Do you get along with your future in laws?

BrittneyRN · February 2012

I see a lot of horror stories on here and I'm just curious. My situation is a little different. My mom worked with FI's mom and my dad worked with FI's dad and my parents actually are the ones that set them up. They drifted apart, but then FI's dad died and his mom went back to work with my mom. FI and I coincidentally ended up working at the same place and that's how we really met. My mom and his mom are now best friends and hang out at least 1-2 times a week and they talk on the phone every night. It's really nice that my family is so close to his. So what about you all? Any horror stories and stories of wonderful FMIL?

aimee58 · February 2012

I get along really well with my future in-laws and FI gets along with my parents. My mom loves him b/c she never had a son, so this is her first time with one.

I do love my FMIL and FFIL, as they do anything for us and really just want to make us happy. FMIL is just a little too eager with wedding planning. Most of the family has told her to back off and let us do what we will. She's starting to get it and relax a bit. I feel like after the wedding, I will ilke her much much more.

kd1986 · February 2012

I LOVE my future in laws. I can't possibly think of a better family to marry into. They're amazing!

CFM102012 · February 2012

I don't think I'm going to have a "She's like a second mother" relationship with my FMIL. My family is very open about how we care for each other. I know she loves FI and FSIL but she shows it in ways I'm not used to. There have been times I didn't even know if she liked me but FI assures me she does. I do know she didn't like FSIL's exbf and how she treated him so I do have that to go off of.

I really liked FI's dad before he passed and I'm very glad I got to know him.

trawas01 · February 2012

We get along. Future FIL is abrasive at times, and so am I, so that occasionally causes friction. FMIL is very passive and reserved, which makes me wonder how she lives with FIL but otherwise, we're friendly. But I've known them a long time, watched Fi's little brother grow up, was in his sister's wedding, I love them. Like any family (mine included) there are ups and downs.

pockysquirrel · February 2012

I love FI's family. They are sweet, funny, DRAMA-FREE people and I feel so blessed to have them as my FILs. I especially love his sister - she's my bridesmaid not out of any sense of obligation, but because we became friends instantly and probably would have even if I wasn't in a relationship with her brother. FI gets along famously with my family, and so far the families seem to get along with each other too. (I say 'so far' because my parents are divorced and they've only met mom's side...and my dad's side can be pretty uptight and difficult to get along with, so we'll see how that goes.) I brought both my mom and FMIL dress-shopping, and boy, do they make a dangerous combination! It was hilarious to see them running all over the DB together like kids in a candy store, and demanding I try on dresses with 'more bling'.

achiduck · February 2012

I love my FMIL and FFIL but my FSMIL (Fi's parents divorced when he was about 13) is a bit of a biitch. She's nice to your face but makes your life difficult.

We bought a dresser when we bought all our furniture, but to save some money we purchased the floor model. We asked to use their van to pick it up since it wouldn't fit in either of our cars but she said no because the dresser would probably damage the van. Seriously? It's a dresser not a live tiger. Long story short we ended up having to pay the moving company we used an extra hour to pick up the dresser.

lepoissonrouge · February 2012

Achiduck - that sounds EXACTLY like something my FSMIL would do to us. She is so frustrating. I am not a fan of her at all. We get along ok but as much as possible I just really try and stay away from FSMIL and FFIL. I do not at all feel comfortable or welcome in their home. FSFIL and FMIL however are wonderful and I love them a lot. FIs mother is excited to be getting another daughter. My parents love FI and they get along great. The families get along ok, but my mom is more of a fan of FI's real mom and stepdad than she is with the other set of parents. And I tend to agree

jnpfautz · February 2012

I absolutely love my FMIL and FFIL. My FSIL is a BM and we get along very well too!! I feel very lucky to have his family as my in laws. My FI gets along very well with my family - they love him!

reagane02 · February 2012

My future inlaws are AMAZING! Not only are they helping us pay for the wedding, but they've helped me and my FI out in more ways than one. His mom let me move in with them when my dad kicked me out. Then when we moved to San Antonio his dad let us use his washer and dryer for the 1st 2 years, so we didn't have to go to the laundry mat and spend that money. Also a bunch of other small stuff.

