I am having a lot of family issues with my wedding, which is in April. My mother hasn't shown much interest in the wedding. Didn't respond when I asked her to go pick out my dress with me, which my stepmother ended up going and paying for, never called to even congratulate us on our engagement, etc. We didn't have the best of relationship before the planning began, and my step mother was more than happy to step up and help out. Well, now she feels as if I "left her out". She is trying to start something with the rest of my family, making them think she actually offered help. How do I handle this? She is also mad because my stepdad isn't involved in the wedding.. I grew up with him around, but we never had the best relationship.
Next- My dad is telling me who I can and cannot invite. He and my step mom are paying for the reception venue and food, but my fiance and I are paying for everything else ourselves. He specifically did not want me to invite his last wife, my step mom, who I was not sure if I was going to invite anyways, so I was ok with that. Now, he doesn't want me to invite my cousin, her fiance, and my aunt. He says there is too much bad blood there (long story short, when my dad's mom died, my cousin was left with everything). My cousin and I have had our issues, but we are close now and I would want him there. My cousin and my dad happened to run into each other (they havent spoken for over 7 years) and got to talking about my wedding. My Dad is now furious that I invited them and is threatening now not to come or pay. I really want my dad there. What should I do?
This family drama is maiking me want to call the whole thing off and elope! It really shouldn't be this hard, right??