Ok, there are some edits from my OP, but basically, I had started to feel better about this a few days ago, until DH reminded me I need to call the photog to actually order stuff from him ... and now I'm upset all over again.
Anyway, I just got my proofs back last week, and I was going through them ... and I'm feeling upset with what came back. The ceremony and the formals look great ... which are the important ones, I know ... but the reception pics are kind of a let down, and I'm really having a hard time with it.
There's tons of pics of the Best Man and his FI (You know, the girl that was going to pretty much make him miss our wedding while he drove to Ohio to get her?). Then there's like 6 pics of my BSC friend and her DH. After that, there are absolutely no reception pics of any of our other friends or BP members. I mean, granted the photog couldn't know which friends I was close to and which ones not-so-much, but really? He couldn't get pics of anybody else the BP except for the Best Man? As you know, 3 of my siblings and DH's sister and nephew were all in the BP. We made it a point to explain who they were to the photog ... yet for some reason, after the reception entrances, there are no pictures of any of them.
Then there's the rest of the family. We had formals, so he knew things like who my parents were, who DH parents were and that my 91-year-old great grandmother was there ... and like the BP, after the formals, there's literally no pictures of anybody. There's 1 shot of my grandmother dancing (Not great-grandma), and a pic of my brother dancing with my mom. But aside from that, nothing. There are no pics of my parents together ... and no pics of my dad outside of the the F/D dance.
And it's not like these Best Man & his FI pics where just ones they "just so happened to be in", like they were really pics of us or other people. These are specifically pics of them.
I know there were some things that I probably could have explained better. But I don't know, I just think that he's worked long enough to know that like, maybe, he could figure out on his own that the bride wanted pictures of her parents ... in the same shot. I'd seen his other work, I didn't have any problems with it. Apparently other brides must have explained in depth to him to photograph everybody instead of just trusting his abilities.
It's not like everybody spent the night at the table either, my family pretty much camped on the dance floor. I actually spent a good portion of the night dancing with my siblings ... and for some reason, there's not a single shot of that. It never really never occured to me that I would have to explain to the professional that's done this a million times that we would want pictures of our families and not just the best man (Who, not to be a jerk, but he's not family) and his awful prom-dress wearing, hippie love-in dancing FI. I didn't think I had to say "See the girl in the prom gown? We hate her. So 1 or 2 pics is fine for the Best Man, but otherwise, I don't want that monstrocity in my album".
I know I said when I first came back her behavior at the wedding was easily ignored, and therefore it didn't bother me ... now that pretty much all of my reception pics are of nothing but her awful behavior, I'm pretty damn bothered by it. Which may be childish on my end ... but really, I didn't care up until I found out that she's pretty much my only option for reception pics in my wedding album.
Anyway, I'm really just bummed by this ... and I really want to blame myself ... but at the same time, I'm still not sure how this could all be my fault. We wanted to do parent albums as gifts (Not entirely unheard of) ... and we really don't have the pictures to do it. We could make a very "lovely" album for the Best Man, however.
I know need to stop being a baby about it, it's not like I can do anything about it now. I actually was a little "over it" until this morning when DH said we had to call him to order stuff. I already know that when I call, he's going to ask "what I think" ... and while I don't want to lie about it, I know that I'm not really good at expressing when I'm upset calmly and rationally ... I usually end up crying or yelling-and I hate being "that person".
Anyway, just whining. Feel free to tell me I need to grown the eff up, cuz I know it's true, lol.
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A friend of mine told me that during dinner the FI (Who she never met before) spent like a half hour telling my friend that she's "extremely photogenic" and that her friends "constantly beg her to pose for them" ... so my mom's wondering if she just kept stalking the photog all night.
I feel like such a brat, because I know I'm pretty much like stamping my foot saying "Waaaah, she ruined my wedding album".
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Em, you're right ... I don't think she told him to take pics of her ... I really think she just followed him around all night and just got in the way (Which, joke's on her if that was her plan, she looks horrible in most of them).
At first my mom was trying to say "Oh, it's only because she's in such a bright dress, your eye is just drawn to her" ... then she went through all of them and was like "Oh ... there really isn't a picture of me and your dad".
Even if she made it a point to do that, it's really no excuse for the photog, because he should has just not taken the shots of her and made it a point to go find the people he was missing.
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If you fire a WP member, you're against America.
"Meg cracks me up on the regular. Now she gets to do it in two different forums. Yay!!" ~mkrupar
This is not one of my proofs (Another friend took this), but this is essentially what all of my reception pics look like.
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Did you guys get a videographer? If they got any shots of the reception, maybe they could get you some stills...
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Sometimes I feel like people think that brides are delicate little flower princesses who get all dressed up and pretty for one special moment of their dreams, when really they're just normal people who just happen to be getting married. Things shouldn't have to be sugar-coated for grown-ass women. -mstar284
I'm just dreading calling this guy ... I know that I'm going to ask if there were pics he didn't send ... and he's going to wonder why I want to know that ... and then I'm going to wind up outright asking if he actually looked at what he sent me and why I have a million pics that look like the one I just posted and yet not a single picture of my parents dancing or me with my siblings outside of the formals.
I know it's totally wrong, but I wish my mom would call the guy instead. Not because I "need my mommy to fight my battles", but because my mom has a way of talking the way I write, she's not a b!tch and could actually handle it without missing a beat ... I've tried writing out my side of the conversation for other things in the past, but when it comes to things that bother me this much, I rarely "stick to the script".
Ok, I guess that means I need my mommy to fight my battles, lol.
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So, ask your photographer if the proofs that you have are ALL of the pictures he took or just selected ones. If he has more, ask him to send you all of the pictures, even if he doesn't consider them to be good. Having a picture of great-grandma with her eyes closed may be better than no pictures at all.
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