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Ring Bearer?
So, we're having a tough time with the ring bearer subject.
Traditionally, it's a little boy, right?
Well, both of our families are very female-predominate with the kiddos. There are several little girls, but not many little boys.
FI's little sister (she's 4) is the flower girl. We'd just have a female ring bearer, but on my side of the family, there are so many little girls, and I can't just pick one! They're all too cute!!! I want them at the wedding, but not necessarily "in" the wedding..
If we don't have a ringbearer, what would we do with the rings?
My FI, being his silly self, said we'd have our kitten (which is male, and very young) be the ring bearer. "We can strap the rings around his neck, and pull a string down the aisle". haha.
Adorable to think about, but not the most reliable idea, plus, in a church, cats aren't usually allowed. haha.
So, what should I do, ladies?
Traditionally, it's a little boy, right?
Well, both of our families are very female-predominate with the kiddos. There are several little girls, but not many little boys.
FI's little sister (she's 4) is the flower girl. We'd just have a female ring bearer, but on my side of the family, there are so many little girls, and I can't just pick one! They're all too cute!!! I want them at the wedding, but not necessarily "in" the wedding..
If we don't have a ringbearer, what would we do with the rings?
My FI, being his silly self, said we'd have our kitten (which is male, and very young) be the ring bearer. "We can strap the rings around his neck, and pull a string down the aisle". haha.
Adorable to think about, but not the most reliable idea, plus, in a church, cats aren't usually allowed. haha.
So, what should I do, ladies?
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Re: Ring Bearer?
A twist on that, what my H and I did was my mom (the MOH) holding my own ring and his mom (the "BM") holding his. Then, our officiant said that if I wanted to be bound to Dan, I should place my ring in his hand. Then if Dan consented to being bound to me, he should place his ring in my hand. Then I placed his ring on his hand and he placed my ring on my hand. Then we did the whole replacing the engagement ring thing.
Our guests thought it was really unique to have each of us consent to being married and handing over our own rings.
But either way would be more than fine. The cat idea is super cute but as a cat owner, I know that cats don't usually cooperate. GL! :-)
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Or you can hold FI's ring on your thumb the whole time (or ask the MOH to hold it on her thumb), and he can keep yours on his pinky/in his pocket (or the Best Man) until it's time for the exchange.
You could ask your parents to hold them and then they can come forward and present them to you for the exchange.
Or the officiant can hold them.
Our BM just held the rings. FWIW, if the child is very young, he's most likely not holding the "real" rings anyway.
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Just don't have a ring bearer. Especially not a cat.
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You'll still be married~even without a little tot traipsing down the aisle. And you might just be saved some unnecessary drama on wedding day.
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* you can have a girl as a RB.
* you can have a pet as a RB (thats what we're doing and if you don't like it you can suck it) and have it led down the aisle on a leash (not following a string).
* you can just not have a RB--as to what you do with the rings, why would you trust those very important pieces of jewelry to a toddler in the first place? the BM and MOH hold the actual rings.
what I would do in your case, is forgo the RB altogether.
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[QUOTE] * you can have a pet as a RB (thats what we're doing and if you don't like it you can suck it) and have it led down the aisle on a leash (not following a string). * .
Posted by pooh8402[/QUOTE]
<div>I'm going to respond to your oh-so-classy and mature remark there. There are several reasons why a pet is a bad idea:</div><div>
</div><div><ul><li>Pets are difficult to control, especially around large groups of people (so are children under 5, which is why I think RB and FG should be at least kindergarden age).</li><li>Some of your guests may be allergic.</li><li>You might think Fluffy is the greatest thing since sliced bread, but most guests will roll their eyes.</li><li>What will you do with the pet after the processional and during the reception? You don't want an animal running around the reception and it's unfair to ask a friend or family member to be the designated dog-watcher. I promise you that you'll be too busy to do it yourself.</li></ul><div>
</div><div>Just a few things to think about. Maybe you've thought it through and have a response to everything, but there are others out there who might not have.</div></div>
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a pet is a beloved member of the family and if i decided i wanted to, i would. some pets are well trained too. i'm pretty sure if your pet is a big part of your family, guests won't be too annoyed. and you could just have a family member or friend take the pet home.
so i don't think it's completely stupid.
[QUOTE] i'm pretty sure if your pet is a big part of your family, guests won't be too annoyed.
Posted by brimcleod[/QUOTE]
If the guest has a fear or allergy, they would be annoyed...and probably absent from your ceremony.
Yes, a pet can be a lovely member of the family but unless the pet is a trained helping animal like a seeing eye dog, it's not appropriate to involve the pet in the ceremony.
Plus, if your ceremony is inside at your reception venue, having the pet there is most likely illegal and unsanitary.
basically, you assume that we have not thought of these things months beforehand and discussed this in detail with all parties involved. FI and I are not irresponsible pet owners and we know when our dog is being annoying to other people.
to the OP, I apologize for myself and on the behalf of bablingbrooke [sic] for hijacking your thread.
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"I think bablingbrooke is the 13 yr old marring her cousin at the town hall. Lets all give her a big hand. And hope her inbred children can live normal lives." -tabs.
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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ring Bearer? : I'm going to respond to your oh-so-classy and mature remark there. There are several reasons why a pet is a bad idea: Pets are difficult to control, especially around large groups of people (so are children under 5, which is why I think RB and FG should be at least kindergarden age). Some of your guests may be allergic. You might think Fluffy is the greatest thing since sliced bread, but most guests will roll their eyes. What will you do with the pet after the processional and during the reception? You don't want an animal running around the reception and it's unfair to ask a friend or family member to be the designated dog-watcher. I promise you that you'll be too busy to do it yourself. Just a few things to think about. Maybe you've thought it through and have a response to everything, but there are others out there who might not have.
Posted by bablingbrooke[/QUOTE]
<div>AND, did you ever try to put a cat on a leash? My cat kept trying to make a run for the outdoors, so I got him a collar & tags, plus asked my vet about taking him outside on a leash & what'd be required in terms of vaccinations & such. My family doesn't do indoor/outdoor cats, so a leash was the only way to go, with a harness.</div><div>
</div><div>The result was comical, but not wedding-friendly. The cat gets terrified, lies flat, and refuses to move. I'd have to drag him like crazy to get him down an aisle. That would *not* be pretty.</div>
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All pet owners think their pet is very well behaved and well liked. But there are some PITA pets out there. They belong to somebody.
It's like everyone thinks they are a good driver.