Recently engaged, at the early stages of planning, I have already picked out my bridesmaids. My mother came to me last night expressing far more than a modest amount of concern over my FI's sister being a BM. His sister, who I adore for who she is, has many large tattoos on both of her arms, covering both shoulders. My mother feels I need to seriously reconsider having her in my BP solely because she has these "blasphemous things" that won't be easy to hide. I could care less, although I do understand where my mother is coming from. She doesn't want me to regret the "bimbo, slutty, tattooed- ruined" pictures (her words, not mine), but we are living in a different world.
A little insight: my mother hates (sorry, strongly dislikes) his mother. And now his sister. What else could go wrong?!
Oh, except maybe that she told me the following: if I don't tell her she's out of the wedding, then she is going to tell her off about her ugly tattoos and force her out the hard way. Just peachy.
Don't get me wrong, I told my mother off. Don't tell me to ignore my mother. Don't tell me that it is my wedding and that I chose my bridesmaids for who they are and that it would be wrong of me to ask her to cover them. Don't tell me that my judgmental guests and family (on both sides) will have to keep their opinions to themselves about it, because it will be my day.
I need ideas on solutions to make everyone happy. I want a smooth day, not a disaster. Maybe dress ideas, granted we are having an outdoor ceremony in Minnesota at the end of September? Maybe ways to take on the situation from both sides, seeing as I haven't talked to anybody about the situation yet.