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Do I invite these people or not?

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I am going to send out an invitation to my aunt & uncle who live far away, and my 3 cousins (ages 16, 18 and 20) live with them.  I think each cousin has a "significant other" and I'm wondering if the SOs need to be invited?  I want to address the invitation as Mr. & Mrs. John Smith and family but I really don't want my cousins' SOs to come.  Otherwise that family will be taking up 8 spots on my guest list! 

So do the kids' SOs have to be invited?  Also, I have never met their SOs.  Hell, I haven't even seen my cousins in 5 years.  Maybe they just won't come at all. 

But, what is the proper way to address their invitation?
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  • ac_in_dcac_in_dc member
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    I don't think that 18 or 20 year-olds need to be invited with SOs unless they are engaged or married. While it's true that you want to invite folks in long-term relationships b/c they are a social unit, 18-20 year olds are young enough to be exempted from this rule IMO.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_invite-people-not?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:04da1076-c7af-43d5-a351-3887839dce40Post:ed6913d0-0b8e-49e5-965b-54f543372b12">Re: Do I invite these people or not?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I don't think that 18 or 20 year-olds need to be invited with SOs unless they are engaged or married. While it's true that you want to invite folks in long-term relationships b/c they are a social unit, 18-20 year olds are young enough to be exempted from this rule IMO.
    Posted by ac_in_dc[/QUOTE]

    <div>I agree.  I will not be inviting my cousin's bf/ gf of the week.  </div>
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  • TurtlesAllTheWayDownTurtlesAllTheWayDown member
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    I imagine the older two are still living at home (or possibly away at school and living at home during breaks) so I wouldn't necessarily expect SOs to be invited. It's not like they'll feel awkward being there with their parents rather than their SOs.

    (And yes, I know some people who are engaged still live at home. I'm assuming that's not the case, especially since OP has never met them and only thinks they all have SOs.)
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  • ldcf11206ldcf11206
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    First of all I'd like to say thanks to those of you who called out the rude people here.  I am surprised by all of the rude comments that I have seen and I just think it's really uncalled for.  How about if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all????

    Secondly, thanks for all of your opinions.  The oldest cousin is away at college, the middle one is a senior in h.s. and the youngest one I believe is a sophomore in h.s.  I've come to the conclusion that I will not invite their "SOs" and I will address the invitation to my aunt & uncle, and my three cousins. 

    Thanks girls!!!!
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