On behalf of the 2013ers - THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR POSTING all this wonderful advice!!! I was trying to avoid posting on here to let you guys fill it all with your wisdom. I promise we are actually very sweet and sociable. Congrats to you all on your beautiful weddings and seriousy, thank you a ton for sharing your wisdom!! (Ok I'm gonna go stalk your married bios now...
edit: woops, getting2vowels got here before me to say this lol. but it still stands!! ok back to stalking.
im a july '13 bride. i was reading everyones stuff lol. we are hoping to get married on tybee island in GA. i have no patience. lol im planning this from cali and then moving beginning of year to ga with a bunny and pitbull. lol im in beginning plans of getting info from venues for ceremony and reception. i email only company on the 26th regarding questions got no response resent email on the 3rd thinking didnt receive first email (giving benefit of doubt) as of today no response. thats rude to me. if want my business shouldnt take weeks to get a response back so i emailed them today and told them im done with them so to speak and told them no need to respond to email that they have lost my business.
my FI is being good bout ideas and stuff but bother me cause i ask him for ideas and he says i like yours and havent thought of any. i point blank asked him do you want me to plan and you just show up. his answer was no lol i was like then help.
never thought about how go bathroom but thanks for the advice ladies.
im not worried bout pple not showing up i would be disappointed.. i would also be shocked and dismayed if someone told me they cant show then just show up thats rude too. for the most part all our pple have to drive. i will be living in atl yet tybee island is 6 hr drive away and family in cali, and va. they will have to book hotel so hopefully that will keep pple from just not showing up.
questions- 1) how do i keep pple from being hurt about not being invited? 2) how do i keep emotions down when dress shopping when my mom has passsed? 3) if you dont have a dad who walked you down the aisle?
my idea for walking down aisle is to have my daughter's boyfriend. they have been together for 3 yrs will be 4 by time married. i call him my kid. good idea or not?
im in my 40s so that why my kid a lil older than most.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_july-2013-weddings_july-12-brides-invasion-our-advice-to-july-13-brides?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:a322ad2c-25cd-4d52-b123-096e1e4ecda5Discussion:a215cf8b-e67d-45f6-b917-c0029818bde0Post:dfd1ea9d-c65a-4fcb-8d9a-4240c9b65762">Re: July '12 Brides Invasion: Our Advice to July '13 Brides!</a>: [QUOTE]1) how do i keep pple from being hurt about not being invited? 2) how do i keep emotions down when dress shopping when my mom has passsed? 3) if you dont have a dad who walked you down the aisle? my idea for walking down aisle is to have my daughter's boyfriend. they have been together for 3 yrs will be 4 by time married. i call him my kid. good idea or not? im in my 40s so that why my kid a lil older than most. Posted by southerncutie[/QUOTE]
Congrats on your wedding! 1) Don't talk about the wedding with anyone who isn't invited. Don't talk about it in mixed company and do not post about it on FB.
2) Emotions are emotions - let them rip! It'll be hard, for sure, but it's all part of the process. Just think about how happy a time it is that you're getting married! My dad passed 11 years ago, and parts of the wedding process were really hard for me (like, when people kept mentioning the "Father of the Bride" doing xyz . . . ) but I just reminding myself about the point of the wedding - it's a happy time for you and your fiance and you're starting the rest of your life together!
3) My mom walked me down the aisle, but really anyone can! I like your idea, but would you be ok with walking down yourself? Or even with your daughter? Either way, it's all your choice! You can do whatever makes you happy -- it's your and your fiance's day!
For some reason it won't let me quote but I copy/pasted 1) how do i keep pple from being hurt about not being invited? You can't really. Unfortunatly its going to happen. Just try not to come out and say "oh your not invited". Instead say things like "We both have a lot of family" or "Theres just not enough room for everyone we would have liked". I know I had one "friend" in a group who I did not invite and it was hard but it was the right decision and you being happy is more important than them on that day. 2) how do i keep emotions down when dress shopping when my mom has passsed? First let me say, I'm sorry about your mom. While I do have mine I will say this, its going to be emotional, theres no way around it. You can try and keep it down by just having fun with it. Also, if you feel comfortable, tell your consultant, they can help. 3) if you dont have a dad who walked you down the aisle?
my idea for walking down aisle is to have my daughter's boyfriend. they have been together for 3 yrs will be 4 by time married. i call him my kid. good idea or not? I wouldn't have the boyfriend do it. What if they break up? Then he'll be in all your pictures. There is nothing wrong with walking down alone. Or have your daughter walk with you. Nothing says it has to be a guy.
