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Invitation wording - father of the groom is deceased
in New Jersey
Hello everyone -
Sadly, FI's father passed away a few years ago. I was wondering what our invite should say -we are rather traditional, with the ceremony takign place in my family's church.
So:
Mr. and Mrs. Bob Smith request the honor of your presence (I'm just writing this off the top of my head - I would check for proper wording upon printing) blah blah blah -
my first and middle name
As for FI's name:
Mr. John Jay Doe
or just John Jay? (He's 33, if that makes a difference)
Below his name:
Do I include "son of" information? Son of both of his parents names? Or just his mother's name?
Thank you so much - I'm just not sure what to do for wording and appreciate the help.
Sadly, FI's father passed away a few years ago. I was wondering what our invite should say -we are rather traditional, with the ceremony takign place in my family's church.
So:
Mr. and Mrs. Bob Smith request the honor of your presence (I'm just writing this off the top of my head - I would check for proper wording upon printing) blah blah blah -
my first and middle name
As for FI's name:
Mr. John Jay Doe
or just John Jay? (He's 33, if that makes a difference)
Below his name:
Do I include "son of" information? Son of both of his parents names? Or just his mother's name?
Thank you so much - I'm just not sure what to do for wording and appreciate the help.
293 (Adults) Invited
198 Yes (+ 12 children and 3 babies)
95 No
0 UnknownThis discussion has been closed.
Re: Invitation wording - father of the groom is deceased
[QUOTE]Hello everyone - Sadly, FI's father passed away a few years ago. I was wondering what our invite should say -we are rather traditional, with the ceremony takign place in my family's church. So: Mr. and Mrs. Bob Smith request the honor of your presence (I'm just writing this off the top of my head - I would check for proper wording upon printing) blah blah blah - my first and middle name As for FI's name: Mr. John Jay Doe or just John Jay? (He's 33, if that makes a difference) Below his name: Do I include "son of" information? Son of both of his parents names? Or just his mother's name? Thank you so much - I'm just not sure what to do for wording and appreciate the help.
Posted by SewInLoveWithDMB[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>It's not appropriate to put the name of a deceased person on a wedding invitation. It would be more suitable to mention his name in the program. If you need further invite help, post over on the Invites & Paper board. There's a few regulars that would be able to give you great advice and help on wording if you need it.</div><div>
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[QUOTE]In Response to Invitation wording - father of the groom is deceased : It's not appropriate to put the name of a deceased person on a wedding invitation. It would be more suitable to mention his name in the program. If you need further invite help, post over on the Invites & Paper board. There's a few regulars that would be able to give you great advice and help on wording if you need it.
Posted by JoanE2012[/QUOTE]
I had heard this and agree with the program mention - but I didn't know if that was for "hosting" (as in the top of the invitation/bride's parents) or for being listed as the "son of" the two people - cause he still is their son, ya know?
Thanks for the help - any other ideas, please reply. I just want to make sure I do the correct thing without offending anyone.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Invitation wording - father of the groom is deceased : I had heard this and agree with the program mention - but I didn't know if that was for "hosting" (as in the top of the invitation/bride's parents) or for being listed as the "son of" the two people - cause he still is their son, ya know? Thanks for the help - any other ideas, please reply. I just want to make sure I do the correct thing without offending anyone.
Posted by SewInLoveWithDMB[/QUOTE]
Although etiquette wise a deceased person should not be mentioned on a invite I've seen it done many times. It's one of those victimless crimes, like labels on an envelope. IMO if it makes you and FI happy then you should do it.
No one follows the etiquette books exactly anymore so you have to do what you want and not worry about what someone says was right and wrong a 100 years ago.
I worded my invitation
My mom first such as Mrs. ____ _____ and the beloved ____my father's name.