacky to put on the invites "all cash given will be spent on new and wonderful shoe purchases??" Lmao

Not if you say it in a poem!
"We welcome gifts of cash and checks
because new shoes, the bride expects!
Heels and flat and wedges too
are so her personal style can ring true.
But if you are insistent to give her dishes,
she'll have to call all y'all bitches."

lol

dramamonkey

s-aries8990 said:

clairekundinger said:

Just go to DSW. Bam!

Is it tacky to put on the invites "all cash given will be spent on new and wonderful shoe purchases??" Lmao

Not if you say it in a poem!
"We welcome gifts of cash and checks
because new shoes, the bride expects!
Heels and flat and wedges too
are so her personal style can ring true.
But if you are insistent to give her dishes,
she'll have to call all y'all bitches."

lol

Best.poem.ever. 

CLI242009

If we receive any money we're going to put it in a savings account and save it towards our first house. ^_^ 

Although it becomes your money once you receive it so it's up to you. Unless someone specifies, I wouldn't think to use it for anything else.