180 invited
145 are ready to party
35 are missing out
0! can't find the mailbox
rsvp's due back June 20th!
i dont care bout coming alone but always thought someone would lol. my daughter doesnt even want to be MOH she wants no responsiblity lol she said ill stand there with flowers as long as no blue or pink lol i dont even like those colors so not sure but neither does she thats where that was coming from. i told her sage green she said i dont like green either but you my mom and i love you so for you i will wear green lol
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_july-2013-weddings_july-12-brides-invasion-our-advice-to-july-13-brides?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:a322ad2c-25cd-4d52-b123-096e1e4ecda5Discussion:a215cf8b-e67d-45f6-b917-c0029818bde0Post:dfd1ea9d-c65a-4fcb-8d9a-4240c9b65762">Re: July '12 Brides Invasion: Our Advice to July '13 Brides!</a>: [QUOTE] questions- 1) how do i keep pple from being hurt about not being invited? 2) how do i keep emotions down when dress shopping when my mom has passsed? 3) if you dont have a dad who walked you down the aisle? my idea for walking down aisle is to have my daughter's boyfriend. they have been together for 3 yrs will be 4 by time married. i call him my kid. good idea or not? im in my 40s so that why my kid a lil older than most. Posted by southerncutie[/QUOTE]
For Question 1 - You won't be able to. Like PP said, don't talk about the wedding with people who aren't invited and don't post a lot about it on FB. But...we still had people who weren't invited bring it up to us. One acquaintance of H's point blank asked if he was going to be invited. H, thankfully, told him we were trying to keep the wedding small, to only close family and friends. It made me feel bad, but personally, I think it's super rude to ask someone you barely know if you're going to get an invitation. We had some other poeple get a little upset that someone else they knew (who we barely knew) weren't invited. In the end, you have to invite who you and FI want there and go with it.
So far Ive read just the first few posts and I need to say to butterflyjumper, your post about the immodium I will take with me forever lol! Ive been a nervous pooper all my life, sorry TMI, and I couldnt imagine having to go minutes before the ceremony with a huge gown on. From the bottom of my heart, THANK YOU!!!
Seriously, it makes me want to laugh and cry all at once that you all took the time out to share with us. I didnt think Id want a DOC, and cant even think of anyone whom I can appoint to this task, but it looks like I'll be needing one.
Going back to reading the rest....
ok i have a far diff thing. when everyone chose their dates did they take into consideration their cycle? lol my worst fear is to be leaking on my day or having to take tampons and shove in FI pocket.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_july-2013-weddings_july-12-brides-invasion-our-advice-to-july-13-brides?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:a322ad2c-25cd-4d52-b123-096e1e4ecda5Discussion:a215cf8b-e67d-45f6-b917-c0029818bde0Post:6dcd4255-6ee5-43c6-ab8f-2d4fb454e32d">Re: July '12 Brides Invasion: Our Advice to July '13 Brides!</a>: [QUOTE]ok i have a far diff thing. when everyone chose their dates did they take into consideration their cycle? lol my worst fear is to be leaking on my day or having to take tampons and shove in FI pocket. Posted by southerncutie[/QUOTE]
Lol no b/c that would have been way to hard to figure out 2 years ahead of time. We were engaged for 2 years. I am on birth control so I actually was able to skip it 2 months before the wedding so when the wedding came I got it 2 weeks before the wedding so I was fine for the wedding and the honeymoon.
In Response to Re:July '12 Brides Invasion: Our Advice to July '13 Brides!:[QUOTE]ok i have a far diff thing.nbsp; when everyone chose their dates did they take into consideration their cycle? lol my worst fear is to be leaking on my day or having to take tampons and shove in FI pocket. Posted by southerncutie[/QUOTE]
I never thought about this. If it happens, it happens. Maybe have an emergency kit handy?