Of course there are times that they do or say things that I disagree with or that annoy me, but my own parents do this so I can't really hold it against them. All in all I'm very lucky.

mrshall1027 · February 2012

I really like my FMIL a lot! She's awesome and so nice and I can tell that she is happy for the two of us. She hated his ex-wife so it's nice to know that she likes me. FSIL and FBIL are both awesome too and so comfortable to be around.

My parents love FI! They get along so well and my whole family has welcomed him like he's been there all along. My parents also love his two girls are accepting them as their grandchildren. They've watched them overnight a few times and the kids love them!

We are very lucky to have the acceptance and love of our families.

achiduck · February 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2012-weddings_do-you-get-along-with-your-future-in-laws?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:56b9bcef-1e34-456e-81f5-cfaa107456b2Discussion:0673fb4d-b211-444a-9060-2eb3b672ea1ePost:d1109ad8-ce33-4d72-989b-8024c1912c17">Re: Do you get along with your future in laws?</a>:
[QUOTE]I absolutely love my FMIL and FFIL. My FSIL is a BM and we get along very well too!! I feel very lucky to have his family as my in laws. My FI gets along very well with my family - they love him!
Posted by jnpfautz[/QUOTE]

I've asked FSIL to be a BM as well. We had so much fun dress shopping together on the weekend.

ReyesToy · February 2012

I love my future in-laws! Sometimes more than my own family. :P I think they feel the same about me especially when my FMIL said "You're like the daughter I always wanted" even though she has a daughter...haha but she just says that lightly, she loves her daughter!

mbuckley85 · February 2012

Hmm...

FMIL is very nice and FFIL is okay too. His dad kind of has a strange sense of humor, and sometimes it grates on my nerves. His mother has been kind of pushy for things to go HER way with the wedding (in a very passive way, if that makes sense). It frustrates me because she already did two weddings (FI is the youngest of three and the only son, and his sisters are married). She's kind of stepped on my mother's toes because I'm the oldest of three and the first to get married...obviously my mother wants to be very involved.

I can't imagine ever being very close to them...they aren't like my parents. My cousin's FI calls her parents Mom and Dad and I can't imagine calling my FI's parents that! They AREN'T my mom and dad!!

PetalPockets2012 · February 2012

I really like my FILs. My FSIL is a BM and she and my FMIL were with me when I picked out my dress. They are really nice, easygoing people whereas my family is a little more uptight and not as calm. It's a nice change. I am just amazed at how much time they can all spend together and still like each other, haha.

PS. Brittney - I just noticed your siggy picture. Not sure if it is new but I love it. You guys look so cute and so happy.

poison+kisses · February 2012

I think I get along with them ok, I don't see them often though. FI's father is fluent in English so I appreciate that he'll make an effort to talk to me, I just get frustrated talking with him because all he wants to talk about is himself and how great he is. Ever since I first met him he's been really nice and seems to like me, buuut it turns out when we started dating he had talks with FI about how he shouldn't date me because I'm English. He doesn't act any different now than when FI and I first started dating so I don't know if he actually likes me now, or if he still disapproves...

FI's mother doesn't speak any English, I try to talk to her but my French isn't good enough for much of a conversation. I don't think she likes me, I get a negative vibe from her. She complains to FI that I'm not friendly because I don't talk to his family much and I should try to make an effort. I'm sorry, but when I'm at a dinner table with 8 people all speaking a mile a minute, at the same time, in a language I barely understand, I'm not going to contribute much to the conversation because I can't even figure out what the conversation is about. I have been trying to learn French, FI isn't much of a teacher so I even signed up for classes, but looks like that isn't good enough and isn't considered making an effort. I guess I'm supposed to instantly become fluent? When I'm able to follow the context, I try to contribute, but when it's a group of people talking I just cannot keep up.

