AND it is putting a strain on the relationship. My BF is a pretty easy going guy and does not really have a problem with his sister staying over every so often. She would usually ask and I tell her yes as long as he was ok with it. It was every so often until she broke up with her long time BF and then started dating a new guy shortly after.
Her parents did not like this new guy so she was only able to see him for more than a few hours if she was at work or hanging out at BF and my place. I did not like the new guy much and at that point it was also a stress on the relation ship. She moved out of her parents and lived with her bf for about a month before his room mates kicked her out for not paying rent.
Well you can guess what happened next. After a month of see him over here almost every day I spoke with BF and told him how I felt about him always being over (at that point I was also pretty mad as I had not had sex with BF for about a month and yes I was kind sick of hearing her and her guy. But that is a separate matter that he and i are working on) We were just about to tell her that she needed to cut down on the amount of time he spent over here when she told us her hours got cut at work and would not be able to pay rent. Well BF told her she had to move back in with the parents cause she had to pay rent if she was to stay. We never had to talk to her about that boyfriend, which i am happy about cause she was a room mate so she should have that right...
Anyway they broke up shortly after that cause he was just a d bag. Well she found a new guy very shortly after that. Just by chance he lived downstairs form us with his dad. Well one night she came over to stay cause she wanted to "hang" with us but just ended up going out with him for dinner or something. At this point she was not BF/GF sort of thing with him and was just stringing the poor guy along. She did come back to our place that night to sleep and that is what we thought she would do till we woke up to find that the guy have stayed here the entire night to make sure she did not die of alcohol poisoning. SHE DRANK AN ENTIRE 700ML OF FLAVORED RUM! I guess she was still hurting about the prior guy and drank her problems away.
I was not happy to find she had not asked if she could have any of our rum and just helped herself. She thinks it is funny to this day. Well now she started dating the guy cause he was so sweet making sure she did not die. She is over here often just to use the couch and I have told BF that I am sick of her using us.
Last night was BF birthday and she asked if she was invited to the party, we said yes and that was the end of it. I told BF that I did not want her drinking and I did not think her boyfriend should not be allowed. He said that he would leave that up to her BF's dad. Anyway we went to talk and to her BF's dad and he said no just as I had said. (did I mention he is 16?) Now that we knew his age I put my foot down and said she would not be drinking over here ever again!
We we had made plans where we had a bbq at a local park then would go back to our place and have some drinks and c a movie or two. She was there when we got back and I reminded BF no drinking for her. We he said that we had talked to her BF's dad and he said no for he BF but I heard him say anything about her. I had to make a run for the drinks once we knew what everyone wanted and the BF's best girl friend came with me and I vented to her and she knew the entire story.
I got back and his sister saw i had gotten the flavored rum again and asked if she could have any and I said no. She asked why and I said because i said so. A few min later i here her saying "I promise I wont throw up" and I screamed NO! and she said "what I wont" the boyfriend had told her she could drink and I was the bad guy.
Her BF did not speak to us the entire night which I dont care. He is just 16 and really she should not be drinking anyway. Well I went to got to the bathroom and found out she had brought all her stuff to stay over night! I asked BF if she asked him and he said no. SHE HAD ASSUMED IT WAS OK! I am just so mad at both of them right now.
I am trapped in my room when she stays over cause she sleeps so late. Today she got up at 2:30 only because we finally got sick of laying in bed and went out and made food. She finally left here at 6pm. I went into the guest rest room and she left her shower stuff here, like she was returning here soon. Not only that but I spent a good thirty min cleaning that restroom to rid it of all her hair and much from when she lived with us. She left it messy today! I ended up having to clean it again.
I know she and her parents are not getting along and all, but i am sick of it. Also it is really getting to the point where I am realising some things about BF parenting style.
Ok vent over. I may just be way hungry so i am gonna just go eat.