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_july-2013-weddings_july-12-brides-invasion-our-advice-to-july-13-brides?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:a322ad2c-25cd-4d52-b123-096e1e4ecda5Discussion:a215cf8b-e67d-45f6-b917-c0029818bde0Post:6dcd4255-6ee5-43c6-ab8f-2d4fb454e32d">Re: July '12 Brides Invasion: Our Advice to July '13 Brides!</a>: [QUOTE]ok i have a far diff thing. when everyone chose their dates did they take into consideration their cycle? lol my worst fear is to be leaking on my day or having to take tampons and shove in FI pocket. Posted by southerncutie[/QUOTE]
As PP mention - I'm on bc pill too, so this never even crossed my mind. You could always buy a cute clutch so you don't have to keep them in FI's pocket though.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_july-2013-weddings_july-12-brides-invasion-our-advice-to-july-13-brides?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:a322ad2c-25cd-4d52-b123-096e1e4ecda5Discussion:a215cf8b-e67d-45f6-b917-c0029818bde0Post:f72b4f3c-fd22-4955-96c9-063fc0638c77">Re: July '12 Brides Invasion: Our Advice to July '13 Brides!</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: July '12 Brides Invasion: Our Advice to July '13 Brides! : Lol no b/c that would have been way to hard to figure out 2 years ahead of time. We were engaged for 2 years. I am on birth control so I actually was able to skip it 2 months before the wedding so when the wedding came I got it 2 weeks before the wedding so I was fine for the wedding and the honeymoon. Posted by LADY324[/QUOTE]
Thank you ladies for all of your wonderful advice! It's so nice to hear some un biased advice/opinions. One of my bridesmaids got married last June, and while I love her, she thinks that I need to everything like she did. Her wedding was beautiful and fun and totally about her and her FH, but my FH and I are just different and have different ideas about what's important. So, I've had to take everything she says with a grain of salt and then worry about offending her if I don't take her advice. Keep the advice coming! I'm sorry you thought we weren't watching, I didn't want to interrupt all of the fabulous advice!
I had my period on my wedding day. Like LADY said, my engagement was way too long to take that into consideration for the date. Besides, even if I had, it wouldn't have mattered. I was supposed to get it about 10 days before, which would have been perfect, but I was late. Probably due to all of the stress. But by my wedding day it was like the 4th day of it so it wasn't a big deal to me. It was so light by then. (sorry for the TMI, but you guys asked!)
Clean & Clear Oil Absorbing Sheets so you can de-sweatify your face without ruining your makeup. July is hot, even when it's not that hot, especially in a wedding gown!
I'll add another comment about how fast the wedding day goes by - at first I wans't buying in to this b/c I was calm and couldn't wait to get to the church. But to me, the reception was when time disappeared. Like another poster said, going around to all the tables to greet everyone took a lot longer than expected. And even though we were the first to go through the buffet, we weren't able to eat as fast as we had hoped b/c people kept coming up to talk to us. In the end, I think we at least greeted everyone, but while we were on the honeymoon, I kept thinking, "I should have danced less and spent more time talking to so and so" or H would ask me "Did you hug aunt so and so". I've talked to a few of the people I was thinking about and everyone understands seems to understand that there's a lot of people to talk to and that you should have fun and dance (or do whatever you like on your day), but it still bugs me a little...mostly worried about H's aunt I'm not sure I hugged...
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_july-2013-weddings_july-12-brides-invasion-our-advice-to-july-13-brides?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:a322ad2c-25cd-4d52-b123-096e1e4ecda5Discussion:a215cf8b-e67d-45f6-b917-c0029818bde0Post:6dcd4255-6ee5-43c6-ab8f-2d4fb454e32d">Re: July '12 Brides Invasion: Our Advice to July '13 Brides!</a>: [QUOTE]ok i have a far diff thing. when everyone chose their dates did they take into consideration their cycle? lol my worst fear is to be leaking on my day or having to take tampons and shove in FI pocket. Posted by southerncutie[/QUOTE]
Jumping in here...congrats everyone! This year is going to go SOOOOO FAST!
