VENT* MOH schedule conflicts :( Need advice

Re: VENT* MOH schedule conflicts :( Need advice

• Meg1036

  

  May 2011 edited December 2011

  I understand that you're disappointed, since you wanted to go dress shopping with your MOH.
  
  She actually does sound really busy to me.  I think you should go without her.  The only person who went dress shopping with me was my mom, and honestly, I almost didn't take her.
  
  So calm down, and go get that dress at $350 off, and then post pictures for us!
  

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• sammichele

  

  May 2011 edited December 2011

  Sounds like you both are pretty busy to me too.  If she's available on the same day that your daughter has a birthday party, can you go while she is there?  Or before/after the party?  I don't know all the details of course but I would assume the birthday party isn't an all-day event.

  
  

  I'm sorry you're frustrated & I hope you will find a way to work it out!

  
  

  ETA: To OP - I'm not sure if you know how to get around the "operation aborted" at the bottom to respond.  You just need to quote someone's response and then you'll be able to backspace what you quoted and type in your own

  

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• zulamay

  

  May 2011 edited December 2011

  I don't have kids, so maybe I don't understand, but is there any way you could have a sitter take your daughter to the bday party?  Or is this something parents are supposed to attend as well?

  
  

  
  

  

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• songbrd410

  

  May 2011 edited December 2011

  I was gonna say the same thing as previous posts...you both sound really busy.  I know trying to coordinate dates can be stressful, though.  Is there anyone else you can go with? Does it have to be your MOH?  My MOH came with me for the first round of dresses.  The second round was just my mom and dad.
  

  
  
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• matuofm member

  

  May 2011 edited December 2011

  I'll be the first to admit that I don't have a bridal party, so maybe I just don't get this.  But...I don't understand why it's so necessary that your MOH goes with you.  You said that this is the dress you want, so it doesn't sound like you should be too desperate for an opinion.  And even if you were, why does it need to be HER?    You actually said something in the OP about not wanting to miss out on this deal.  But why would that ever be a possibility?  I would never refuse to buy my dream dress because my friend couldn't go to the salon with me to try it on.  And from the tone of your post, it seems like you'd be (at least secretly) blaming her for missing out on this great deal after refusing to go without her.
  
  My guess here is that she's your best friend, and you're bummed that this is something that it doesn't seem that you're going to get to share with her.  You're stressed with wedding planning, and I get that.  We all get a little uptight at times.  But, IMO, although you have every right to be bummed, you're being a little unfair about this.
  
  You said flat out that your MOH isn't trying to accommodate you here.  But from the way that you told the story, it seems like the other way around. She's pregnant, house-hunting, and celebrating both her father's and her child's birthdays.  I'm sure that you're important to her, but in this small window of time, maybe she doesn't want to give up the only two spare hours of free time that she has to watch you try on dresses.  Maybe she's just like the chance to sit down for a minute or two.  Maybe she'd really appreciate it if you asked if you could give her a hand with one of her responsibilities.  She's clearly important to you, so I'm sure you'd like to help if you could, and it might give you a chance to do something together.
  
  I say - go get your dream dress, and congratulations on the awesome deal!  Later, you can take it over to her place and try it on for her.  I'm sure she'll love it too, and I'm sure she'll appreciate your understanding that this is a crazy and exhausting time in her life.
  

  

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• emarston1 member

  

  May 2011 edited December 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_michigan-detroit_vent-moh-schedule-conflicts-need-advice?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:88Discussion:e1b5da8c-dcf6-49c8-ba79-64a5437963edPost:8ca726cf-7693-49ca-949e-fc49734a65da">Re: VENT* MOH schedule conflicts :( Need advice</a>:
  [QUOTE]I'll be the first to admit that I don't have a bridal party, so maybe I just don't get this.  But...I don't understand why it's so necessary that your MOH goes with you.  You said that this is the dress you want, so it doesn't sound like you should be too desperate for an opinion.  And even if you were, why does it need to be HER?    You actually said something in the OP about not wanting to miss out on this deal.  But why would that ever be a possibility?  I would never refuse to buy my dream dress because my friend couldn't go to the salon with me to try it on.  And from the tone of your post, it seems like you'd be (at least secretly) blaming her for missing out on this great deal after refusing to go without her. My guess here is that she's your best friend, and you're bummed that this is something that it doesn't seem that you're going to get to share with her.  You're stressed with wedding planning, and I get that.  We all get a little uptight at times.  But, IMO, although you have every right to be bummed, you're being a little unfair about this. You said flat out that your MOH isn't trying to accommodate you here.  But from the way that you told the story, it seems like the other way around. She's pregnant, house-hunting, and celebrating both her father's and her child's birthdays.  I'm sure that you're important to her, but in this small window of time, maybe she doesn't want to give up the only two spare hours of free time that she has to watch you try on dresses.  Maybe she's just like the chance to sit down for a minute or two.  Maybe she'd really appreciate it if you asked if you could give her a hand with one of her responsibilities.  She's clearly important to you, so I'm sure you'd like to help if you could, and it might give you a chance to do something together. I say - go get your dream dress, and congratulations on the awesome deal!  Later, you can take it over to her place and try it on for her.  I'm sure she'll love it too, and I'm sure she'll appreciate your understanding that this is a crazy and exhausting time in her life.
  Posted by matuofm[/QUOTE]
  This.  She said it a lot more nicely and eloquently than I would have.  She's pregnant and in the process of buying a house and has significant family responsibilities.  Go buy the dress on your own.

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• mrsbunyip

  

  May 2011 edited December 2011

  Get the dress on your own. It sounds like you're going to buy it with or without her.  If you absolutely need someone there, take a BM, parent, cousin, whatever.  Go right now before it's gone, lol.  

  
  

  ETA: Doesn't look like you guys have anything scheduled for this Saturday the 7th???

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• klreese0213 member

  

  May 2011 edited December 2011

  IMO, i think your being overly sensitive about this. Yes, of course we'd all love to be surrounded by the people we love when we buy our dress, however that's just not always possible.
  Is it possible for your FI to take your daughter to the birthday party?
  and to be honest, sure your friend seems to exagerate a little with time BUT i'm newly pregnant and to plan more then one event in a day is HORRIBLE. i'm SO tired, SO sick, i can hardly even come on the computer without being dizzy and wanting to take a nap. You also mentioned her being unreasonable with not planning during the week of her daughters party. Sure that seems odd but depending on the size of the party, this could not really be that far fetched.
  Could your mom, FMIL, sisters, SIL's, etc or anyone similiar to go with you. it doesn't HAVE to be her. think outside the box.
  Don't miss the sale over her being busy.  

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