Head table seating

blonde5091 · July 2010

So I heard tradition says that the bride and groom with the wedding party sit together, but than I heard that you can include seperate tables for the wedding party to sit with their guest? How do you do this because I would really hate to make their dates sit alone.

Mrs.B6302007 · July 2010

sweetheart table for B&G

blonde5091 · July 2010

Well we have a huge wedding party, 8 on each side so should I just do two or three round tables out in front of us?

karenwjackm · July 2010

It is an older tradition to have the wedding party all at one table with the bride and groom. A newer, date-friendly tradition is to do a sweetheart table for just the bride and groom (you probably won't be sitting there long anyway) and have the wedding party sit with their dates at other guest tables. That is what we'll be doing, and I figure as soon as we're done eating, we'll be headed around to guest tables to greet our guests.

danieliza1127 · July 2010

We sat at one table with our parents and our wedding party sat with their spouses and kids at the tables right next to us.

quotequeen · July 2010

There are many ways to do this. You can sit at a sweetheart table, you can sit at a regular round table with immediate family, you can have a head table with immediate family, or a head table with both WP and their dates. WP can sit together at round tables, or you can spread them throughout the room so that they are sitting with other people they know (basically wherever they would have been seated if they were regular guests).

blonde5091 · July 2010

Thanks everyone, and does anyone know if the grooms vest and tie is suppose to match the groomsmen or should I put him in ivory to match my dress and the groomsmen in green to match the bridesmaids?

danieliza1127 · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_head-table-seating?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:24982a61-85b4-48ab-ab8f-96590779755bPost:ce45223c-ecc0-4dd8-a8e7-a8334137fbd9">Re: Head table seating</a>:
[QUOTE]Thanks everyone, and does anyone know if the grooms vest and tie is suppose to match the groomsmen or should I put him in ivory to match my dress and the groomsmen in green to match the bridesmaids?
Posted by blonde5091[/QUOTE]

That's also completely up to you and the groom. My H wanted to be in an ivory vest and tie so that he didn't totally match the groomsmen but there are no rules here. Whatever he wants to wear is fine.

rbtrumpet · July 2010

Table:

We are doing something a little non-traditional for either culture - I actually LOVE head tables, but my venue doesn't accomidate for it (they have a small stage - no more than 6 people - we each have 4 attendants), and two of my BMs are married.

Our "head" table will be me, FI, MOH, Best Man (neither are bringing dates) - when we leave to greet tables is when they will give the toasts, so it's not too awkward

. The rest of our party will be sitting with their SOs/dates - they will be spread out among the guests.

Vest:

FI is not wearing the same color vest as the GM - GM maroon, FI ivory, my dad silver - we liked how it all looked together (and FI wanted to wear something a little different)

LD1970 · July 2010

With our wedding...

Sweetheart table.

Wedding party with their dates spread out among the guests at various table where they'd be happy.

Groom's tie & vest: Champagne

FOB's tie & vest: Charcoal

Groomsmen's ties & vests: Dark brown

parker624 · July 2010

Our table: us, IL's and my parents
Our bridal party is split up in 2 tables, so that attendants with SOs can sit with them.

polichik · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_head-table-seating?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:24982a61-85b4-48ab-ab8f-96590779755bPost:5608e212-d5f2-4500-adbb-abbb1dc1c4bd">Head table seating</a>:
[QUOTE]So I heard tradition says that the bride and groom with the wedding party sit together, but than I heard that you can include seperate tables for the wedding party to sit with their guest? How do you do this because I would really hate to make their dates sit alone.
Posted by blonde5091[/QUOTE]

I want to give you a hug. Making wedding party dates sit alone is my single biggest wedding pet peeve. Yes, above cash bars, dollar dances, and no veggie options.

So, if you have a small wedding party, you can have the dates sit up at the head table as well, or just grab a moment alone with your new husband by having a sweetheart table and just seating your WP like regular guests with their friends.

skippylouwho · July 2010

DD is havin a long (very long )table down the middle of the room. Bridal party with spouses/dates will sit on both sides of the table. This will be removed after dinner to make room for dancing, there will be chairs and other tables the bridal party can sit at if they want to sit down during dancing , they aren't losing their seats!

Personally I do not like sweetheart tables at all but that's just my opinion, a lot of people love them and that's fine. Everyone should do what they like and what works in their venue.

polichik · July 2010

Oh, and for the vests, FI is wearing the same thing as the GM: black pants, black jacket, black bow tie, black vest, white shirt, black shoes. It's what FI wanted, so it's cool with me!

damaless · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_head-table-seating?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:24982a61-85b4-48ab-ab8f-96590779755bPost:c542ea64-a8b3-446d-af69-2d220491c8fe">Re: Head table seating</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Head table seating : I want to give you a hug. Making wedding party dates sit alone is my single biggest wedding pet peeve. Yes, above cash bars, dollar dances, and no veggie options. So, if you have a small wedding party, you can have the dates sit up at the head table as well, or just grab a moment alone with your new husband by having a sweetheart table and just seating your WP like regular guests with their friends.
Posted by polichik[/QUOTE]

Do you think it's quite as bad if the wedding party dates are sitting among friends? At my wedding there is only one loose wedding party date and he is good friends with several other guests, who I would sit him with. I was also planning on checking in with my BM to see what her feelings on this are.

Trishes · July 2010

We're doing a sweetheart table, and letting our WP sit with their dates. I had to sit without FI for a wedding a few weeks ago, and even though it was just dinner, it sucked. It was open seating other than the WP, so I ended up sitting at a table with no one I knew, and they were all super akward.

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