This was a HUGE concern of mine, but I did not take it into consideration when picking a date. I had been off of b/c for a while, then realized about two months before that the darn thing was probably going to make an appearance. So I went back on b/c for those two months and managed to avoid it :) I did totally screw up my cycle, and it was actually quite annoying because I started about four days after our wedding (and it didn't stop for THREE WEEKS)...but I avoided it on the wedding day and that's all that mattered to me LOL
In Response to Re:July '12 Brides Invasion: Our Advice to July '13 Brides!:[QUOTE]Ooo I thought of something else!Clean amp; Clear Oil Absorbing Sheets so you can desweatify your face without ruining your makeup. July is hot, even when it's not that hot, especially in a wedding gown! Posted by bridetobe71412[/QUOTE]
This was in someones link for the day of emergency kit and i'll be investing in these for sure. Is it bad I want to make a kit now? Lol. I keep thinking of how I can rig up a tiny fan under my dress too haha
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I also had a photographer friend who suggested putting a layer of tissue paper (like to use when wrapping gifts) between myself and the bodice of my dress - to absorb sweat. I did this for my bridal portraits (which were taken outside in June in the 97 degree heat) in addition to baby powder and it worked really well. If you're planning on having an outdoor wedding and your dress allows it, you might consider it.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_july-2013-weddings_july-12-brides-invasion-our-advice-to-july-13-brides?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:a322ad2c-25cd-4d52-b123-096e1e4ecda5Discussion:a215cf8b-e67d-45f6-b917-c0029818bde0Post:0f227b8f-0a03-488a-81df-f50a51c0836a">Re:July '12 Brides Invasion: Our Advice to July '13 Brides!</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re:July '12 Brides Invasion: Our Advice to July '13 Brides!: This was in someones link for the day of emergency kit and i'll be investing in these for sure. Is it bad I want to make a kit now? Lol. <strong>I keep thinking of how I can rig up a tiny fan under my dress too haha </strong>Posted by Getting2Vowels[/QUOTE]
If you can make this happen, 1) you're my hero, and 2) you will make a bazillion dollars off of all future brides!
ok i have a far diff thing. when everyone chose their dates did they take into consideration their cycle? lol my worst fear is to be leaking on my day or having to take tampons and shove in FI pocket.
I tried to take it into account but it was hard, even on BC, at a year and a half out. Talk to your OB/GYN. When she found out I was engaged mine told me to call her as soon as I knew if I was going to have it. Then were going to work something out so i wouldn't have it. Luckily it wasn't a problem for me, though it was close (Wedding Sunday, started Tuesday after that).
180 invited
145 are ready to party
35 are missing out
0! can't find the mailbox
rsvp's due back June 20th!
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_july-2013-weddings_july-12-brides-invasion-our-advice-to-july-13-brides?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:a322ad2c-25cd-4d52-b123-096e1e4ecda5Discussion:a215cf8b-e67d-45f6-b917-c0029818bde0Post:0f227b8f-0a03-488a-81df-f50a51c0836a">Re:July '12 Brides Invasion: Our Advice to July '13 Brides!</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re:July '12 Brides Invasion: Our Advice to July '13 Brides!: This was in someones link for the day of emergency kit and i'll be investing in these for sure. Is it bad I want to make a kit now? Lol. <strong>I keep thinking of how I can rig up a tiny fan under my dress too</strong> haha Posted by Getting2Vowels[/QUOTE]
LOL I was thinking of this too...but my mom brought one of those tower fans to our "getting ready room" at the venue and that thing was a LIFE SAVER! After pictures out in the heat, I stood in front of it and lifted my dress up to air out lol Other people loved that we had the fan as well...I don't know what your venue is like, but if you have kind of a private room (it's where all of our WP went before our reception entrance), I highly recommend it!!! That July heat is killer!
Also, to anyone considering a petticoat under their dress, especially for an outdoor ceremony/reception, I highly recommend a hoop instead, for air flow if nothing else. My mom had purchased a petticoat with my dress, but standing in the air conditioned seamstress's house with a fan on me, I was still about to pass out, so I nixed it completely. I ended up not wanting the look of it anyway, but if you need it, try a hoop before you buy!