Yeah, now that I really think about it, it'll probably be a rocky relationship. And that turned into a little vent. His parents stress me out.

fishinflagrl · February 2012

My FFIL had a stroke a few months before FI and I met, so there is no real relationship there. My FMIL just passed away...when FI and I met I loved her and I thought we got along great. She told me I was the best girlfriend he ever had and cant wait for us to get married and have kids one day. Well, as soon as FI and I moved out together things got worse. To the point where both FI and I stopped talking to her, I didnt talk to her for over 4 years and FI had recently started talking to her before she passed. Thank God it was getting better with the two of them b/c he feels so guilty. I do too for not being the bigger person, but A LOT happened.

My parents and FI didnt really hit it off in the beginning, but after going to events together my parents fell in love with him. He has always liked my parents.

BrittneyRN · February 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2012-weddings_do-you-get-along-with-your-future-in-laws?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:56b9bcef-1e34-456e-81f5-cfaa107456b2Discussion:0673fb4d-b211-444a-9060-2eb3b672ea1ePost:0460bcfd-995b-44df-b97b-726cf3c43edd">Re: Do you get along with your future in laws?</a>:
[QUOTE]PS. Brittney - I just noticed your siggy picture. Not sure if it is new but I love it. You guys look so cute and so happy.
Posted by PetalPockets2012[/QUOTE]

Thank you! I never noticed how much I liked the picture until FI wanted me to use it for our STDs. I realized that I don't really know what a lot of the girls on here look like so I put it up, so people can see who they're talking to.

aimeek420 · February 2012

I'm very happy to be marrying into FI's family! I'm an only child and he has five siblings, so it was a big adjustment at first! I love FMIL, she's a very caring, open, kind person. I lost my own mom when I was in high school and my grandma a few years after, and FMIL is filling a void that my step-mother never will. FFIL is brilliant and somewhat reserved, but always good for a smile and hug. I get along well with all of FI's siblings, some better than others, but in general they're a great family. It's nice to have them near us, as my dad and grandpa live a little over an hour away, so I don't see them as often.

magpie87 · February 2012

I like my FILs, but FFIL doesn't really talk to me much (he talks more to the guys or FMIL/FSIL). Every once in a while he'll talk directly to me and it sort of takes me by surprise, haha. FMIL can sometimes get on my nerves, as well as FSIL, but I tend to just stay away for a bit when they start to bother me and then I'm good (plus it keeps me from saying something that I'll regret ;p).

FI gets along really well with my family, though there are times that they irritate him, too. And our families (or at least the moms) get along well, too.

ivedonethisb4 · February 2012

FI's family is like my family to me. They always have been! I talk on the phone to his mom almsot everyday. I didn't today because I went in early at work and missed her call. FFIL is very quiet. Sometimes it makes me think he doesn't like me but its just that he isn't a really affectionate person like how my Dad was. FSIL is like a little sister to me...and she already calls me Aunt Krystle when she's referring to me with her 6 week old. So I love that. FI doesn't like to go around my Mom much anymore because she and I get into it a lot we clash and he doesn't like to be around it. So I have to beg him to go visit my mom and stepdads. He doesn't dislike them he just doesn't wanna be around an explosion and that use to happen all the time but my Mom's really sick now and it doesn't ever happen. She's all I have left.

lenergyrlah · February 2012

Fi's parents are amazing and they treat me like I'm their daughter. However my parents are horrible and neither FI nor I will ever have a good relationship with them.

Creyo · February 2012

Our situation is odd. Fi is from Floridia and moved here to teach. I've lived here my whole life. I've met his mom for a week and met his sister once and brother once. His mom and I text a few times a week, but I don't feel like I know her that well. (prob. bc i don't. lol) I'd love to get to know her more and have her involved in the wedding process. It's just hard since she is on the other side of the US. I've never met one of his sisters and one of his brothers at all.

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