so i just get this frantic call from fi. invitations went out tuesday and everyone got them yesterday. both of his parents are in tears because their names weren't on the invite.
when i went to pick the wording for the invitations, i specifically asked about this. my family and everyone i have ever been invited to a wedding for never puts the groom's parents. the woman said that unless both parents are splitting the cost, only the ones who are paying are the hosts. my parents are paying the whole reception. they are hosting the wedding.
well apparently fi's family doesn't see it this way. they think it is a personal slight because we are mad they are not helping to pay. seriously??? do i really have the kind of time on my hands to think of a scheme like that? they said it shouldn't be about money it should be about respect for your parents raising you. well that isn't what the invitiation lady told me!!!
and what hurts me most is instead of just assuming it was an innocent mix-up, or what the lady told us to put, or what my family always puts, they just jump the gun and say we are trying to purposely hurt them and insult them to everyone we invited. i am so hurt right now i feel like i am going to throw up. i feel awful because fi is in the middle and did nothing wrong. he feels guilty for not putting their name but he did nothing wrong.. this is so frustrating. tried talking to his mom and explaining and all she did was say insulting things about my mom! so i just emailed her (very respectfully) and told her how i feel and how the situation went down.
i don't know what else to do