In Response to Re:July '12 Brides Invasion: Our Advice to July '13 Brides!:In Response to Re:July '12 Brides Invasion: Our Advice to July '13 Brides!:In Response to Re:July '12 Brides Invasion: Our Advice to July '13 Brides!: This was in someones link for the day of emergency kit and i'll be investing in these for sure. Is it bad I want to make a kit now? Lol. I keep thinking of how I can rig up a tiny fan under my dress too hahaPosted by Getting2VowelsIf you can make this happen, 1 you're my hero, and 2 you will make a bazillion dollars off of all future brides! Posted by bridetobe71412
Hmmm... they have those little water spritzer fans. Fan minus water plus ipod velcro. I may be onto something here.... its too bad theres so much tulle and layering under most dresses. Knowing my luck, or lack thereof, it'd get caught, cut me to pieces and I'd bleed out during the ceremony. Maybe a diaper to catch the bloody mess...haha
My adivice to all of you is to enjoy every minute of the day. I know you will hear this lots, but it's important. The morning of my wedding I tried my best to just relax. Peope kept going on and on about how we must not have anything to do that day and asking me what I was going to wear. It started to get really annoying and I just ignored them. They eventually got the hint and stopped, it made the day way better to not have comments like that. I was trying to just relax and not get stressed about things.
Same thing later in the morning... it was raining super hard when we left for the ceremony and everyone was getting stressed that we would be late. I just said "I'm the bride, the wedding can't start without me so just relax!" As it turned out we made it to the venue 5 minutes before the ceremony was scheduled to start. This was perfect timing as it didn't give me time to get all worked up before walking down the aisle.
So enjoy your planning, delegate to friends, and slow down and enjoy every minute of your special day!
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_july-2013-weddings_july-12-brides-invasion-our-advice-to-july-13-brides?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:a322ad2c-25cd-4d52-b123-096e1e4ecda5Discussion:a215cf8b-e67d-45f6-b917-c0029818bde0Post:eb941ec5-f0a4-4e87-b1ad-d93dbbe95f0e">Re:July '12 Brides Invasion: Our Advice to July '13 Brides!</a>: [QUOTE]Sorry girls! My mobile makes it hard to edit posts and they end up looking like one, large run on sentence. Posted by Getting2Vowels[/QUOTE]
Not a problem! We're all used to the bugs of TK. You'll start to notice entire threads go missing . . . this is normal :)
Ok I thought of some questions. For those of you that had a Catholic ceremony did you invite the priest to your reception word of mouth or with an invite? Did he attend your RD and or reception, say a prayer, etc? Also, did you donate any additional dollars outside of the required cost?
My other question is to everyone. Were there any unexpected costs you came across?
Hi ladies!! So glad you've come out to play! We were getting worried there for a second lol. July ladies are the best and we're more than happy to pass on this fun and helpful tradition.Congrats to you all!
1) Totally ditto PPs regarding getting things out of the way early. I knew this but half way through planning I got tired of H not helping out. He complained he just couldn't get into it seriously with the wedding being so far away, of course we were 6 months out... not that far away in wedding world. Anyway I decided to back off for a while until he could pitch in. Wasn't my best plan. I ended being sooo stressed out with billions of task left to do right up until the night before. Now he regrets not helping me out as much as he should of, but I also think partly it was my fault for not taking care of things myself knowing they could get out of hand. Never let people tell you it's too early.. because it sure won't be them doing any of your last minute tasks so don't worry about them! ;-)
2) If you have a forgetful or not very interested FI, especially if you have different tastes, get things in writing!! I'm kinda kidding and kinda not lol. H and I lost so much time arguing about things like music choices, color scheme or reception timeline... things I swore we had already agreed to while he would say he had never agreed to that in his life. Lol a little funny now but I wanted to pull my hair out then haha!
3) July is hot. Do NOT be afraid of the hoop skirt! I promise it's your friend. And they come in different sizes too. So if you're going for an A line silhouette rather than a Gone with the Wind ballgown, there are hoop skirts just for you! It was one of the best decisions I had ever made. My bridal shop attendant also gave me a crinoline to wear underneath it because I'm weird and I didn't like the way the hoop swings... but after eating I couldn't take anymore and I took off the crinoline. Soooo much better!! It keeps you really cool all night long! Definitely try it on, at least to see how you feel about it. I loved it!
4) There were some details we didn't have because we ran out of time. But as the date got closer I realized it really didn't matter at all. Details are cute and special, but don't stress yourself out trying to include all of them. It's the big picture that really matters. People are there to celebrate your marriage with you! And when it comes to the reception all they want is good food and good music to dance to. Small details are fun, special and will be noticed, but remember you don't have to kill yourself over them Let the little things go
5) All of us could tell you horror stories of all the issues, unwanted opinions, fights, letdowns etc with friends, WP, ILs, family but one important thing we had to remember is "pick your battles". Say if your ILs are paying and absolutely demand something you dislike... learn to evaluate if the fight is really worth it or not. I don't mean be either a bridezilla or a pushover... but we learned there were some things that just weren't worth fighting over if it's not that important. So know these things will happen, and it's okay. Just take it easy and work through things as best you and FI can!
