My mother and her suggestions...

katieg520

So I posted this morning in Etiquette about my mom's recent suggestion about a B-list. *insert eye roll Then, my mom gave me another wonderful suggestion (*insert eye roll and sarcasm).

So I had a BM leave my wedding party for a variety of reasons that are not relevant to this post, so that means that the "bride's side" and the "groom's side" are now uneven. Who cares, right? My mom does. She suggested I ask my brother's gf to be a BM. Um what? First of all, she would know she was second choice - or I shall call this "Bridal party B-listed." Second of all, I don't even frikkin know this girl!!! I have met her like three times because she and my brother have only been together a few months. Who knows if they'll last or be together much longer. Even if they do, let me reiterate I DON'T EVEN KNOW HER!!! I mean, we are friends on facebook now, lol, but that's about it.

*facepalm

MrsRadke

There is a nice girl down the street, I don't know her name, but she would probably fit in the dress. You can always ask her to stand up and support you on one of the most important days of your life.

doeydo

Even sides don't matter.  Also, no one gets to pick your BMs for you.

Emmy1493

Agree with Doeydo. It's perfectly fine to have uneven sides. She cannot choose for you. Especially if you don't even know her. Your bridal party is made up of all the ladies who are your closest and dearest friends. To stand up there by your side as your are marrying the love of your life. Not to fill in a bunch of people you don't know because your sides aren't even. Hope she comes to terms soon.

APDSS22

Tell your mom that you're only inviting people to be in your bridal party that you'd have help move a dead body and your brother's gf just doesn't have the upper body strength or an SUV so you'd have to count her out.  *Only if you can do it perfectly straight-faced though*

climbingsingle

Ugh. My mother had the worst ideas and suggestions for my first wedding. Her and my dad paid for the whole thing, so I kept my mouth shut about a lot. But she talked me into so many bad idea. I still cringe when I think about it. 

JMalettas

  I totally agree with the previous posts, that there is nothing wrong with uneven sides, & that I'd *never* agree to having some "random" be in my wedding party! You have to look at those pictures for the rest of your life! Who wants the bridal party pic, with 'that' girl that your brother may have once dated?? I don't see anything wrong with uneven sides, but if you're going to make it even, there has to be *someone* you can ask, that you know! That way twenty years from now, you're not looking at your wedding pics, trying to remember her name! :P 

 Good luck!

 *J

erinlin25

my mom and dad totally had weird ideas too.  I thought my mom would be the one to drive me nuts, but my dad was the crazy one, lol.  He was all about a B list-- do not worry it did not happen-- and I don't remember exactly what he went on about but I remember the open bar was a convo with him too.  They were annoyed we did not want to do the money dance;  and my dad was all about the DJ!! he sent me a huge playlist to give the DJ (of totally random songs) and tried to pick the music for the ceremony and reception...hold up, back up daddy-o!  I let him pick the father/daughter song and picked a few of his requests to add-- he still complains the DJ did not play all of his songs.

My mom originally had a fit that I wanted purple shoes and let my girls wear any silver shoe they wanted.  Of course day of she commented on how lovely everyone's shoes were; especially mine.  and oh, I did not have a MOH, just all BMs. No way could I pick between my 3 best friends... she wanted me to pick one because she "would probably do the most for me." oye. 

Our poor parents get so stuck on "the way it used to be." 

PolarBearFitz

TheFutureMrsRohlman22 said:

Tell your mom that you're only inviting people to be in your bridal party that you'd have help move a dead body and your brother's gf just doesn't have the upper body strength or an SUV so you'd have to count her out.  *Only if you can do it perfectly straight-faced though*

This!!!!!!! lol.