6) Love your knotties! I literally have no idea what I would have done without them. They've gracefully voted on my silly shoe options billions of times and I'm so grateful for them and all their help, advice, suggestions and support. We're a pretty tight knit group now and it's great! Really enjoy this time with your FI, family, friends and knotties of course. It flies by!!
Good luck girls! Feel free to ask us any questions and even visit us on our board! ;-)
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edit: woops, getting2vowels got here before me to say this lol. but it still stands!! ok back to stalking.
my FI is being good bout ideas and stuff but bother me cause i ask him for ideas and he says i like yours and havent thought of any. i point blank asked him do you want me to plan and you just show up. his answer was no lol i was like then help.
never thought about how go bathroom but thanks for the advice ladies.
im not worried bout pple not showing up i would be disappointed.. i would also be shocked and dismayed if someone told me they cant show then just show up thats rude too. for the most part all our pple have to drive. i will be living in atl yet tybee island is 6 hr drive away and family in cali, and va. they will have to book hotel so hopefully that will keep pple from just not showing up.
questions- 1) how do i keep pple from being hurt about not being invited?
2) how do i keep emotions down when dress shopping when my mom has passsed?
3) if you dont have a dad who walked you down the aisle?
my idea for walking down aisle is to have my daughter's boyfriend. they have been together for 3 yrs will be 4 by time married. i call him my kid. good idea or not?
im in my 40s so that why my kid a lil older than most.
[QUOTE]1) how do i keep pple from being hurt about not being invited? 2) how do i keep emotions down when dress shopping when my mom has passsed? 3) if you dont have a dad who walked you down the aisle? my idea for walking down aisle is to have my daughter's boyfriend. they have been together for 3 yrs will be 4 by time married. i call him my kid. good idea or not? im in my 40s so that why my kid a lil older than most.
Posted by southerncutie[/QUOTE]
Congrats on your wedding!
1) Don't talk about the wedding with anyone who isn't invited. Don't talk about it in mixed company and do not post about it on FB.
2) Emotions are emotions - let them rip! It'll be hard, for sure, but it's all part of the process. Just think about how happy a time it is that you're getting married! My dad passed 11 years ago, and parts of the wedding process were really hard for me (like, when people kept mentioning the "Father of the Bride" doing xyz . . . ) but I just reminding myself about the point of the wedding - it's a happy time for you and your fiance and you're starting the rest of your life together!
3) My mom walked me down the aisle, but really anyone can! I like your idea, but would you be ok with walking down yourself? Or even with your daughter? Either way, it's all your choice! You can do whatever makes you happy -- it's your and your fiance's day!
xoxox
Edit: For spacing.
1) how do i keep pple from being hurt about not being invited? You can't really. Unfortunatly its going to happen. Just try not to come out and say "oh your not invited". Instead say things like "We both have a lot of family" or "Theres just not enough room for everyone we would have liked". I know I had one "friend" in a group who I did not invite and it was hard but it was the right decision and you being happy is more important than them on that day.
2) how do i keep emotions down when dress shopping when my mom has passsed? First let me say, I'm sorry about your mom. While I do have mine I will say this, its going to be emotional, theres no way around it. You can try and keep it down by just having fun with it. Also, if you feel comfortable, tell your consultant, they can help.
3) if you dont have a dad who walked you down the aisle?
my idea for walking down aisle is to have my daughter's boyfriend. they have been together for 3 yrs will be 4 by time married. i call him my kid. good idea or not? I wouldn't have the boyfriend do it. What if they break up? Then he'll be in all your pictures. There is nothing wrong with walking down alone. Or have your daughter walk with you. Nothing says it has to be a guy.
i dont care bout coming alone but always thought someone would lol. my daughter doesnt even want to be MOH she wants no responsiblity lol she said ill stand there with flowers as long as no blue or pink lol i dont even like those colors so not sure but neither does she thats where that was coming from. i told her sage green she said i dont like green either but you my mom and i love you so for you i will wear green lol
[QUOTE] questions- 1) how do i keep pple from being hurt about not being invited? 2) how do i keep emotions down when dress shopping when my mom has passsed? 3) if you dont have a dad who walked you down the aisle? my idea for walking down aisle is to have my daughter's boyfriend. they have been together for 3 yrs will be 4 by time married. i call him my kid. good idea or not? im in my 40s so that why my kid a lil older than most.
Posted by southerncutie[/QUOTE]
For Question 1 - You won't be able to. Like PP said, don't talk about the wedding with people who aren't invited and don't post a lot about it on FB. But...we still had people who weren't invited bring it up to us. One acquaintance of H's point blank asked if he was going to be invited. H, thankfully, told him we were trying to keep the wedding small, to only close family and friends. It made me feel bad, but personally, I think it's super rude to ask someone you barely know if you're going to get an invitation. We had some other poeple get a little upset that someone else they knew (who we barely knew) weren't invited. In the end, you have to invite who you and FI want there and go with it.
[QUOTE]ok i have a far diff thing. when everyone chose their dates did they take into consideration their cycle? lol my worst fear is to be leaking on my day or having to take tampons and shove in FI pocket.
Posted by southerncutie[/QUOTE]
Lol no b/c that would have been way to hard to figure out 2 years ahead of time. We were engaged for 2 years. I am on birth control so I actually was able to skip it 2 months before the wedding so when the wedding came I got it 2 weeks before the wedding so I was fine for the wedding and the honeymoon.
I never thought about this. If it happens, it happens. Maybe have an emergency kit handy?
[QUOTE]ok i have a far diff thing. when everyone chose their dates did they take into consideration their cycle? lol my worst fear is to be leaking on my day or having to take tampons and shove in FI pocket.
Posted by southerncutie[/QUOTE]
As PP mention - I'm on bc pill too, so this never even crossed my mind. You could always buy a cute clutch so you don't have to keep them in FI's pocket though.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: July '12 Brides Invasion: Our Advice to July '13 Brides! : Lol no b/c that would have been way to hard to figure out 2 years ahead of time. We were engaged for 2 years. I am on birth control so I actually was able to skip it 2 months before the wedding so when the wedding came I got it 2 weeks before the wedding so I was fine for the wedding and the honeymoon.
Posted by LADY324[/QUOTE]
Ditto!
Ooo I thought of something else!
Clean & Clear Oil Absorbing Sheets so you can de-sweatify your face without ruining your makeup. July is hot, even when it's not that hot, especially in a wedding gown!
[QUOTE]ok i have a far diff thing. when everyone chose their dates did they take into consideration their cycle? lol my worst fear is to be leaking on my day or having to take tampons and shove in FI pocket.
Posted by southerncutie[/QUOTE]
Jumping in here...congrats everyone! This year is going to go SOOOOO FAST!
This was a HUGE concern of mine, but I did not take it into consideration when picking a date. I had been off of b/c for a while, then realized about two months before that the darn thing was probably going to make an appearance. So I went back on b/c for those two months and managed to avoid it :) I did totally screw up my cycle, and it was actually quite annoying because I started about four days after our wedding (and it didn't stop for THREE WEEKS)...but I avoided it on the wedding day and that's all that mattered to me LOL
This was in someones link for the day of emergency kit and i'll be investing in these for sure. Is it bad I want to make a kit now? Lol. I keep thinking of how I can rig up a tiny fan under my dress too haha
[QUOTE]Ooo I thought of something else! Clean & Clear Oil Absorbing Sheets so you can de-sweatify your face without ruining your makeup. July is hot, even when it's not that hot, especially in a wedding gown!
Posted by bridetobe71412[/QUOTE]
I also had a photographer friend who suggested putting a layer of tissue paper (like to use when wrapping gifts) between myself and the bodice of my dress - to absorb sweat. I did this for my bridal portraits (which were taken outside in June in the 97 degree heat) in addition to baby powder and it worked really well. If you're planning on having an outdoor wedding and your dress allows it, you might consider it.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re:July '12 Brides Invasion: Our Advice to July '13 Brides!: This was in someones link for the day of emergency kit and i'll be investing in these for sure. Is it bad I want to make a kit now? Lol. <strong>I keep thinking of how I can rig up a tiny fan under my dress too haha
</strong>Posted by Getting2Vowels[/QUOTE]
If you can make this happen, 1) you're my hero, and 2) you will make a bazillion dollars off of all future brides!
[QUOTE]In Response to Re:July '12 Brides Invasion: Our Advice to July '13 Brides!: This was in someones link for the day of emergency kit and i'll be investing in these for sure. Is it bad I want to make a kit now? Lol. <strong>I keep thinking of how I can rig up a tiny fan under my dress too</strong> haha
Posted by Getting2Vowels[/QUOTE]
LOL I was thinking of this too...but my mom brought one of those tower fans to our "getting ready room" at the venue and that thing was a LIFE SAVER! After pictures out in the heat, I stood in front of it and lifted my dress up to air out lol Other people loved that we had the fan as well...I don't know what your venue is like, but if you have kind of a private room (it's where all of our WP went before our reception entrance), I highly recommend it!!! That July heat is killer!
Also, to anyone considering a petticoat under their dress, especially for an outdoor ceremony/reception, I highly recommend a hoop instead, for air flow if nothing else. My mom had purchased a petticoat with my dress, but standing in the air conditioned seamstress's house with a fan on me, I was still about to pass out, so I nixed it completely. I ended up not wanting the look of it anyway, but if you need it, try a hoop before you buy!
[QUOTE]Sorry girls! My mobile makes it hard to edit posts and they end up looking like one, large run on sentence.
Posted by Getting2Vowels[/QUOTE]
Not a problem! We're all used to the bugs of TK. You'll start to notice entire threads go missing . . . this is normal :)
1) Totally ditto PPs regarding getting things out of the way early. I knew this but half way through planning I got tired of H not helping out. He complained he just couldn't get into it seriously with the wedding being so far away, of course we were 6 months out... not that far away in wedding world. Anyway I decided to back off for a while until he could pitch in. Wasn't my best plan. I ended being sooo stressed out with billions of task left to do right up until the night before. Now he regrets not helping me out as much as he should of, but I also think partly it was my fault for not taking care of things myself knowing they could get out of hand. Never let people tell you it's too early.. because it sure won't be them doing any of your last minute tasks so don't worry about them! ;-)
2) If you have a forgetful or not very interested FI, especially if you have different tastes, get things in writing!! I'm kinda kidding and kinda not lol. H and I lost so much time arguing about things like music choices, color scheme or reception timeline... things I swore we had already agreed to while he would say he had never agreed to that in his life. Lol a little funny now but I wanted to pull my hair out then haha!
3) July is hot. Do NOT be afraid of the hoop skirt! I promise it's your friend. And they come in different sizes too. So if you're going for an A line silhouette rather than a Gone with the Wind ballgown, there are hoop skirts just for you! It was one of the best decisions I had ever made. My bridal shop attendant also gave me a crinoline to wear underneath it because I'm weird and I didn't like the way the hoop swings... but after eating I couldn't take anymore and I took off the crinoline. Soooo much better!! It keeps you really cool all night long! Definitely try it on, at least to see how you feel about it. I loved it!
4) There were some details we didn't have because we ran out of time. But as the date got closer I realized it really didn't matter at all. Details are cute and special, but don't stress yourself out trying to include all of them. It's the big picture that really matters. People are there to celebrate your marriage with you! And when it comes to the reception all they want is good food and good music to dance to. Small details are fun, special and will be noticed, but remember you don't have to kill yourself over them
5) All of us could tell you horror stories of all the issues, unwanted opinions, fights, letdowns etc with friends, WP, ILs, family but one important thing we had to remember is "pick your battles". Say if your ILs are paying and absolutely demand something you dislike... learn to evaluate if the fight is really worth it or not. I don't mean be either a bridezilla or a pushover... but we learned there were some things that just weren't worth fighting over if it's not that important. So know these things will happen, and it's okay. Just take it easy and work through things as best you and FI can!
6) Love your knotties! I literally have no idea what I would have done without them. They've gracefully voted on my silly shoe options billions of times and I'm so grateful for them and all their help, advice, suggestions and support. We're a pretty tight knit group now and it's great! Really enjoy this time with your FI, family, friends and knotties of course. It flies by!!
Good luck girls! Feel free to ask us any questions and even visit us on our board! ;-)